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Old 09-02-2015, 05:44 PM
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Oh no. I hear ya. Just made me think.
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Old 09-02-2015, 07:53 PM
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Hi, All. Sorry for not checking in recently! My emotions have been all over the board this week. I got out of the office this afternoon to do some field work and that helped. Still felt kind of tired and skipped the gym (and ate some cookies), but surprisingly my mood has slingshot all the way to super happy, positive and focused. Managed to eat a small salad which I feel good about (trying to keep the focus on nourishing my body even if I eat a few too many sweets). So I'm not sure what's up with me except I have no desire to drink.

Amp, that video was interesting. I had no idea about the origin of "alcoholism." Made me realize there is so much I don't know about addiction (other than what I've experienced).

Hope you all have a good night/morning!
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[IMG]www.soberrecovery.com/forums/members/cauliflower-albums-wilson-picture16694-wilson-watching-sunset.html[/IMG] Wilson watching tonight's sunset on our little beach.

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Old 09-02-2015, 09:15 PM
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Tried to post a photo, but it's not working! It's on my profile though...it's of Wilson. We had another awesome afternoon at the beach and we didn't come home until the sun set. I am so ready for sleep!
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Old 09-02-2015, 09:21 PM
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I love the picture, Cauliflower! I am glad you had a great day
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Old 09-02-2015, 10:54 PM
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Old 09-02-2015, 11:15 PM
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Hi, just a fast check in. Thurs is going to be difficult because I have a meeting with one of my most important clients who always wants to drink. Last time I told him I was on antibiotics. This time I am saying I am giving up for September. If I tell him the truth I think the business may go elsewhere.

Glad everyone is doing well.

By the way I didn't find anything in particular that got me over the start line and has kept me there. I read loads of stuff like everyone but I think I just realised it was sort of now or ever. I definitely do not buy the religious aspect but appreciate that others do. Whatever works is what I say.

Have a good day all!

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Old 09-03-2015, 04:05 AM
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Good morning all!

Good luck OMD. My father used to say that more business got done in bars and golf courses than in offices. I don't know how comfortable you are in a drinking environment at this point. When I'm out in situations like that, I will opt for an NA and just say that I have a lot of driving to do later. Drinking an NA does not in the least make me want to drink the real thing, but I realize that doesn't work for a lot of people on these boards. I have found the driving card to work with all but the hardcore alcoholic, which we know very well.
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Old 09-03-2015, 04:39 AM
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Good morning roomies.

Swim...love the pic. You're lucky. Most everyone here is. Living near Cleveland, OH blows.

OMD..I hear ya. The best would be to get there first so you could make an arrangement with the waiter. Tell him/her to always make yours a Virgin and your clients a double if ordering mixed drinks!

Have a great sober day!
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Old 09-03-2015, 06:15 AM
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It's a shame that we have to get up to all these antics when it comes down to a perfectly simple and respectable life choice but business is business and there is no accounting for certain attitudes. I'm straight up about it with close friends and family but find I scramble around for a card to play (driving, training, antibiotics...) when it comes to other relationships. Maybe I will feel more confident about the "new me" a little further down the line and be fine about shouting my abstinence from the rooftops but for now there's still often a bit of dodgeball going on in certain scenarios.
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Old 09-03-2015, 08:01 AM
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I didn't do AA but I got a lot of value out of the Big Book, especially the stories. Didn't cost me anything...most libraries have a copy

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I see that it is available for free online. Dee, I will give the personal stories a read. Thanks!
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Old 09-03-2015, 08:07 AM
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Are any of my fellow April folks still haunted by periods of lethargy? I am off today and have so much to do around the house and yard and just can't seem to put one foot in front of the other to get moving. I think that I really did expect to have more consistent energy by this point in my sobriety. On the other hand,it's 11:00am here, and five months ago I would have been on my third drink by now. I guess it's still just baby steps for me.
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Old 09-03-2015, 08:19 AM
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Earlier this summer I started reading Ok, I quit, Now What? by Mark Tuschel. It wasn't moving fast enough for me, so I put it down. I will eventually finish it though, as no book gets left unread! Coincidentally, last night I started reading Stage II Recovery: Life beyond Addiction by Earnie Larsen. I thought it was the other book I started reading this summer, these are on my kindle, hence the confusion. I like this one better, and will continue with it .
I also read Unwasted:My Lush Sobriety by Sacha Z Scoblic which I enjoyed very much. That's it for recovery books, which is not much, but I gained so much insight and knowledge from this site and this group, which has been the key player in my journey.

Well I slept in today, so I'm running behind schedule! I have a meeting tonight to prepare for, so I'll check in later! Have a good day everyone, and none for me today!
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Are any of my fellow April folks still haunted by periods of lethargy? I am off today and have so much to do around the house and yard and just can't seem to put one foot in front of the other to get moving. I think that I really did expect to have more consistent energy by this point in my sobriety. On the other hand,it's 11:00am here, and five months ago I would have been on my third drink by now. I guess it's still just baby steps for me.
I too feel lethargic some days. It's insane how it just knocks me down some. I am getting way more consistent with my workouts everyday, which seems to help with the energy. Make sure you are eating enough and hell, just rest up when you need too! Your body is healing.
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SG, I absolutely have days where I am exhausted for no reason (slept well the night before, etc). Two nights ago I got home from work at took a nap at 7:30, something I never did before recovery. I honestly do think it's caused by our bodies recovering. I've read that PAWS symptoms can last up to two years; that's how long it can take to repair the decades of abuse and poisoning.

My advice is to rest when you feel like you need it (today!) and you will feel better tomorrow. And like Cauliflower said, eating well and exercising daily help as well.

OMD, I hope the business meeting goes well. I'm sorry that drinking is so engrained in the business you are in. I do think that men have a disadvantage when it comes to business and drinking compared to women: men are expected to "man up" and not give excuses while it is more acceptable for women to not drink or have just one. (I know this isn't true in all cases but it seems to be society's expectation of men). I feel for you OMD!
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Yeah...in fact, I could use a nap right now.
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Thanks everyone. Here is what happened. I turned up at the fancy restaurant. No opportunity to get there early. This is an important meeting. There he is with a bottle of expensive wine, waiting for me and with a glass ready. So I know what's coming. He waits and watches and says cheers etc and I need this deal so over the course of lunch I take exactly 3 small sips of wine. I genuinely had no desire to drink it and as far as I am concerned I took one for the team. I feel resentful that someone put their drinking problems on me but I probably did that many times in the past without realising it.

What does all this mean? First, I got the assignment which was the objective. Second, this meeting had been planned ages ago and I had been dreading where this would take me. As it happens, I didn't end up in a bar afterwards which is basically what I had feared. Third, I felt no temptation to drink. All of that is positive but I still feel like I somehow gave in even though I didn't. Difficult to describe but I feel like I allowed myself to be poisoned today. Anyway, it is what it is. I can honestly sayI was proud of being sober.

I hope you are all well and that your days are all better than mine. Like everything else, today will pass too.

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Wow OMD. While reading that I felt so much anger for your "business partner" doing that to you. I am very happy that you got the job, but wow that sounded like a horrible situation to be in.

However, you should be extremely proud of yourself for not giving in to alcohol as it was essentially being forced down your throat. You have a tremendous amount of strength. You absolutely used those "sober muscles" that we always talk about. I hope that you are not mad at yourself. A few sips of wine that were essentially forced down your throat does not mean you had a lapse in sobriety. Instead it really is a testament to the strength that you have gained over the last four months to be able to only have a few sips.

I hope that you never have to be in a situation like that again. But I am very happy that you got the job. Sending good thoughts your way!
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Hell yeah! You have a lot to be proud of!
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