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Old 08-08-2015, 09:33 PM
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Great job BBB and Cbf!
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I really like that acronym DEADS tool BBB so I have jotted it down in my journal.

Its another hot lovely day here and I don't know why but that seems to trigger me. I think it may be something to do with the fact I live by the sea and there are a few bars here and everyone seems to be drinking. Yesterday the ice cream, bath and pj's worked even though I was in pj's by 7pm!

I will do that again today and keep in mind HALT and now DEADS

Hope everyone has a good day.
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Thanks guys. I certainly wasn't proud of myself when typing that out, but I suppose it's drinking the alcohol that makes us alcoholics - not buying it. Hope I've learnt a lesson from it next time I get tempted.

Best of luck for the new day!
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I liked "Drinking, A Love Story", precisely because she was so good at describing her love affair with booze.

I felt those feelings and thought those thoughts too.

To me it's not meant to be a 'teaching book' like Carrs or Jason Vales, although I did learn from it as much if not more than Carr or Vale.

Its a memoir of a love story - and the break-up is just as important in that story as anything else.

I'd like to hear you guys thoughts when you read the whole thing

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I really liked the book too Dee.

It resonated with me and it has actually led me onto looking into other things too.

In her memoir she said that in AA there were some who had eating addictions and I thought of my sister who has had bulimia for 30 plus years. There are similarities in my alcohol addiction and her food addiction which has now led me to think about our childhood which was also outwardly happy.

It has opened out a dialogue with my sister who is in counselling again. It seems we are thinking the same things as to where our low self esteem etc etc stems from and this is actually quite liberating to start piecing together some explanations at long last.

I had no idea when I first picked that book up that it would lead me off in this direction...
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I loved the book! I could really identify with her and her love affair with alcohol. While it didn't teach me how to stay sober, it made me see just how much I too romanticized alcohol, as if it were my best friend/lover. I read each chapter and thought,"yeah, that was me", during different times throughout my drinking career.
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Start of sober day 37. I'm so sore from pulling weeks I might need to take a break today. Plan on taking a little trip up in the mountains and having dinner with my boys. Big day at work tomorrow moving all the telco stuff. Just knowing that is enough to keep the urges away. In the past I would use that as an excuse to drink. I was a regular genius at rationalizing reasons to drink :-)

Have a sober Sunday folks.
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Day 25 here.

Really happy I got through that tough urge last night. Feel proud of myself today.

Generic family day here. I'd much rather have some me time as per usual, but I've gotta do my bit. I out them through enough, it's not far for me to shun them when they are clearly just trying to help keep me company.

I do miss just sitting and reading a book for hours on end though without being bothered. At least I have that to look forward to next week

One thing I'm really enjoying from this sober attempt is food. I'd gotten pretty underweight with drinking and needed to put on a stone and a half. Let's just say im enjoying doing that....
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Glad to see everyone staying focused, happy Sunday everyone!

Sitting by the pool with a glass of icewater...counting my blessings.

Hope everyone has a great week!
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Hi Julyers! Popping in to see how everyone is doing from my August class. Finished "Drinking a Love Story" last night, it resonated with me too. Agree it's not a stop drinking, here are some tools type book, but definitely pushed me into more self realisation regarding my own addiction. I'm asking the powers that be no more self realisation for a little while please, enough already, need more sober time.

BOb, rest your bones today, you deserve it. Ivy is a monster!
BBB you are doing so well!

Toadie, Wednesday I see Jackson Brown! !! Already decided to order tonic with lime at dinner before with my friend, I'm driving so that will be the reason.

CBf, great resolve!!

Glad to see so many Julyers doing well.
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Not sat and read back through the posts since I was last here. After a very brief stint of moderation I very quickly slipped into old habits. The chap I mentioned with the girlfriend I was a little misleading it did carry on a bit after he found out she was pregnant. It ate me up big time especially as I could see her facebook posts gushing about how great he is and what a happy family they will have. He was still planning to leave but wanted to time it so it went as smoothly as possible to reduce the chances of her moving far away from him with the kid. I drunkenly told her he was cheating. I backtracked in the morning but it left her thinking I am a crazy woman making stuff up and him hating me and completely cutting me out. For the best I guess I should have broken it off with some dignity sooner and suggested he look me up if he is ever single. Guess my drunk brain was forcing my hand on the matter but I would prefer not to have caused her that distress and for him to hate me.

No I did not quit drinking after letting it once again screw things up. I ploughed right on spending money I don't have and thinking today will be different, the switch that says go on have another won't get flicked. After all there had been a couple of nights it hadn't.

Day 1 my dears day 1.

I will sit tomorrow or something and read back and catch up on how everyone has been doing. Still not very focused and feeling very lonely and sad and stupid. Loosing a ten year relationship was fine, with the abuse that had been dead a long time. Losing that fling and that feeling there was someone out there in love with me hurts a lot more and I can't quite shake the tears.
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Another small victory for me this evening. A friend of my called around unexpectedly, my best friend actually, and one of my big drinking buddies. He'd had a couple and had just stopped by to say hello and see my 3 month old on his way past. So we got to talking and after about ten minutes he asked me to nip out just for a few quick pints. I explained my current resolve to get sober, and because he'd had a couple, he tried to cajole me (not in a malicious way really) into going. I stood my ground and just said no. My wife was with me as well, and I felt a sense of pride at having stuck to my guns and kept myself on the straight and narrow after yesterday's close call.

I'll always love the guy and have time for him (we've been friends for nearly 20 years), but I'm the only one of my friends settled down with a family, and I'm really not prepared to slip back into bad habits just to keep someone else happy. I know that he understood, and he didn't labour the point once I'd given it a firm 'no'.

Hope everybody is having a great and sober Sunday.
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I hope everyones doing ok

welcome back Ditzy

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Hi sounds like everyone has made it through tough situations this weekend and done well.

I've just been thinking as I get ready for the work week I made it through another weekend I never thought I could and I'm so glad. I feel more equipped to deal with things ahead.

Have a good night all!
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Hi everyone. Have a few posts to catch up on. Hope everyone is doing okay. Welcome back, Ditzy!!
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Good to hear from you Sadie. Congrats on making another weekend Milly. DitzyD welcome back on the bus! Cbf, hopefully it will get easier and others will just “get it” that you don’t drink. They’ll still be your friends. I just got invited out for Margaritas Friday via text and it did not phase me a bit to reply “….or sweet tea!”. But the main thing is I’ll be there and I’ll have fun and I’m confident I won’t drink.

One thing I’m beginning to feel again is my self-confidence resurfacing. That’s huge.

It’s so important to stay sober now. I’m not so far from retirement and I have been worried that once I have all that time on my hands I’d just drink myself to death. Seriously. But I have 3 beautiful granddaughters and I want to be around for them. I have to make this work! I have two uncles that did that. They just froze in place, never contributing anything and they just died early meaningless deaths.

Day 37 in the books. Have a good sober eve folks!
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I've made it two weeks! It's been tough; glad the baby shower was alcohol free because I'm pretty sure my AV would've won!

It's so stupid that all morning I was worried about whether or not there would be alcohol there at a baby shower. So stupid. I even tried playing the tape but all I could think was, it won't be that bad! But I'm sober and so thankful for that.
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Toadie, Wednesday I see Jackson Browne! !! Already decided to order tonic with lime at dinner before with my friend, I'm driving so that will be the reason.
Sadie, Thanks for popping in! I should check if he's playing somewhere close this year, would love to see him again. It's probably been ten years since I've seen him. Hope you have a great (sober) time!

welcome back, Ditzy! Hope you can stay on course.
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Hope everyone's weekend was great! I'm celebrating three weeks tonight. I'm feeling a lot of irritability lately but trying to be kind to myself and others.
Have a good Monday all!
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Read 80% of the drinking love story. It's became a drunken mystery of obvious alcoholic clues and blatant self denial. Sounds familiar. Not a motivational quit drinking diagram. Just an honest self realization of the journey through hell.

We should start our own book club lol

Glad you stopped in Sadie. Happy your back DD

Still need to work meditation and exercise into my daily routine. If I keepisode saying it maybe I will do it. Have a great night
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