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Old 09-01-2015, 10:07 AM
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Wolfie, brilliant news! The world is your oyster!

Fbl, it sounds very complicated. Is it a case of the more you earn the higher your healthcare? We have national insurance and it is a percentage of our wages taken out before we get them but we do get free appointments at the docs and hospital unless we opt for private. We pay for medicines tho, if we work.
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Thanks guys

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Yeah, Mags, the new health care laws here in the US are VERY complicated. I'm probably what you would describe as "lower middle class". I don't make enough to live the high life, but make too much to qualify for any government assistance. If you don't have a certain type of coverage (or no coverage at all), then you're subject to paying a penalty from the IRS. As I understand it, that penalty will be more than doubling between 2015-16. So basically, you'll pay either way. I may just have to move to another country
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Season 4 of breaking bad early I've nearly finished my Wayne dyer book

bowl of special k then some reading & meditation then bedtime

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Old 09-01-2015, 01:03 PM
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Mags - I was up at 6.15 to get ready for work and trimmed 30 feet of hedge this afternoon so hopefully I will be read for sleep earlier this evening
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You've been busy, feeling-good! I'm an early riser but you ant get much sense out of me at 10 pm, usually !

Fbl, they get us in the end! Lol.

Evening Overs.
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Old 09-01-2015, 10:10 PM
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Thanks Mags! You're just saying that because it's true! What other word sounds like the **** word that was censored? Hey whatever enjoy the bushes. Rye grass is a lawn grass and the annual version provides fast lawn coverage and erosion control. It is a winter grass that thrives in our mild winters here. Its seed is very inexpensive and my deer will love it all winter until the regular summer lawn grasses here come back in spring and overgrow it. Read about rye grass here: Uses For Annual Ryegrass & Perennial Ryegrass | RyeGrasses.com

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Drinkin thinkin? Hey sorry about the medical insurance issues. ACA must have you right in the wrong category. I hope it resolves. Sorry you had some escape desires redirect to alcohol. I get that with cigarettes sometimes. Trust me, you'll adapt or find a way to ameliorate the impact. The Brits and Canadians have nationalized medicine, single payer, and it works rather spectacularly for them although like humans the world over they don't realize how good they have it until or unless they move to another country. We saw it in action the seven years we lived in Germany. Great medical care with no bankruptcies from catastrophic illnesses like here, nor bankrupt governments. But over there the rich have to pay taxes too unlike here where only us middle class do. And their corporations are not allowed to relocate their HQ to another country to avoid paying their fair share.

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The recovered helping others recover is called "The Wounded Healer Concept." That is what I am doing here. And what we do when we help another who asks for information. The thing that is hard for us is that we tend to be codependent with our counselees unless we have a good mentor to staff to who will show us how we cause clients more issues when we try to get them to use our solutions instead of their own. We are there only to be a sounding board for them, teach coping skills as appropriate and asked for, and to help them develop alternatives that they can then accept or reject in turn.

That was hard for me because I so wanted to pull them along to the goals I had for them. I learned but even then, perfectly helping, I still lost a large number back to their old behaviors. See not all folks want to save themselves. Some just want attention and someone to understand and they become counseling junkies who feel better for an hour each week ,or twice a week, but change nothing the second they leave.. Others, the magical thinkers think that we will tap them on the head and shout heal and they will be healed with no boring effort on their part. The third group are willing to do whatever it takes, any amount of work necessary, and they save themselves. So 2/3rds we can't help, and 1/3 we can however temporarily that is for some. If we acknowledge our own capacity for self inflicted misery, then we can understand a little of what we have to contend with in any recovery situation. Challenging but very rewarding, especially when you get the first person who does the hard work and then tries to blame you for saving them. If at any time you believe that you will not be much help. THEY do the work. We are just moral support and trainers. Sometimes, we get it all right, and that is worth all the times we tried but they weren't ready to commit to themselves and their own survival.

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Just kidding but you do keep busy too.

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Yep!

I felt like getting a pic of Alfred E. Neuman and instead of "What? Me Worry? Say What, me asserive? under it.

I overdid it pulling my tractor scoop off and hitching up the grader blade and packing/grading the electrical trench. Tomorrow will tell if we get past (Passed) the inspoection and get the electric turned on so the rest can be done. We might be in it next Monday! (Now I've gone and jinxed it) Back hurting gotta tale a Naproxyn Sodium 500 and rack out.
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Thank you Itchy wise words my friend
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Good morning!

Itchy, helpful post! I think that what you wrote about "The Wounded Healer" concept applies to a number of the "helping professions" in general. Certainly not all fall in that category but plenty do.
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Going to finish reading my book think itl go nice with a cup of tea
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I have always used the Wounded Healer approach in my dealings with people who come to me with problems.

Most of the time I am most useful as a listener. Sometimes I'm called upon to advise other women, and I try to keep my answers brief. I have learned to avoid too much active commiseration while people are in the act of sharing their burdens, lest my experiences come off like a "can you top this" of life problems.

My most effective tool is general transparency. In my function as ladies' small group leader, I freely confess sins I'm dealing with and ask for help and prayer for them. When I need to speak on a topic, I choose something that I myself have struggled with and gained insight on.

Sharing my individual insight--what I've learned from suffering--gives hope.
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Old 09-02-2015, 04:35 AM
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Thanks again for all the support! I really had no serious thoughts about drinking, just a "quick-flash" thought that came and went in an instant. I'm now over the "sticker-shock" and will trust my agent to find me a better deal, if one exists. I'm also trusting that my boss will do the right thing and continue to cover his half of the payments. If not, I'll find a way to manage, like always. I've never gone into debt in my entire lifetime and I won't be starting now. Just one more obstacle to overcome and I will do so sober.

Wolfie, hope you're enjoying Breaking Bad...it's my all-time favorite TV show, and with me, that's saying A LOT

Have a great hump-day, overs!
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thats the right attitude fbl!

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Afternoon overs. I'm at home, first day back and had an asthma attack. Went to docs, back on steroid medication. Not sure why this isn't under control. I've been poorly on and for nearly a year in November. It's not a good time to be ill at work, either, how volatile the place is!

Anyway, taking it easy for rest of day. Will be ok now I'm on these 8 a day, all at once, prednisolone. If you hear a rattle, it's me, haha.

Fbl and wolfie, I got a series of breaking bad but I didn't get into it, the reviews are great, I'm going to have to try watching it again!

Itchy, I have no idea, the shrub is a h e b e , I hope that hasn't offended anyone, it's a name of a shrub. The rye grass looks lovely. I'm sure the deer are appreciative. I would like to grow wild flowers assorted ones, it looks so pretty, some councils grow them on roundabouts in summer and they are so cheering.

Every time I see your avatar, Fbl, I hear his voice plain as day, not out loud, but you know, in my mind. Such a distinctive voice I think. I wonder if we hear a voice to all of us. I have accents for some of us. But when you here an englishperson in America they speak the queens English but with all our accents from different parts of Great Britain not many speak the queens English, though toots might beg to differ! Lol. And Australia, I only hear one accent but I'm sure there are many varied ones.
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I've spoken to someone from Sydney, and he sounds a lot different--more of what you hear on American TV--than the person in Melbourne.

Wow, Mags--that asthma must be really bad! That's a lot of prednisolone! I hope the steroids calm it right down.
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Interesting , Gilmer! I thought they must have differences.

Ha yes, Gilmer, it's made me a bit waffy! If I wasn't already, lol.
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Sorry to hear your asthma is ongoing, Mags!
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Trying to work and a fly continues to torture me. I opened the door...what will be the outcome?
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