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Old 10-07-2015, 01:36 PM
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Ff...congrats on 30 days!!!
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Old 10-07-2015, 02:27 PM
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It's suddenly become busier again here, which is good to see. The more people post the more people post. This is really the only thread I "open up" on and at present I still need the commitment and support. The less I post the less likely I am to crumble with little effort.

We seem to be moving along nicely. Sure we have cravings but it looks like we have developed better/stronger coping mechanisms or simply the strength to ignore them.

Personally I'm up and down, positive and negative, yin and yang every day but, and it's a big but my peaks (ie the moments of contentness in sobriety) are getting higher and longer and my troughs (ie the cravings) are getting less low and shorter.

Thursday morning and I'm up for it. Have a good one everyone.
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Old 10-07-2015, 02:57 PM
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I had a conversation with someone at work today. Inviting us to winery and dinner for anniversary. I hugged her. Looked her in the eye and said we would have to pass.
That I am alcoholic, struggling with sobriety. I physically got goosebumps. It fit. I am an alcoholic. I cannot manage my consumption. I want to be sober.
Big wave to all. Hugs all around.
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Old 10-07-2015, 03:31 PM
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Hi all - thought I'd post to keep things rolling

I'm okay tonight. I'm physically exhausted and not sure why. Maybe it's the change of seasons and that my body needs more sleep and is not getting more. I have had to take a nap for the last three days at around 5:00 pm. At least I'm recognizing when I'm tired and when I need to rest instead of the running to the wine store reaction to erase the tired feeling.

I had to cancel some plans tonight. I had previously made plans to see a friend - one I used to share glasses of wine at happy hour with. I made plans a while back and just didn't feel strong enough to order a mocktail tonight. Maybe another time. I know those non-alcoholic drinks can be just as yummy, but I didn't quite feel ready right now. Maybe in another few weeks. Or we could just stick to Starbucks

If I can get over this fatigue I will start feeling good and optimistic. Looking forward to that.
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Old 10-07-2015, 04:45 PM
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It's good to read all the posts here and see everyone not drinking despite the thoughts of drinking. I am afraid the next time that strong desire to drink hits I will drink. I always have in the past. For now that obsession has been lifted from me.

Thanks for sharing the good news about your health Juno. I am happy for you.

Congrats on the up coming 33 years 3wolves.

For some reason I was unable to sleep last night for the first time in a couple of weeks. This is where the thought of drink usually enters my head. I get run down and foggy headed and my defenses are down. So far no desire to drink. Going to put my headphones on and go for my walk around the park. Not much work for me to do today so I may end up sleeping this day away.

Oh wait I do have a couple of things I have to do. The coffee has not cleared my foggy brain yet. Hope all of you have a good sober day today.
Hi, Memra! (BTW, I love star trek too--like you, the REAL ST, a-hem)

Anyway, I know what you mean about the dangers of getting run down. That is always a trigger for me.

You mentioned that you are worried you might drink. I wonder if it might be helpful to think of a plan ahead of time if you feel tempted? One thing my last relapse made me realize is I knew I was going to drink before i knew it. That is, there were some warning signs there that I wasn't aware of (thinking I might drink turned out to be one of them). One thing I've done that has worked well is posting before I drink here or on the newcomers list. That and thinking it through have both really helped.

Take care, Memra!
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And congrats on 30 days, FF!!!!
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I had to cancel some plans tonight. I had previously made plans to see a friend - one I used to share glasses of wine at happy hour with. I made plans a while back and just didn't feel strong enough to order a mocktail tonight. Maybe another time. I know those non-alcoholic drinks can be just as yummy, but I didn't quite feel ready right now. Maybe in another few weeks. Or we could just stick to Starbucks
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Juno, this is so smart--and hard to do too. Proud of you!! Brava! To be honest, I've been thinking about this too. I have had a weekend trip on the books with a friend, which is scheduled in a couple of weeks. Usually when we get together (especially without our partners) we have a booze time of it. Starting to wonder if I should cancel.
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Originally Posted by 3wolves View Post
I had a conversation with someone at work today. Inviting us to winery and dinner for anniversary. I hugged her. Looked her in the eye and said we would have to pass.
That I am alcoholic, struggling with sobriety. I physically got goosebumps. It fit. I am an alcoholic. I cannot manage my consumption. I want to be sober.
Big wave to all. Hugs all around.
Wow! That is great and brave. Good for you!! xo
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Hi Folks - Just checking in before I go to bed. I've been unable to spend much time on the computer in the last couple of days, but just want you all to know I'm thinking of you. Hope everyone is doing well. ((HUGS))
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Old 10-07-2015, 05:05 PM
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@ Arbor: I saw your post in the 24/7 forum today. I've been around reading as much as I can, but the last couple of days have been unable to spend much time on the computer. Hubby's two days off were yesterday and today, so we ran errands, helped a friend, played golf. I definitely make it a point to check in to SR everyday and read and post when I can. Thanks for noticing. Makes me feel good.
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I never saw a wasp update. What happened??
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Hi class
All well here. Sitting on the couch, watching news (depressing/irritating) with a full belly. Daughter is with Dad. I'm ok though. Starting to adjust to having all this time alone. In a way it's nice.....

I officially start my first volunteer gig tomorrow. I think it's going to be pretty free flowing. I sort of feel like I'm just going to be 'supporting' the director. Not really sure what I'll be doing yet. I'm a bit nervous but nothing unmanageable. I declined working with the American cancer society because my late hubs anniversary of his death is the 31st. I have PTSD and just didn't want to risk anything that might trigger me. So I'm avoiding.....which is ok for now.

Guess I'll be sober 4 months on the 12th. I should probably wait until the 12th I just don't know how many days I have at this point. Pretty sure I'll make it. I feel kind of ambivalent about drinking. Don't care if I do, don't care if I dont. Not really sure if that makes sense. I know drinking will make feel and look like crap....that's at best. Why bother?

Good news I ve been figuring out how to get sliding fee medical care since I have no insurance. I'm getting a free mammogram and I'm trying for a free MRI which would mean I can figure out what is wrong with my back. Not that I would get surgery but it would be nice to know where all this pain is really coming from. Might help me better treat it.

Well this is a boring post. Guess that's good. Take care everyone. Love yourself......
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Old 10-07-2015, 05:24 PM
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I never saw a wasp update. What happened??
Hi Frick: This was the wasp update from Monday. We were killing at least 100 wasps a day until the exterminator came.
Update: The bug guy just left. He identified the wasps as yellow jackets and estimated the nest to be approximately 4 feet throughout a section of the wall. He said there were likely thousands of them and left untreated, would get worse. He drilled holes in the wall to spray and apply powder. The bug tech isn't anticipating having to come back, but said he would if we saw any more wasps after 24 hours.

We found 9 wasps yesterday and 3 today. I think I will call the bug guy again tomorrow. I don't want to be seeing any wasps.
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@ Arbor: I saw your post in the 24/7 forum today. I've been around reading as much as I can, but the last couple of days have been unable to spend much time on the computer. Hubby's two days off were yesterday and today, so we ran errands, helped a friend, played golf. I definitely make it a point to check in to SR everyday and read and post when I can. Thanks for noticing. Makes me feel good.
Sounds good Rar. Helps me to help a fellow in recovery. Again, congrats on one month!
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Old 10-07-2015, 05:29 PM
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Juno, this is so smart--and hard to do too. Proud of you!! Brava! To be honest, I've been thinking about this too. I have had a weekend trip on the books with a friend, which is scheduled in a couple of weeks. Usually when we get together (especially without our partners) we have a booze time of it. Starting to wonder if I should cancel.
Matilda - I understand the dilemma. I have a hard time canceling plans I have made because I'm usually one to feel obligated to do what I said I was going to do. I'm feeling a twinge of guilt for canceling tonight, when I really shouldn't - I should be applauding my decision to keep me out of temptation's way. It is hard to cancel, but liberating as well. I'm using this time to steer clear of social events and concentrate on nurturing me when I can! Please keep us posted on your plans and decisions with regard to your friend!
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Congrats to every one here kicking goals and hitting milestones

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Thanks Rar. Sorry I missed that one....I think. Or I read it at 5:30am and didn't absorb....that happens. I would definitely call the guy back. I'm glad there is at least light at the end of the tunnel....and not as many wasps!
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Hi Frick: This was the wasp update from Monday. We were killing at least 100 wasps a day until the exterminator came. Update: The bug guy just left. He identified the wasps as yellow jackets and estimated the nest to be approximately 4 feet throughout a section of the wall. He said there were likely thousands of them and left untreated, would get worse. He drilled holes in the wall to spray and apply powder. The bug tech isn't anticipating having to come back, but said he would if we saw any more wasps after 24 hours. We found 9 wasps yesterday and 3 today. I think I will call the bug guy again tomorrow. I don't want to be seeing any wasps.
YIKES!
I'd have to move.
Reminds me when my dog, and later, one of my boys got stung in the front yard. I searched for and found a hive in one of the trees. Now I'm a huge ass wimp when it comes to bees. I have absolutely NO interest in getting stung. Been there, don't plan on getting stung again.

So I waited until night time. I went out with a flash light with a red lens on it (I read that it wouldn't wake them up) and a can of spray to kill them.

When I approached the hive, I noticed one bee was keeping guard. It kept walking around the entire hive. Lap after lap...making sure all was right. I didn't like the idea that this bee could set off the panic button, but I went ahead and drowned the hive and tried aiming the spray up into the hole. I then ran for my life. I probably looked like an idiot, but I didn't get stung.

The next day, the bees were repairing the damage. They had cut away much of the poisoned exterior. Actually, I saw a piece of it fall on the ground as I was walking up. They had just cut it loose. A whole bunch of bees working hard trying to restore it and a bunch flying around it.

NO WAY was I going to spray them again. I figured they'd be ready to kill if I tried that again. So I called the bug man.

He said they were some exotic bee. Relatively hard to find in my state. They looked a little like yellow jackets, but more bad ass. I can't recall the name he used, but I did look them up and he was right.

Anyway...he said it's a good thing I didn't **** them off too much, because they are extremely protective of their hive and will attack in a group. He smoked them, then cut the branch with the hive and took the whole thing away in a bag.

I was glad that my dog and my son only got stung once. If they were too close to the hive, they may have been swarmed.
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Yikes! That sounds crazy, in control!

I think I mentioned that I get wasps in my office (or bees) every year--that a colleague even had the wall of her office opened and there was a huge nest in there, including honey. At any rate, I get bees and wasps in my office all the time. One year i had a buddist nun as a student. She believed strongly that nothing should be killed and always volunteered to capture and release the guys that got into my office. I'm not sure how she did it--she never got stung, and they never got injured. Clearly, she had the right spirit--or just incredible patience
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Old 10-08-2015, 02:32 AM
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Congrats on the milestone ForeverFuzzy! High five!
Rar, is it your 30? I know originally it is but then I thought I read two weeks on Sept 20something so I didn't know if I should say anything. Hey no matter what you're on some kind of a date even if it isnt exactly 30 congrats anyway! ((Hug))!
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