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Old 09-29-2015, 09:12 AM
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Originally Posted by Pomeranian View Post
Good morning, Classmates! I am glad to see the posts I have read on this thread are chipper and happy. I am happy, too. Well, except for gastritis issues. Man....I must have one sensitive stomach as my life revolves around taking pills to heal it and planning bland nutritious meals.
I have gastritis issues as well. I've had to take a lot if medication over the last couple of years for it. They now believe I have an ulcer from it. Bland meals and medication are no fun!
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:28 AM
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Welcome lealea, jyran19982, and hogfish!!
I'm having a pretty good day today after having a horrible weekend. Last night I actually did things to be good to myself and it helped. Funny how alcoholism makes you forget how nice it can be to have small niceties
I am worried about Thursday though, it's my biggest temptation day, but I'm making a plan. Thanks all!
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:31 AM
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Morning all!

Great to see so many new faces joining this class. Join up! Stay vigilant!

Doing well myself. Glad to wake up with a clear head. I keep telling myself when it gets tough to remember that great feeling in the morning. Hold on to that.

Have a great day all
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:40 AM
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Originally Posted by KeyofC View Post
Frick, I had to learn the same thing. I had to make myself pause before I acted or reacted. I am so impulsive that it's hard for me to do, but since I've learned to utilize this it has helped me a great deal! Just engaging from the hip was the old way I used to deal with things when I was the addict. Learning a new way I am learning this is so much better and gives me so much more peace. And yes, a lot of it I can just ignore.
Thanks Key. When I was sober for a couple of years I really had some of this behavior more programmed....it takes practice and constant mindfulness. I'm sure it will take years for this to become second nature. I know this now. I have to always question my thinking. What do they say? My best thinking got me into addictive behavior....

I read an article that outlined an experiment with addicts and non addicts. Long story short, after showing the addicted people different facial images (expressionless faces, angry faces...different emotions) the addicts very frequently misinterpreted the images, far more than the non addicted group. I thought that was interesting. I think for me I take pretty much everything personally. I don't mean to of course, but I essentially do. Pretty distorted (and self centered) lense to view the world through....
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:45 AM
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I'm just on day 2, I saw a post about this group. Is there an official way to join it, or do I just search it? Sorry new to website and learning how to navigate...
You just joined. Welcome!
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:49 AM
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Same here Frick...same here..its really sinking in that it is just unlearning how I used to live and learning how to really live differently. I take everything personal. I am always cautious about that too and have to tell myself "everything ain't always about you!"
Agreed Indeed my friend! ((Hug))!
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:52 AM
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Frick & Key, I too have struggled with acting before stopping and analyzing first. Most things aren't even worth addressing, and being the emotional person that I am, things always seemed to be bigger than they really are. Being able to step back and breathe first helps tremendously. I still have knee-jerk reactions, but I recognize them, which is the beginning of change. Sobriety has so many positive residual effects that I have completely forgotten about. So glad I didn't give in to my acute craving last night and can feel like my three weeks haven't been a waste. Namaste all!
Hi Cali
I think this emotional impulse control (or lack there of) is a very common theme for addicts and a huge 'reason' for relapse. I tend to take everything personally, I become a victim very easily. This makes anger my go to reaction. Not very helpful in recovery. For example, I went to a chiropractor last week. $150 bucks for mostly talk. And my back is worse (although its better today...much better thank goodness). I was going to go today but thought 'not such a good idea'. Then I started to stew...'150 bucks to make me worse! My back is never going to get better. I'm going to be in a wheel chair at 70. Why does this always happen to me?'. Whaaaaa? So I stopped. Called the office, calmly but assertively expressed my concerns, asked for a credit. Now I'm waiting to hear back. If they don't cooperate, there are other options. But this is just stuff that happens. Its not being TOO me. Anyway, yeah. Time to be a big girl
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:57 AM
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Originally Posted by matilda123 View Post
Good morning everyone! I hope all of you are well. Midton, how are you this morning? Frocks how are the kitties.

I am doing well--day 21 today. It has been a devilishly long week at work, but my mind is so clear right now and I feel like I can work calmly and productively. It really feels great. I know it won't always be like that (writing never is) but I'll take it for now.

Take care, everyone, and keep the faith.
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So glad you're feeling well and reaping the benefits of a booze free brain.
So I talked to the neighbor and told her to lock her kitties in her garage at night. Ok, she seems to have done that. Check. But the little guys are always in my back yard. That's ok but I have dogs that would love to rip them to pieces. I let them out when I got home, didn't do a cat sweep, and they had the mama cat cornered before she could jump up on the fence. Had to intervene before both the cat and the dog got hurt. I have to be more careful, but I also have to let my dogs out. They are really senseless cats. Somebody is going to get hurt. I have an old male kitty who is bigger than all 3 kitties combined..he's a coone and weighs 24 lbs. Luckily he isn't too interested....5 years ago they'd all be toast. I would just hate for one to get hurt
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Old 09-29-2015, 09:59 AM
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Hi Mathilda. Yeah I saw it. I do all kinds of crazy typos (dongs instead of doing...that was a good one) and I can't figure out the spell check here so I know my schpeling is atrocious
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Old 09-29-2015, 11:26 AM
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Hello, I just registered yesterday, I'm on day 2 and want to join this group…is there an "official" way to do it? thanks
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Old 09-29-2015, 11:31 AM
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Hello, I just registered yesterday, I'm on day 2 and want to join this group…is there an "official" way to do it? thanks
You just did it. Welcome!
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Old 09-29-2015, 01:19 PM
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Afternoon everyone! Welcome lealea and hogfish - this is a great site.

Thank you Cleareyes! I am feeling good! The headaches have been the worst. I did go to the doc yesterday. I assumed they were part of my detoxing. I was also so terribly afraid to admit to my doc that I have a drinking problem. But I did it!! It felt so good to get it out in the open. I was very teary of course. My doc gave me a hug and told me she was proud that I'm admitting it. Come to find out, my headaches are due to a sinus infection. I was so relieved because I'd been having awful thoughts, like - "I didn't have headaches when I was drinking. That maybe a glass or 2 of wine would get rid of them and I'd feel better." I am so grateful that I didn't give in. Feeling good today! So grateful.

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Hey all,

I'd like to rejoin the class. Hope everyone is doing well here. I have 10 or so days sober total this month, I'd like to get 2 more
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Welcome back facing future.
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Hi Mathilda
So glad you're feeling well and reaping the benefits of a booze free brain.
So I talked to the neighbor and told her to lock her kitties in her garage at night. Ok, she seems to have done that. Check. But the little guys are always in my back yard. That's ok but I have dogs that would love to rip them to pieces. I let them out when I got home, didn't do a cat sweep, and they had the mama cat cornered before she could jump up on the fence. Had to intervene before both the cat and the dog got hurt. I have to be more careful, but I also have to let my dogs out. They are really senseless cats. Somebody is going to get hurt. I have an old male kitty who is bigger than all 3 kitties combined..he's a coone and weighs 24 lbs. Luckily he isn't too interested....5 years ago they'd all be toast. I would just hate for one to get hurt
Sorry, but I'm a cat lover, so I thought I'd put in my 2 cents. I would let your dogs out one at a time on a leash and let them come close to the cats (smell them, etc.). Do this over a period of days, so the dogs become somewhat familiar with the little guys. Hopefully this keeps them from chasing/injuring the cats. I have 3 cats and 2 dogs, and I'd love to be visited by kittens, but that's just me...
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Hey Midton - you may be different than me and you certainly seem to have much better resolve to follow through with your goals than I do! - but everytime I feel like drifting away from here it's because my mind is planning a relapse. That's just kind of how it works for me. But you're doing awesome as is everyone else reaching milestones and keeping up the day to day work!



Great Tuesday to all!
Yes, I do try to bulldoze through this relying only on resolve but I honestly don't think I'm consciously, at least, planning a relapse. My daughter has to take a two-day test next month and my wife asked suggested we make a holiday of it by staying at a hotel. I've decided to forego the hotel as I know at present hotel=drinking. This is still over a month away but I've said no. So, even though I know relapses can happen suddenly, I really believe there's not one on my horizon in the near future.
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I really hope you stay self-aware and stick around Midton.
You do much better when you're a regular part of this community

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Yup, I know this. I have a strong sense of duty and obligation and feeling connected with the people on here brings it out in me. Even one post a day concentrates my mind. I like to take the time to focus and realise WHY I am on here posting. Then I'm committed for theorist of the day. Other that this site I basically never ever post on websites I'm here for a reason, a goal, and I always, always succeed while I post and crash and burn when I don't. Simples.
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Good morning everyone! I hope all of you are well. Midton, how are you this morning? Frocks how are the kitties.

I am doing well--day 21 today. It has been a devilishly long week at work, but my mind is so clear right now and I feel like I can work calmly and productively. It really feels great. I know it won't always be like that (writing never is) but I'll take it for now.

Take care, everyone, and keep the faith.
Sorry, didn't notice this. I'm doing fine, thanks for asking. Feeling quite chirpy to be honest.
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Frickaflip,

Regarding your back don't give up. I've had a bad back since 2012. Initially didn't realise it was my back as the pain was excruciating around my hip. I went to various doctors/chiro/acupuncture etc and was told something different each time. Eventually I found physio who was honest in saying he didn't know exactly what was wrong but it is one of a couple or four options. He told me it would take about 3 months to get better.

At this stage I couldn't sit or stand and was having trouble sleeping. I was almost suicidal with the constant pain. To cut what could be a long story short. After 3 months I was, say, 80% better and since then I'm gradually getting better and better although I do have slight flare ups every so often for often innocuous reasons. Normally though I'm totally pain free now.

Yesterday I ran for the first time since 2012.

Basically don't give up. A lot of doctors wing it but there are a small number who have great knowledge and skill.
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