Class of July 2013 Part 20
 

Last part here:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-19-a-21.html

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6 Things to Never Say to a Recovering Alcoholic

#7 - "Hi, honey; our first Wine Tasting Club party is on the 15th."

Seriously?

I am still reeling a bit. I know I felt shock and I think I passed out a bit; my eyes must have rolled into the back of my head as I swear I saw brain matter.

I'll be okay; I know I will. I'll show up with some kind of funky, over-the-top wine glass from which to drink my sparkling water and I'll be a gracious hostess when it's our time to host but - seriously?

Can't he just go stag to these parties?

And there's no need for you to host. If you are feeling extra-benevolent, you can go have dinner out and watch a movie--and set a strict curfew for the party so that it ends early and you can come home once again to your own peaceful home.

Or he can just pass on the hosting. :)

I couldn't imagine anything more boring than a wine tasting party now.
I think my partner going stag would be my best solution to the problem?

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Thanks, Gilmer and Dee, for your kind and wise suggestions. I know that I will be absolutely fine. Alcohol was never removed from our home when I stopped drinking. My husband is a very normal drinker. I never made an issue of it as alcoholism is all over my family and I knew I was, most likely, going to be exposed to it for the rest of my life. I know that it is 'unusual' but I thought of our home as my 'practice field' and I stayed away from bars and heavy drinking situations at all costs. The scope of my life was very narrow in the first few years of my sobriety so there wasn't much socializing anyway.

It is just the 'cluelessness' that is bugging me this morning.

I hear you!

I agree with the others Leigh :hug:

just finished reading chapter 2 of panic to power this book is awesome and i have just done 2 10 minute meditations guided as im still getting the hang of it breathing posture etc its good tho just had a bath as its pretty warm here

Thank you for the new thread D and get lots of rest and if your upto it some chicken soup and plenty of water

Have a nice afternoon Julyers

Hey all, I'm posting now as I will be too busy to use my phone tomorrow. There is no way I would have got to where I have now, getting married tomorrow, without your support, especially in the early days. Thank you so much xx

Have a beautiful day tomorrow, Petecrab.

Congratulations!!!!!

Congrats on the big day, Petecrab. Wishing you and your bride much happiness together...

What wonderful news congratulations Pete !!!!! http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/kiss/wed...y-emoticon.gif

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Have a beautiful wedding and marriage, Petecrab! :)

(I made a typo: "weeding!")

Hello Pete,
I will be thinking of you on your big day tomorrow! Have a fabulous day!

Hi Leshar :hug:

Hello Dee,
Please take good care of yourself.
Best Wishes, L

Leshar--sorry that your new friend is being wishy-washy with you, but glad that you're still so firm in your commitment to recovery. You can't control him or his thoughts or actions, all you can do is take the best care you can of yourself. Wishing you the best today...

Goodnight evrybody going to start reading chapter 4 and then meditate with mindfulness and binaural beats

Goodnight Julyers & co

Get well soon D

Goodnight, SW. Sweet dreams.

Petecrab! Thinking of you on your Wedding Day. I bet your Mum is smiling down on you from somewhere. You've achieved so much and deserve so much happiness. Good luck and love to you and the new Mrs Crab.


Leshar, I believe this guy is the one who asked you to a family get together? That's just weird he's now back peddling....and I don't get the feeling you were pushing for anything hardcore anyway.

I'm thinking of paying for a proper matchmaking service when I go back out there. They can be expensive, but at least you know the individual has invested time and money and been screened for what their true intentions are. I'm finding my impression of online dating here. now just full of many people who want to put a quick fix bandaid on their life to make themselves feel better. And sometimes just the continued attentions of new and different conquests - the thrill of the chase" is all they really want.

It's not really to do with you. Keep focused on your goals.

Congrats Pete :)

Thanks Leshar - I'm taking it easy :)

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