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Old 09-20-2015, 09:54 AM
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Beautiful day on the US east coast. Getting ready for my daughter's "family" party. This involves packing a cooler of beer, wine and mixers for the drinking family members. I felt absolutely no pangs or remorse while packing the coolers. Maybe I am finally starting to get a little more comfortable in my new self. Always on guard, however. Have a great day everybody!
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Old 09-20-2015, 11:06 AM
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Hi everyone! I went and picked up my son from his dad around 9 and we came back home. I made a breakfast of ham and eggs and we're hanging out having a nice day. These sober mornings will never get old, especially on the weekend where we can just take it easy. No withdrawals, no gross sweats, just happiness.
Have a wonderful day, everyone.
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Old 09-20-2015, 01:48 PM
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Thanks Kim. You described my situation perfectly!

Lots of good vibes on here, and I really am very happy to see people posting about nice times just chilling and enjoying being sober. It's great to just live in the moment when you can. To be thankful and not to worry about what might or might not happen. I do a lot less worrying these days. I think I am getting my sht together. Of course now I have written that, I'll be back here tomorrow reporting some disaster.

To those having a struggle, let's just keep on going, the moment will pass and you'll enjoy being sober again very soon.

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Old 09-20-2015, 01:56 PM
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Hi guys! 11pm here! Picnic in the country today with friends and a whole gang of kids between 3 and 12 years old. Some light drinking by the adults but not a problem at all. I was thinking that it would have been a difficult day for me 5 months ago as there would not have been nearly enough drinking to get me started. It would have been nearly impossible to sneak drinks in an inconspicuous manner so I would have been pulling my hair out!!!

As it goes I had a lovely day and didn't miss drinking at all. 5 months today for me and Inc. Feels really good. Feeling free. Monday morning coming up so I'm going to turn in now. Nice to hear everyone doing well here this weekend
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Old 09-20-2015, 02:22 PM
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Good times. We're making a go of it!
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Old 09-20-2015, 04:41 PM
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Amp and Inc, congratulations on five months!! So glad you're feeling better, Amp And I second OMD's comment about everyone feeling pretty good.

I just woke up from a 2.5 hour nap. In the past of would have felt bad about sleeping that long after a slept a good 8+ hours last night, but I'm realizing that I may have a skewed perception of what's "normal." Like, you got the recommended about of hours of sleep last night, but you took a really long nap? What's wrong with you? I'm realizing I tend to beat myself up over stuff like this and that has really eaten away at my self-esteem. Instead, my thought process today was: I feel tired, I don't have much to do, and I worked out really hard yesterday so my body may need extra recovery time. So I will take a nap! And now I'm awake and it's a-okay.

All this introspective comes from putting together my "crisis prevention book" as recommended by one of the publications at www.samsha.gov. As I've realized from my slips, I drink when I am in crisis, and I need to try to figure out how to help myself before I get to that point. It has you write out things to do on a daily basis to stay healthy, and triggers, early warning signs and ways to help yourself cope. It was nice to write all of that down in a methodical way. It really shed some light on expectations I have for myself that are perhaps unachievable and had lead to my past slips. It recommends reading through the plan every morning which I'll start tomorrow. I also plan to add pictures and images because I respond well to that. So it will be sort of like a sobriety scrapbook. Ha ha!

Time to head to the air conditioned gym and then do my grocery shopping for the week. Thanks to all for being here! Keep it up!
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Old 09-20-2015, 04:48 PM
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Congratulations Inc and amp

I'm really glad you got something out of those links Kim
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Old 09-20-2015, 04:58 PM
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Thanks, Dee I have to admit the first time I looked through it months ago I didn't think it applied to me (I'll never be in "crisis"!) but it totally makes sense for me now. And that website has tons of resources for self-help; I also printed out a self-esteem self-help guide. Good stuff!
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Old 09-20-2015, 05:04 PM
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Swim...that is so awesome!!
You are absolutely doing an awesome job. You remind me of Casey in May. There's others too, but both you guys keep adjusting and keep pushing. That's what makes you special.

You are very serious about your sobriety. There's NO doubt about it.

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Old 09-20-2015, 05:40 PM
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Congrats Inc and Amp!! You guys truly do rock! So many peaks and valleys over the last five months!

Great attitude SwimKim. I can sense the positivity inside you! You are going to do this!
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Old 09-20-2015, 06:33 PM
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Thank you SG. Again...so glad you started posting boss. You're a great cheerleader. Nice to have ya on the team.
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Old 09-21-2015, 02:09 AM
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5:00am and I am getting ready for work and feeling great. I might try your plan Inc about tugging on your ear to remember the good vibes. Had a great time with the extended family yesterday. Finally told my father that I had quit drinking . I don't know why it was so difficult for me, I guess it was a macho thing about being able to hold my liquor like a man. My father's mantra was always "Work hard and party hard." He simply said," You have to do what you feel you have to do." I think in the back of his mind, he was always concerned that his kids would turn into the abusive alcoholic his father was. It was really the first time that I kind of felt shameful about admitting a drinking problem to anyone, but now I know it's not really a big deal. I am not about to post on Facebook about it, but it seems that people are far more accepting of people trying to get sober than I realized initially. I am finding out that virtually everyone has or had an alcoholic grandfather or uncle or best friend in their life and realize the pain that addiction caused that individual and their friends and family.

Have a great Monday everyone!
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Old 09-21-2015, 02:56 AM
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NLP is fascinating. The book "achievement through NLP" was suggested to me by somebody who was very shy and uncomfortable in social situations. I had a hard time believing it because he is now anything but shy.

As a manager, you'll find it particularly useful. People respond to those who are like them. NLP teaches you how to read people and copy their thought processes.

For example. If you agree with what I'm saying, you might say:
- I see what you mean
- I hear what you're saying
- I feel ya

That would reveal how you sense the world
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Old 09-21-2015, 10:25 AM
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You are amazing, just all of you! This weekend was busy. My son had his last hockey try-outs game yesterday. There were some hockey parents there from last year, and they while we were catching up, some were complaining about being hungover and suffering through the morning. That is one thing I will not miss this winter, being a hungover hockey mom!

Swimkim, I love your idea of a recovery scrap book. I pulled out my recovery plan this morning while I was listening to my favorite sirius radio channel, while lying in bed, with my coffee, because I was tired, because we had a busy weekend, and I stayed up too late reading a fantastic book that I can't put down. No remorse, No guilt! Love it.

Angie, keep sharing here,we love hearing from you. I recall you had your own accountability thread and you inspired me! I am going to search it out in the Newcomers again, I've lost touch with that forum.

None for me today because I completed a great work out (did the Abs portion without giving up or cheating lol) and I certainly don't want to cancel it out with booze!
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Old 09-21-2015, 11:19 AM
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Hi everyone,
First up - well done to the 5 monthers totally amazing when you think about it. Totally amazing. Seriously!

So we're all now moving things along, telling people, dealing with situations we never could have imagined. It's all good!

By the way Angie, just write whatever you feel. That's what this place is for!

My friend on Saturday night asked me (after a lot to drink) whether I was going to start drinking again. I told him I didn't know, but that I wasn't drinking that day and had decided not to drink on the Sunday. He told me if he was me he wouldn't have another drink. Tell you what you need to know I think.

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Yes OMD. Says a lot. And I've come to think he's right. I really don't like drinking heavy. Not a big fan at all. I'm old enough (finally) and have learned from experience (finally), that moderation is not in my cards. So the solution is easy.

If I drink it will be to get drunk. Otherwise...why bother? I mean really. In not gonna have just one. That would be of nooo value whatsoever.

So I'll get drunk if I do decide to drink. Then I'll be hungover in one way or another. Tired, probably anxiety. I know without a doubt I'll be far less then "great".

It's not like I'm gonna wake up and say, "ah yeah. Soo glad I drank. Just what I needed." Nope.
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Old 09-21-2015, 07:59 PM
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Congratulations Incontrol and Amp!!
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Old 09-21-2015, 08:45 PM
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Well said, Inc. I drink to get drunk too, and really have no desire for only one. And no desire to get drunk, because as you said, I will never wake up and be happy with that decision!

Happy to report I had a very good day; just felt happy and had no feelings of anxiety/guilt/unhappiness. Life's ups and downs I suppose. It just was so nice. I hope you all are kicking off your week well.
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Old 09-22-2015, 03:23 AM
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Oh man. Early rise after 2nd night of short sleep. Vivid dreams when I was sleeping. Feel like I was hit by a bus. I am not a morning person.

Off to PT job. Gonna fake it till I make it.
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Old 09-22-2015, 01:17 PM
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Hi all!
Just a quick hello from me. Nothing to report but all well because I am not drinking and won't be tomorrow, either.

Best wishes to everyone

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