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Old 09-18-2015, 05:38 PM
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Making a pot of chicken soup and my eye lids are so heavy. I went for a long long long beach walk this afternoon and now my son wants to play soccer. I am so thankful that I am not drinking, otherwise none of this would ever have happened. I am going to be achy tomorrow, but here we go.....outside! I have a number of posts to read tonight!
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Old 09-18-2015, 06:16 PM
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Welcome, Blue Fairy. It sounds like you've got a good handle on what's going on in your life. Good that you have a supportive husband.
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Old 09-18-2015, 07:55 PM
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Changed my mind about what I was going to post here. All is good here. Have a nice sober weekend everyone.
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Old 09-18-2015, 08:05 PM
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Old 09-18-2015, 08:15 PM
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I had cream of potato soup from the local diner and I think i'm in love. I love a good soup. One soup that my mom makes is a total comfort food for me. The high is going to reach 100 this weekend, summer is holding on and I'm ready for the cooler weather to stay for a bit so I can eat soup more! lol

I'm doing okay right now. Hanging in there at 144 days sober. Grateful for SR and all of you. Have a great weekend.
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Old 09-18-2015, 08:22 PM
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Ang...couldn't agree more. On all accounts.
- Soup. Mmm Mmm good. NE Clam chowder, lobster stew, and cream of potato round off the top 3. The hardest to find is a good potato soup.
Well...where I live now, it's lobster stew. Just doesn't exist.

- bring on fall.

- have a great sober W/E!!
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Old 09-18-2015, 09:22 PM
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KeyofC - Congratulations on 60 days. That is a great milestone! I hope you enjoy your road trip with your husband this weekend.

WWS - I'm glad you're going to check out the info Dee posted about support groups. I didn't start out going to AA believing in a whole lot of what it offers or suggests; I just wanted a place to go to take drinking off the table for an hour. I took what I needed and left behind the rest. Finding a support group can help carry you through the next craving, and onward toward a happy, peaceful life.

Happiness - Great job holding off your craving. Keep stringing those great choices together.

Dizzy - Great job on 133 days of making the right choices for your health and sanity. The 12 steps are powerful, and have helped me learn to live a good life. I'm glad you're finding hope and healing in them.

BlueFairy - It's nice to meet you. Thanks for sharing your story. Also, congratulations on 133 days sober. Sounds like you've battled some tough situations in your addictions. Like you I'm an addict through and through.

Amp - I'm glad things are going well and that you feel positive about your life and your choices in sobriety.

Casey - Glad you're doing well. Enjoy your weekend.

Angie - I was reading your other thread. I think you did a great job finding healthy and productive things to do instead of drink tonight. I know weekends are tough for you. Stay close! Weekends used to be so hard for me, too. With time and work, they're not anymore. I say jump into any AA meeting! (Then let us know how it goes.)

I'm usually pretty comfortable socially but I was not comfortable at my first meetings. I kept going back because I didn't want to drink, plus someone would always say something that resonated with me. Some meetings are better than others, and even great meetings have off nights. I'd recommend trying a few different ones and giving them a lot of chances.

A sober life is different than I expected but better than I knew possible. Thanks as always Toots, Saskia, and Carlos for your practical advice and inspiring perspectives.
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Old 09-19-2015, 12:25 AM
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BeFree how's things?

Good to meet you BlueFairy, you sound like you know a lot about what's gone wrong in your life, I hope you are able to move forward from it and make a new life. Having support from hubby is fantastic it makes all the difference for me.

Carlos, Dizzy, AV has us justifying everything just so we can continue drinking, it blinkers us to the warnings ( my exh was shocked when I finally told him to go, even after me saying daily we couldn't continue with his drinking. I know he convinced himself it would always be okay) and I turned a blind eye to so much so that I could continue poisoning myself daily.

Strength my Undie friends; the days you feel you can't walk this road, reach out here, between us, we can carry you until you feel able to stride out again.
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Old 09-19-2015, 02:57 AM
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Welcome, BlueFairy! This is a great group.
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Old 09-19-2015, 03:33 AM
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Angie, good to hear the progress. Does "okay" mean good with no real problems or struggling? There will be times for most of us that it gets tougher, especially during the first year. It's good to get support whenever that happens.

Have a good weekend to all Undies!
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Old 09-19-2015, 04:42 AM
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Hey unders! Just checking in for the day! God is doing some real good work on my soul and I feel so full of life hopefulness and happiness. We are in SC getting loaded! Say prayers for our safe travels home! People don't know how to drive and it's dangerous in a tractor trailer loaded or not. About an 8 hour drive back to Ky. Check in later even if it's just to read on yalls day!! ((Hug))
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I read through the link that DEE posted and I believe that I need to have some better coping strategies for dealing with the cravings that come up. I don't think I had any before and that was my downfall.

I found out that these cravings were usually short in duration and I need to find ways of getting through. Two things that interested me was urge surfing and having a list of "distractions" in my wallet to look at and act on. I have a rough list but am still working on it. This is what I got so far.

Anyway it is one week since I have had a drink. Thanks everyone for being here and have a good sober day.
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Old 09-19-2015, 05:08 AM
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Urge surfing

The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com (urge surfing)

Cravings tips

The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com (CarolD's tips for cravings)
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Old 09-19-2015, 06:04 AM
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Sounds like you're thoughtfully working it, Waywardson. Keep it up!
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WWS - Your open-mindedness to listen to advice from others who've stayed sober and willingness to try their suggestions is how folks stay sober. Great job on your week!

KOC - I used to think I had all the answers. I had long operated independently of any spirituality or higher power. When I came to after my last drunk, though, I had a spiritual experience that cracked open the possibility to me that there may be a power higher than myself. Maybe I didn't have life all figured out. Throughout this journey in recovery, I've experienced coincidences and intuitions that kept opening that door. Opening up my soul, clearing it out, and making different choices, has led to happiness and hopefulness and motivation and peace. Keep at it, KoC.

Angie - How are you this morning? What's on the agenda today?? Gratitude lists help me a lot when I struggle. Make no mistake, I do struggle. Drinking was just one symptom of my alcoholism. I keep practicing tools to turn it around.

This week in New England has been full of beautiful top 10 days. All of this soup talk has me feeling better about the soup weather that's on its way. I'm thinking about making either a butternut squash or pumpkin soup. I'm grateful that something as simple as planning a healthy recipe that aligns with my health goals now helps keeps me positive and on the beam.

Have a great day Undies!!
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KeyofC have a safe trip back to Ky!!

Toots I'm ok. Super tired but tomorrow I can rest.

Another womp day. Day 4 no cigs, I switched to vaping. I'm enjoying vaping with the yummy flavors much more. My cough isn't as bad either.

Looking forward to a womp free day tomorrow. We are super under staffed right now and not getting any applications which means instead of Sunday and Monday womp free I've been having Sunday and tues off. I ofcorse prefer sun and mon 2 days in a row but for now I'm being a team player and just glad I'm not womping 6 days a week.

Have a good day undies!
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Having some pretty strong cravings for the last couple of hours, to the point where I decided I better get online and let it out. I got myself upset about something relatively minor last night and am having trouble letting it go. I should probably get out of the house and go to an AA meeting but it was at a meeting that I got so upset last night so I just can't make myself do it. I asked someone I was starting to feel close to for some specific help last night and was told no. It really surprised and hurt me. I have a lot of trouble asking for help and situations like this sure don't make it any easier. But I know that having that first drink and whatever other drinks would follow isn't going to help me any.

I'll stick close to SR this evening. Thanks for listening.
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Old 09-19-2015, 04:22 PM
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I'm sorry that happened Casey - it's never nice to hear no, especially in that context.

I think they probably did you a favour tho ultimately - there's nothing worse than saying yes to something when you don't mean it and then doing a half assed job of it.

I have no idea why they said no, Casey, but I'd put it on them, not you.

You're a great guy who does a lot here to help others - try not to take it personally.

If there's anything I can help with let me know - I'm sure all the other guys here feel the same

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Good for you Casey.
I always feel the need to offer advise even when it's not being asked for. So here I go. Probably nothing new.

What helps we me the most is mindfulness. Don't fight it, pay close attention to the feelings. Shut everything down and pay attention to nothing else. Kinda "just get it over with" approach.

Here's one that's cool. I dare you to try it and tell me it didn't help. Write out 3 pages of what's on your mind. You can't stop until 3pgs are filled. Doesn't have to make sense. You just write what's on your mind. Even if it's "I'm gonna fill 3 pages and tell Inc that it didn't help" over and over.

AA mtg is a great idea too. A must do. You need to get rid of that palatable experience.
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haha...Incontrol, just before I read your post I had finished writing off the top of my head a very long entry in my own journal--don't know if it was three pages but it was more than two--and came to the conclusion that I need to go to an AA meeting tonight no matter what and let that resentment go. So that's my plan. I'm getting dressed now. I'll check back in later tonight. Thanks to Incontrol and Dee for responding so quickly. I'll take anybody else's good thoughts and/or prayers as well. Thanks!
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