Class of March 2013 Part 44
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((((((Ken))))))
You are a good man. Very smart to call a lawyer to find out what you need to do. It's bound to be very murky without one. When my mom died, there were all kinds of calls from real creditors and scammers as well. Best o get advice to suss it out.
Like toots said, you will handle it like you handle everything else, with quiet dignity.
Thank god for sobriety and having your clear mind to work through this.
You are a good man. Very smart to call a lawyer to find out what you need to do. It's bound to be very murky without one. When my mom died, there were all kinds of calls from real creditors and scammers as well. Best o get advice to suss it out.
Like toots said, you will handle it like you handle everything else, with quiet dignity.
Thank god for sobriety and having your clear mind to work through this.
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Hey Ken – very sorry to hear the news. I can only imagine the complicated feelings you must be experiencing. Suicide is heartbreaking.
Babs, gratified to hear that AA is working well for you.
Toots, I have gone the tap water route too when the hosts could not conceive of someone not wanting wine, beer, hard cider, or a cocktail. Tempted to bring my own bottle of seltzer water with me when I go to these events. Congrats on 1,000 days!
Trachy, like your new icon – great artwork.
WeHav, good luck on the housing front.
Marcher, I wish I had your various skills and talents – homemade gifts are always the best.
We will be heading to Philly with the dogs for Christmas, so a nice road trip soon.
Looking forward to March 1, 2016 when I get to say I have 3 years of sobriety.
Big love to Sassy, Dee, Duff, Gilmer, DD, and all the Marchers!
Babs, gratified to hear that AA is working well for you.
Toots, I have gone the tap water route too when the hosts could not conceive of someone not wanting wine, beer, hard cider, or a cocktail. Tempted to bring my own bottle of seltzer water with me when I go to these events. Congrats on 1,000 days!
Trachy, like your new icon – great artwork.
WeHav, good luck on the housing front.
Marcher, I wish I had your various skills and talents – homemade gifts are always the best.
We will be heading to Philly with the dogs for Christmas, so a nice road trip soon.
Looking forward to March 1, 2016 when I get to say I have 3 years of sobriety.
Big love to Sassy, Dee, Duff, Gilmer, DD, and all the Marchers!
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Sooooo, what started out as my annual fall need to post and read more sr in light of my "fall issues 
," has become a little goal. I think it's pretty realistic to achieve. I'd like to reach 3000 posts by my third soberversary in just about two months.
My rules are this: no posting nonsense. Well, outside my usual well intended nonsense
," has become a little goal. I think it's pretty realistic to achieve. I'd like to reach 3000 posts by my third soberversary in just about two months. My rules are this: no posting nonsense. Well, outside my usual well intended nonsense
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Trachy, you'll only be about 65 miles from rogersville, but I'm heading to Utah on Sunday, and won't be home until Xmas day.
As soon as I get back from Utah I may have to go to Illinois and deal with the Sherri situation. Her sisters are already fighting over what to do.
I put away the emotional side of her death today and now its time for the logical side to step up.
I heard from Donna that Sherri had a will and her sister Laura won't let her see it.
Donna and Sherri's daughter Alyssa went to the local police station to try to get some help\information, the police told them that as of right now any info can only be released to the next of kin, which is me, because we're still legally married.
My logical self is thinking, I've not been part of her life for nearly a decade, that's longer than the time we were together.
If she has a legal will, I think it should be followed, if she wanted to leave everything to her fiancee, fine. If she wanted to leave it to her children, fine.
If I'm legally entitled to anything, I don't want it and will forfeit it back to her estate.
I also don't think she has anything of value in her name alone, so anything she might have had is already moved to her fiancee.
Any debts she has, should come from her estate first,
I don't think her sisters have talked about what Sherri wanted, I think I need to remind them to take that into consideration before all else.
Sherri was an adult and entitled to make her own decisions, and no matter what any of us think about her decisions, we should honor them.
As soon as I get back from Utah I may have to go to Illinois and deal with the Sherri situation. Her sisters are already fighting over what to do.
I put away the emotional side of her death today and now its time for the logical side to step up.
I heard from Donna that Sherri had a will and her sister Laura won't let her see it.
Donna and Sherri's daughter Alyssa went to the local police station to try to get some help\information, the police told them that as of right now any info can only be released to the next of kin, which is me, because we're still legally married.
My logical self is thinking, I've not been part of her life for nearly a decade, that's longer than the time we were together.
If she has a legal will, I think it should be followed, if she wanted to leave everything to her fiancee, fine. If she wanted to leave it to her children, fine.
If I'm legally entitled to anything, I don't want it and will forfeit it back to her estate.
I also don't think she has anything of value in her name alone, so anything she might have had is already moved to her fiancee.
Any debts she has, should come from her estate first,
I don't think her sisters have talked about what Sherri wanted, I think I need to remind them to take that into consideration before all else.
Sherri was an adult and entitled to make her own decisions, and no matter what any of us think about her decisions, we should honor them.
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Also the coroner's office hasn't made a ruling yet whether it was a suicide, accidental od or a bad reaction, all they are saying is cardiac arrest. My gut is saying it was a bad decision caused by her addictions. I think she just forgot she took some meds after drinking and just took more thinking she hadn't taken them yet. Nobody will truly ever know.
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Thinking about her death today also got me thinking about my own situation.
If my brother doesn't survive his brain cancer,I'll be the last of my family, what do I do about the end of my life? I don't really have any close friends, do I leave anything I may have to a charity? Do I just pick a name out of thin air and leave that person a surprise?
Too much to give serious thought to tonight. I'll hold off for a bit. Maybe it'll be a good way to make the plane rides go by.
If my brother doesn't survive his brain cancer,I'll be the last of my family, what do I do about the end of my life? I don't really have any close friends, do I leave anything I may have to a charity? Do I just pick a name out of thin air and leave that person a surprise?
Too much to give serious thought to tonight. I'll hold off for a bit. Maybe it'll be a good way to make the plane rides go by.
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