Class of July 2013 Part 22
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We found Dotty's owners half an hour ago I went in the shop and asked again this time they told me who it was I knew where they lived as I pass it every day
It belonged to a young teenage girl who almost started crying & all the kids thanked us
I done the right thing by reuniting them back together again she was really happy
We found out Dotty is actually called Tinker : )
It was a fun 3 days I promised Dotty I would find her mum and I did
Tinker
We found Dotty's owners half an hour ago I went in the shop and asked again this time they told me who it was I knew where they lived as I pass it every day
It belonged to a young teenage girl who almost started crying & all the kids thanked us
I done the right thing by reuniting them back together again she was really happy
We found out Dotty is actually called Tinker : )
It was a fun 3 days I promised Dotty I would find her mum and I did
Tinker
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Leshar, I can't say much more than the lovely posts already from everyone here about your sadness about how you treated Larry. You know I have regrets about my ex too, and even though he's still alive - of course I'm in the same boat of probably never being able to say I'm sorry, and wishing I hadn't frittered our time away by drinking excessively when I knew he had concerns.
It's good to cry these things out. Of course you are emotional, you are cleaning out things that represent your life with Larry. In time, you still have much good you could do with your life. You and Larry are still a team....he can still inspire you to maybe do something in honour of him. You can still make a difference in this world because you knew him and loved him. I really believe that.
But when the tears come, yes, cry.xx
It's good to cry these things out. Of course you are emotional, you are cleaning out things that represent your life with Larry. In time, you still have much good you could do with your life. You and Larry are still a team....he can still inspire you to maybe do something in honour of him. You can still make a difference in this world because you knew him and loved him. I really believe that.
But when the tears come, yes, cry.xx
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It would have been great had I been sober when my grandmother passed but it was not to be.
I do know that she loved me, warts and all, and that she wanted the best for me.
20 years on I can say I am a good person - I always was but I lost my way for a few years.
I've no doubt Larry loved you Leshar and thats means everything - not just the good bits.
He knew the real essential you and accepted you, warts and all too, just as you did him.
remember - hate the addiction, not the addict.
You're not a bad person Leshar - none of us are.
D
I do know that she loved me, warts and all, and that she wanted the best for me.
20 years on I can say I am a good person - I always was but I lost my way for a few years.
I've no doubt Larry loved you Leshar and thats means everything - not just the good bits.
He knew the real essential you and accepted you, warts and all too, just as you did him.
remember - hate the addiction, not the addict.
You're not a bad person Leshar - none of us are.
D
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Leshar if your going Toronto remember the tapes to change to DVD I have hardly any photos of my mum my dad has a DVD that he's going to copy for me in the video my mum laughs and Mrs Sw said you laugh like your mum
It's how we remember them which is important
It's how we remember them which is important
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Hiya gang 
That will be lovely of your Dad to do that for you Wolfy
Had a work meeting this morning , then Holly & I went to the beach & had a lovely long walk on the jetty. It was quite chilly but not windy.
Then we drove an hour away to a dear girlfriend of mine . She wants to pay for me to have hypnotherapy for my drinking. She went for over eating and has lost a lot of weight in that 2 years .
I haven't been paid for the past few weeks as I had to say I had the flu ( rehab )
It's a lovely gesture but I'll wait til I get some money again . I'd like your thoughts on this please Julyers xx
That will be lovely of your Dad to do that for you Wolfy
Had a work meeting this morning , then Holly & I went to the beach & had a lovely long walk on the jetty. It was quite chilly but not windy.
Then we drove an hour away to a dear girlfriend of mine . She wants to pay for me to have hypnotherapy for my drinking. She went for over eating and has lost a lot of weight in that 2 years .
I haven't been paid for the past few weeks as I had to say I had the flu ( rehab )
It's a lovely gesture but I'll wait til I get some money again . I'd like your thoughts on this please Julyers
xx
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Originally Posted by soberwolf 
Leshar if your going Toronto remember the tapes to change to DVD I have hardly any photos of my mum my dad has a DVD that he's going to copy for me in the video my mum laughs and Mrs Sw said you laugh like your mum
It's how we remember them which is important
It's how we remember them which is important
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Snooz i think the greatest gift is acceptance but I found this hopefully it will help with any decision
Hypnotherapy for Alcohol Abuse - Hypnotherapy Directory
Does Hypnosis Work For Alcoholism?
Hypnotherapy for Alcohol Abuse - Hypnotherapy Directory
Does Hypnosis Work For Alcoholism?
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Hello everyone.
Thanks, Snoozy, Casey, Ladybug, SL, Croissant, Dee, for all your thoughts and support following my last post. You made me cry, but in a good way, cleansing, I suppose. I had the privilege to be loved by a good, completely steadfast and loyal man. Many never experience this gift in their lifetime. I loved Larry and I will honour him by living a better, sober life. Yes, he knew I was a good person at my core and I know he forgave me my many frailties. Now I have to forgive myself.
All your posts were so lovely. I cherish your words.
I am still sad and weepy and I miss Larry terribly. I suppose I've "put off" grieving for so long, I numbed out with booze. Now I have some hard work to do! We all carry heavy burdens, but we can help one another!
Snoozy, dear one, I suppose the hypnotherapy idea may help if nothing other than allowing you to be still and mindful, in the moment, but I really don't know much about its use in addictions. I suppose my only caution would be not to "put all your eggs in one basket" as it were wrt becoming sober. For me, my addiction needs treated by looking at my whole self, my frailties, my poor way of coping with adversity, a core melancholy that never quite goes away that I treated with self destructive behaviour. It's not just about abstinence for me. I read somewhere that abstinence and the ability to have a happy life are not the same thing.
So, let us know what you decide. You are doing great!
Wolfie, that's lovely to hear that you found the dog's owner! Do you miss her a little?!
I had my class today, but boy, am I tired from the drive!
I'm going to try massage therapy tomorrow for what's been constant neck and shoulder pain. I try to be mindful of my posture and relax my shoulders but it's not going away. I think it began after I crashed my car.
Hope all are coping. We are strong, folks!
Thanks, Snoozy, Casey, Ladybug, SL, Croissant, Dee, for all your thoughts and support following my last post. You made me cry, but in a good way, cleansing, I suppose. I had the privilege to be loved by a good, completely steadfast and loyal man. Many never experience this gift in their lifetime. I loved Larry and I will honour him by living a better, sober life. Yes, he knew I was a good person at my core and I know he forgave me my many frailties. Now I have to forgive myself.
All your posts were so lovely. I cherish your words.
I am still sad and weepy and I miss Larry terribly. I suppose I've "put off" grieving for so long, I numbed out with booze. Now I have some hard work to do! We all carry heavy burdens, but we can help one another!
Snoozy, dear one, I suppose the hypnotherapy idea may help if nothing other than allowing you to be still and mindful, in the moment, but I really don't know much about its use in addictions. I suppose my only caution would be not to "put all your eggs in one basket" as it were wrt becoming sober. For me, my addiction needs treated by looking at my whole self, my frailties, my poor way of coping with adversity, a core melancholy that never quite goes away that I treated with self destructive behaviour. It's not just about abstinence for me. I read somewhere that abstinence and the ability to have a happy life are not the same thing.
So, let us know what you decide. You are doing great!
Wolfie, that's lovely to hear that you found the dog's owner! Do you miss her a little?!
I had my class today, but boy, am I tired from the drive!
I'm going to try massage therapy tomorrow for what's been constant neck and shoulder pain. I try to be mindful of my posture and relax my shoulders but it's not going away. I think it began after I crashed my car.
Hope all are coping. We are strong, folks!
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