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Old 09-28-2015, 10:06 AM
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Monday morning again? Already? The weekends seem to dissolve into the workweek much too quickly. But to inch closer to that one month mark is so exciting! And the best part is that my AH told me yesterday that he wants to cut back to the point of only drinking the absolute minimum. It's hopeful and he did great last night. What a boost for our relationship. That will be a wait-and-see proposition in longevity, but something is better than nothing! I hope everyone has a great week and kicks their AV to the curb. Hugs!
Hi Cali - First off - Way to go on your 'almost' month. I will be so excited when I get there too. YAY. 2nd thing - the highlighted caught my eye regarding your husband and I thought of my situation. Now, I'm not sure if my husband is an alcoholic, but he drinks a significant amount. What I've noticed about my husband is the same thing I noticed about myself when I was drinking: If I were to cut back or abstain for one day, I made up for it in quantity within the next couple of days. It's almost like I had to get my blood alcohol volume up to a certain threshold. I noticed my husband doing this. If he were to have only a couple, the next day he doubled or tripled the amount. I so hope your husband can moderate. It will make life so much easier for you.
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Hi Rar, yes, that is very insightful about the "catching up". He did that a few weeks ago. He cut way back for three days, then doubled his normal consumption, blaming rough days at work. Also, something just struck me about the conversation yesterday. He said he intended on moderating most days, but gave the caveat of "not being held to it every day". When I asked what I could do to be supportive, he said the best thing would be to forget we had the conversation at all (so he's not judged when he falters). Hmmm, we shall see. Thanks for the point!
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Hi Everyone! I have not posted in a while but have been reading every day. Today is day 30, I cannot believe I made 30 days, I have not done that in years. I am feeling so much better than I did while drinking, and anxiety is pretty much gone. I am still having some trouble falling asleep though, hope that resolves itself soon.

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Yoohoo Carebear! ((hug))!!
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Fricka - we had a problem once with next doors cat coming in our cat flap at night and causing havoc, we had to get an ID chip on our cats collar so it only let our cat in, trouble was it took a couple of seconds to recognise and engage and she would get frustrated and walk off or be there headbutting a shut cat flap : (

I'd be peed off about 3 of someone else's kittens coming in too.

We're about to get a cat after not having one for 8 years as the boys grew up. Off to see a short haired tabby Mr Stripey, a 4 year old male at a cat rescue centre on Saturday. Apparently he was left behind when his last owners were evicted...

Pleased with my 21 days today, hoping to smash my last record of 30 days which was 4 years ago then I'll be in really new territory!
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Arbor and Rar- that was my downfall this past Feb…I chose to believe my problem wasn't that serious and that I could moderate. I confused "abstinence" with "control" (as Dee would say). Not this time.

Nice job Sleepy! SO many times I would find myself getting into my car to drive to the liquor store…every time I would tell myself that I should take the night off frm drinking…every time those concerns would go away in a poof of smoke as soon as the first liquid hit my lips…..until the next day and the cycle of madness would start all over again. Not this time.

Shout out to CapeGirl! Nice job on 31 days! other than the nagging headache are you feeling good?

Cali- time is both flying by and dragging for me. Lots of free time now that I'm not escaping reality on couch with a drink in hand. Those hours are gone forever.
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Hope it was a great Monday for all. I'm sober today. I am grateful. Thank you for being here and helping me thru this quagmire. My emotions are all over the place. I will place gratitude at the forefront and be about my day.

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Hey everyone, thought I would just check in, il keep it brief coz I think my laptop is playing up ! Plus they did eventually realise I had it all day yesterday so im being monitored today! Naughty me!! I take great encouragement from reading through every ones posts - the support on here is amazing. I still feel gruesome but I know its the amount of stuff im coming off and of course the reduction in my meds and Librium etc - its not rocket science!!! I'm being a big baby! I actually begged my husband to come get me today and bring me home, normally he would cave in when I wail and cry but I guess he had his Dr head on today not his enabler head coz he said iv only another week then outpatient so I should stick it out. All that will happen if I go home is that il end up in A&E!! embarrassing him and his colleagues again!! At least here they can treat my detox symptoms right!! And I'm anonymous! Im trying to put an amusing spin on this but I'm miserable and want to cry ...but I can do it, I need to toughen up!! I actually managed to attend group twice today. One was a prayer group (im in a spiritual detox place) and then a normal NA / AA thing. So the pain in my legs and arms is better enough that I dragged myself out of my bed!! So tomorrow I am apparently having a health screen and if I am up to it gym session .... seriously pmsl ...my OH nearly wet himself laughing on the phone! So that may be a funny story tomorrow...we will see. Happy Monday everyone, hope your all doing well. Charliesworld, Rar and everyone thanx for your encouragement last night. Blessings to all x
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Old 09-28-2015, 01:06 PM
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Originally Posted by ClearEyes24 View Post
Arbor and Rar- that was my downfall this past Feb…I chose to believe my problem wasn't that serious and that I could moderate. I confused "abstinence" with "control" (as Dee would say). Not this time.
Yes same here. We forget and fool ourselves time and time again. But like you said. Not this time. Not this time for me either.
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Old 09-28-2015, 01:24 PM
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Yes same here. We forget and fool ourselves time and time again. But like you said. Not this time. Not this time for me either.
I put a sign up in my bathroom that says "You want to be sober". First and last thing I see everyday.
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whatever it takes 3 wolves and whatever works! For some strange reason I am craving tequila this afternoon and a cigar and my AV was coaxing me to go for it. Shot it down in about 30 seconds thinking about tomorrow morning. If I had kept drinking, the asinine drunken driving would've continued as well…eventually I was going to hurt myself, a family member or a stranger in an accident. The "next time" might be the time that something truly bad happens and I feel like I have received a thousand reprieves already.
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I didn't post this weekend, but reading the posts on SR definitely helped me keep it together. Saturday night all the triggers were there, except I had to pickup my teenage daughter and friends at an amusement park at midnight (they do a Halloween thing), so drinking was not an option. Sunday night witching hour came around and I had a bar of dark chocolate with a chocolate protein drink. This completely got rid of my cravings, for both alcohol and chocolate! Day 8 and hanging in there...
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Day 9 here, I did what I said and am organizing my house. I'm nearly done and already starting to convince myself that I deserve a glass of wine before bed just to relax after all the work I've done. The urge is so strong. I almost didn't come here in fear of being talked out of getting wine. But here I am, hoping the urge subsides soon.
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Nothing to write but I'd better write anyway. I can sense myself becoming somewhat less that fastidious about posting, becoming more distant. This is potentially dangerous as I feel I have to touch base to remind myself why I'm on this site ( I basically don't post anywhere else).

Anyway a beautiful Tuesday morning and day 24.
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Thanks for posting, Midton. Good job being vigilant.

About to head home and get dinner for the kiddos. Should be a safe night for me thankfully.

Hope all are doing well. Glad you are feeling better fruity.
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Originally Posted by FaithfulAndFree View Post
Day 9 here, I did what I said and am organizing my house. I'm nearly done and already starting to convince myself that I deserve a glass of wine before bed just to relax after all the work I've done. The urge is so strong. I almost didn't come here in fear of being talked out of getting wine. But here I am, hoping the urge subsides soon.
I've done that in the past, not posted because I knew everyone would talk me out of it.
From my experience, I thought " I'll just quit again tomorrow after tonight" sometimes it was month or two before I could even string a week together sober again.
Don't start while you're still ahead, it could be months or years before you get sober again
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Congratulations ForeverFuzzy on 21 days!!! And thank you for your reply to my last post....it IS so fascinating to get to know our childlike self again...deep needs, feelings, and fascination with the little things.

Happy for you and 21 days! Today is 9 days for me and going to keep it up!
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Hi Cali - First off - Way to go on your 'almost' month. I will be so excited when I get there too. YAY. 2nd thing - the highlighted caught my eye regarding your husband and I thought of my situation. Now, I'm not sure if my husband is an alcoholic, but he drinks a significant amount. What I've noticed about my husband is the same thing I noticed about myself when I was drinking: If I were to cut back or abstain for one day, I made up for it in quantity within the next couple of days. It's almost like I had to get my blood alcohol volume up to a certain threshold. I noticed my husband doing this. If he were to have only a couple, the next day he doubled or tripled the amount. I so hope your husband can moderate. It will make life so much easier for you.
Interesting observation, I'm not married, but looking back I did this myself.
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Old 09-28-2015, 03:29 PM
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Day 9 here, I did what I said and am organizing my house. I'm nearly done and already starting to convince myself that I deserve a glass of wine before bed just to relax after all the work I've done. The urge is so strong. I almost didn't come here in fear of being talked out of getting wine. But here I am, hoping the urge subsides soon.
Play the tape through Faithful. Do NOT drink the wine. You have 9 days and in a few more hours you will have 10 days. Walk around your nicely organized areas and imagine that being sober, you will be able to keep it that way (or mostly that way - lol) I worked very hard on my house the first week and I felt I deserved a reward too. I imagined sitting with a drink while I admired my nicely cleaned spaces. Then I remembered that when I was drinking, I didn't have the energy or the inclination to clean much and I didn't have nicely cleaned spaces as often as I would have liked. You can do this. Hang in there. ((HUGS))
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