One Year and Under Club Part 47
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Fradley - I'm sorry for your tragic loss. Stick around; you'll get strong support here.
Stargazer - Welcome and congrats on 100 days sober.
GnikNus - What did you think off the flight? I took my first sober flights this year solo - no booze, no anxiety meds, no one to distract me. These challenges, while not easy, sure have helped me grow in the best possible ways.
SoberRunner - Welcome. When I came to SR I knew I needed to quit drinking. I was able to string together less and less sober time. I'd have a day of sobriety under my belt, feel pretty good, and start drinking that night - no matter what I had promised myself. My addiction was running the show and directing all of my decisions. Hands down the best thing I've ever done is become willing to do things differently. I've gotten a lot of direction from folks on SR and in AA. As Saskia mentioned, there are many ways to get and stay sober. You'll hear lots of good ones here. I've always played the tape all the way through to imagine my worst drunks. I've also heard the suggestion to "move a muscle, change a thought" when a craving hits.
Site - Great insight you offered on the way addiction can skew your truth to perpetuate itself. I hope you're doing well!
Jim - Welcome and good work making it to Day 4!
Amp - Great job reaching 100 days sober. For me I think the difference this time was desperation. It made me more willing than I'd ever been to do things differently than I ever wanted to or ever expected to.
I quit in Jan 2013 for a couple weeks then went back to drinking "in moderation." Within a week that moderation turned into a year of drinking more alcohol more frequently than I ever had. I came back to SR in February 2014. I was sober 3 weeks and I drank. Again I was hoping for moderation, but one glass of wine at dinner turned into a terrible night of drinking. When I came to I was overcome with gratitude that I was still alive. I knew I had to stay sober, but I didn't know how. SR has been an important part of my recovery. Folks here have supported me and led me to other avenues of support that keep me sober for the past 17 months.
I know it's a One year and Under thread but you'll see folks pop in from the One year and Over thread (we call ourselves Popovers) to share our wisdom and experiences. I love the focus on recovery in the Unders thread. That has kept me popping in!
Emme- Welcome! Great job on 53 days sober. If there's one thing I've leaned it's that you don't get extra credit for keeping temptation around. Good job dumping that bottle. I hope your mom's treatment goes ok.
BoozeFree - My coffee drink of choice for the summer has been Starbucks cold brew coffee, black. Mmm.
Sagittarius - Welcome and good job on 25 days sober.
Stargazer - Welcome and congrats on 100 days sober.
GnikNus - What did you think off the flight? I took my first sober flights this year solo - no booze, no anxiety meds, no one to distract me. These challenges, while not easy, sure have helped me grow in the best possible ways.
SoberRunner - Welcome. When I came to SR I knew I needed to quit drinking. I was able to string together less and less sober time. I'd have a day of sobriety under my belt, feel pretty good, and start drinking that night - no matter what I had promised myself. My addiction was running the show and directing all of my decisions. Hands down the best thing I've ever done is become willing to do things differently. I've gotten a lot of direction from folks on SR and in AA. As Saskia mentioned, there are many ways to get and stay sober. You'll hear lots of good ones here. I've always played the tape all the way through to imagine my worst drunks. I've also heard the suggestion to "move a muscle, change a thought" when a craving hits.
Site - Great insight you offered on the way addiction can skew your truth to perpetuate itself. I hope you're doing well!
Jim - Welcome and good work making it to Day 4!
Amp - Great job reaching 100 days sober. For me I think the difference this time was desperation. It made me more willing than I'd ever been to do things differently than I ever wanted to or ever expected to.
I quit in Jan 2013 for a couple weeks then went back to drinking "in moderation." Within a week that moderation turned into a year of drinking more alcohol more frequently than I ever had. I came back to SR in February 2014. I was sober 3 weeks and I drank. Again I was hoping for moderation, but one glass of wine at dinner turned into a terrible night of drinking. When I came to I was overcome with gratitude that I was still alive. I knew I had to stay sober, but I didn't know how. SR has been an important part of my recovery. Folks here have supported me and led me to other avenues of support that keep me sober for the past 17 months.
I know it's a One year and Under thread but you'll see folks pop in from the One year and Over thread (we call ourselves Popovers) to share our wisdom and experiences. I love the focus on recovery in the Unders thread. That has kept me popping in!
Emme- Welcome! Great job on 53 days sober. If there's one thing I've leaned it's that you don't get extra credit for keeping temptation around. Good job dumping that bottle. I hope your mom's treatment goes ok.
BoozeFree - My coffee drink of choice for the summer has been Starbucks cold brew coffee, black. Mmm.
Sagittarius - Welcome and good job on 25 days sober.
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Midwest, USA
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Hi, Undies!
Just checking in, been a bit too long. Still sober at 75 days!
Wherever you are on your journey, I hope you all are well.
Glee- thanks for Popping Over! Your insight is very valuable
Just checking in, been a bit too long. Still sober at 75 days!
Wherever you are on your journey, I hope you all are well.
Glee- thanks for Popping Over! Your insight is very valuable
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Congratulations on 74 Dharma!
It's great that you "pop-overs" make an appearance around here from time to time. It's strengthening to see how far we can go and to be able to listen to the voice of experience.
To keep myself in line, I occasionally sit in on the June and July groups to remind myself what I've had to go through to get to where I am. I find it helpful
Originally Posted by gleefan 
Fradley - I'm sorry for your tragic loss. Stick around; you'll get strong support here.
Stargazer - Welcome and congrats on 100 days sober.
GnikNus - What did you think off the flight? I took my first sober flights this year solo - no booze, no anxiety meds, no one to distract me. These challenges, while not easy, sure have helped me grow in the best possible ways.
SoberRunner - Welcome. When I came to SR I knew I needed to quit drinking. I was able to string together less and less sober time. I'd have a day of sobriety under my belt, feel pretty good, and start drinking that night - no matter what I had promised myself. My addiction was running the show and directing all of my decisions. Hands down the best thing I've ever done is become willing to do things differently. I've gotten a lot of direction from folks on SR and in AA. As Saskia mentioned, there are many ways to get and stay sober. You'll hear lots of good ones here. I've always played the tape all the way through to imagine my worst drunks. I've also heard the suggestion to "move a muscle, change a thought" when a craving hits.
Site - Great insight you offered on the way addiction can skew your truth to perpetuate itself. I hope you're doing well!
Jim - Welcome and good work making it to Day 4!
Amp - Great job reaching 100 days sober. For me I think the difference this time was desperation. It made me more willing than I'd ever been to do things differently than I ever wanted to or ever expected to.
I quit in Jan 2013 for a couple weeks then went back to drinking "in moderation." Within a week that moderation turned into a year of drinking more alcohol more frequently than I ever had. I came back to SR in February 2014. I was sober 3 weeks and I drank. Again I was hoping for moderation, but one glass of wine at dinner turned into a terrible night of drinking. When I came to I was overcome with gratitude that I was still alive. I knew I had to stay sober, but I didn't know how. SR has been an important part of my recovery. Folks here have supported me and led me to other avenues of support that keep me sober for the past 17 months.
I know it's a One year and Under thread but you'll see folks pop in from the One year and Over thread (we call ourselves Popovers) to share our wisdom and experiences. I love the focus on recovery in the Unders thread. That has kept me popping in!
Emme- Welcome! Great job on 53 days sober. If there's one thing I've leaned it's that you don't get extra credit for keeping temptation around. Good job dumping that bottle. I hope your mom's treatment goes ok.
BoozeFree - My coffee drink of choice for the summer has been Starbucks cold brew coffee, black. Mmm.
Sagittarius - Welcome and good job on 25 days sober.
Stargazer - Welcome and congrats on 100 days sober.
GnikNus - What did you think off the flight? I took my first sober flights this year solo - no booze, no anxiety meds, no one to distract me. These challenges, while not easy, sure have helped me grow in the best possible ways.
SoberRunner - Welcome. When I came to SR I knew I needed to quit drinking. I was able to string together less and less sober time. I'd have a day of sobriety under my belt, feel pretty good, and start drinking that night - no matter what I had promised myself. My addiction was running the show and directing all of my decisions. Hands down the best thing I've ever done is become willing to do things differently. I've gotten a lot of direction from folks on SR and in AA. As Saskia mentioned, there are many ways to get and stay sober. You'll hear lots of good ones here. I've always played the tape all the way through to imagine my worst drunks. I've also heard the suggestion to "move a muscle, change a thought" when a craving hits.
Site - Great insight you offered on the way addiction can skew your truth to perpetuate itself. I hope you're doing well!
Jim - Welcome and good work making it to Day 4!
Amp - Great job reaching 100 days sober. For me I think the difference this time was desperation. It made me more willing than I'd ever been to do things differently than I ever wanted to or ever expected to.
I quit in Jan 2013 for a couple weeks then went back to drinking "in moderation." Within a week that moderation turned into a year of drinking more alcohol more frequently than I ever had. I came back to SR in February 2014. I was sober 3 weeks and I drank. Again I was hoping for moderation, but one glass of wine at dinner turned into a terrible night of drinking. When I came to I was overcome with gratitude that I was still alive. I knew I had to stay sober, but I didn't know how. SR has been an important part of my recovery. Folks here have supported me and led me to other avenues of support that keep me sober for the past 17 months.
I know it's a One year and Under thread but you'll see folks pop in from the One year and Over thread (we call ourselves Popovers) to share our wisdom and experiences. I love the focus on recovery in the Unders thread. That has kept me popping in!
Emme- Welcome! Great job on 53 days sober. If there's one thing I've leaned it's that you don't get extra credit for keeping temptation around. Good job dumping that bottle. I hope your mom's treatment goes ok.
BoozeFree - My coffee drink of choice for the summer has been Starbucks cold brew coffee, black. Mmm.
Sagittarius - Welcome and good job on 25 days sober.
To keep myself in line, I occasionally sit in on the June and July groups to remind myself what I've had to go through to get to where I am. I find it helpful
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Dharma, 75 days is excellent!
Glee, I always enjoy your pop-ins. You have developed much insight into your life as a whole in the past 17 months. So many changes!
Amp, I completely agree about how helpful it is to be here on the Undies and yet also read and participate in Newcomers. The combination provides me with a view of what I don't ever want to go back to, a chance to give back a little, the wonderful support of all of you in the same boat and the inspiration we get from the popovers. That's an amazingly powerful combination!
Have a lovely sober day/night, Undies
Glee, I always enjoy your pop-ins. You have developed much insight into your life as a whole in the past 17 months. So many changes!
Amp, I completely agree about how helpful it is to be here on the Undies and yet also read and participate in Newcomers. The combination provides me with a view of what I don't ever want to go back to, a chance to give back a little, the wonderful support of all of you in the same boat and the inspiration we get from the popovers. That's an amazingly powerful combination!
Have a lovely sober day/night, Undies
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Emme glad you poured out the wine! Good choice. Is that a pic of your dog?! Looks super cute.
Glee I love a nice iced black coffee yum!
Well I ended up going to the casino for a bit. Walked away winning just under $200 on blackjack. I actually got 3 blackjacks in a row woohoo.
My friend and I got stopped at border control and her car searched. So glad we were both sober with nothing to hide. I think the guys were a little bummed they didn't get us for a dui or something.
I better get some sleep. 4 hours before I have to be up for womping.
Glee I love a nice iced black coffee yum!
Well I ended up going to the casino for a bit. Walked away winning just under $200 on blackjack. I actually got 3 blackjacks in a row woohoo.
My friend and I got stopped at border control and her car searched. So glad we were both sober with nothing to hide. I think the guys were a little bummed they didn't get us for a dui or something.
I better get some sleep. 4 hours before I have to be up for womping.
to all the new Undies! 
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Hi Undies
I'm flattered by the nice comments! I'm happy if anything I share is useful for another person.
One of the things I have been incredibly fortunate to learn in recovery is that no matter how long we've been sober, we are all in this together, and we all can learn a lot from each other.
There was a time in my life where I was fairly certain that what I had to share with people was helpful. One of the first things I had to do to stay sober was actually focus on myself instead of worry that about everyone else. SR has been so important for me in that domain. Here I've learned to make my posts about my experiences - rather than to offer advice on everyone else's.
This has turned out to be an interesting lesson. After 17 months of talking about myself, I've come to realize that I'm not actually the end all, be all, know it all, queen bee of the world. I'm a naturally chatty person, and there are still some things that I think I know a lot about. When I catch myself prattling on and on, I step off the soap box.
Aside from making me quieter company (lol - who am I kidding? I'm really not quiet at all!), I get into a whole lot less trouble. For example, I am having a minor issue at work with a supervisor. My first instinct was to say something. My second instinct was to keep quiet. That silence offered me time to think the issue through, look at my goals, and strategize how to achieve it. Turns out that the discussion I need to have isn't the discussion I would have started.
Also, through examination, I realized that my initial reaction was to do something destructive and cruel to hurt my supervisor. I was angry - and if I told you why, most people people would agree that his behavior was unprofessional and I had every right to be upset. Justifiable anger is a real Achilles heel of mine. Acting on it may relieve the initial pressure, but historically I've burnt a lot of bridges that way.
It's so cool in recovery to learn how to live better. I don't mean that I wasn't a good person before; I always had good intentions and did the best I knew how! I mean that in recovery I get to transcend the quirks (toxic behavior patterns) that held me back.
I got all of this from reading your comments on the Undies today. I learn a lot from being here!
Have a wonderful sober day, everyone!
I'm flattered by the nice comments! I'm happy if anything I share is useful for another person.
One of the things I have been incredibly fortunate to learn in recovery is that no matter how long we've been sober, we are all in this together, and we all can learn a lot from each other.
There was a time in my life where I was fairly certain that what I had to share with people was helpful. One of the first things I had to do to stay sober was actually focus on myself instead of worry that about everyone else. SR has been so important for me in that domain. Here I've learned to make my posts about my experiences - rather than to offer advice on everyone else's.
This has turned out to be an interesting lesson. After 17 months of talking about myself, I've come to realize that I'm not actually the end all, be all, know it all, queen bee of the world. I'm a naturally chatty person, and there are still some things that I think I know a lot about. When I catch myself prattling on and on, I step off the soap box.
Aside from making me quieter company (lol - who am I kidding? I'm really not quiet at all!), I get into a whole lot less trouble. For example, I am having a minor issue at work with a supervisor. My first instinct was to say something. My second instinct was to keep quiet. That silence offered me time to think the issue through, look at my goals, and strategize how to achieve it. Turns out that the discussion I need to have isn't the discussion I would have started.
Also, through examination, I realized that my initial reaction was to do something destructive and cruel to hurt my supervisor. I was angry - and if I told you why, most people people would agree that his behavior was unprofessional and I had every right to be upset. Justifiable anger is a real Achilles heel of mine. Acting on it may relieve the initial pressure, but historically I've burnt a lot of bridges that way.
It's so cool in recovery to learn how to live better. I don't mean that I wasn't a good person before; I always had good intentions and did the best I knew how! I mean that in recovery I get to transcend the quirks (toxic behavior patterns) that held me back.
I got all of this from reading your comments on the Undies today. I learn a lot from being here!
Have a wonderful sober day, everyone!
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Thanks, Glee! "Justifiable anger" - oh my! That's one of my biggest weaknesses. I still have a difficult time with that though I think I'm doing a little bit better in terms of interpersonal relationships. Living with a couple hundred people is forcing me to learn better how to get along :-)
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Hi undies. Survived another womp day. I sprained my ankle at womp and it's nice and swollen now. Not too fun since 90% of my job I'm running around the wompland. Looking forward to Sunday when I can just rest and not be walking on it.
Glee I agree when someone hurts you trying to get even and hurt them back just isn't worth it and just lowers you to their level. Good job pausing and thinking about the issue. Hope it ends up working well for you.
Off to bed for this girl
Glee I agree when someone hurts you trying to get even and hurt them back just isn't worth it and just lowers you to their level. Good job pausing and thinking about the issue. Hope it ends up working well for you.
Off to bed for this girl
Living and Loving Life at Last
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BeFree keep that ankle elevated whenever you're not actually on it, I'm so glad you are doing so well. Xx
Good to see so many new faces here ( and JimUK an old one!
how are you doing?)
I believe that because this group contains people at different points along the journey, there is often someone who has passed a particular pothole or diversion and knows how to help you avoid it or manage it. We don't get a map for this road, we do get some tools we can use to flatten out the bumps and straighten some curves, but having someone with us who can help us, or someone asking our help, gives us a sense of inclusion which addiction deprives us of. No matter who an active addict is surrounded with, they are alone with their addiction for as long as they are active.
Here, we find we learn to enjoy helping others to overcome difficulties, sharing experience and enthusiasm. The pride an addict can feel from celebrating an anniversary, is something only another addict can understand, suddenly we have gone from self loathing to self respect, that is mega.
There is a uniqueness to this group, we are at different stages, we don't all share the same interests, we don't all use the same methods of sobriety, what we do have is a desire to succeed and a wealth of experience and support to help achieve that.
Which is why this particular UndieGraduate, can never find it within myself to sever my connection either.
Good to see so many new faces here ( and JimUK an old one!
how are you doing?) I believe that because this group contains people at different points along the journey, there is often someone who has passed a particular pothole or diversion and knows how to help you avoid it or manage it. We don't get a map for this road, we do get some tools we can use to flatten out the bumps and straighten some curves, but having someone with us who can help us, or someone asking our help, gives us a sense of inclusion which addiction deprives us of. No matter who an active addict is surrounded with, they are alone with their addiction for as long as they are active.
Here, we find we learn to enjoy helping others to overcome difficulties, sharing experience and enthusiasm. The pride an addict can feel from celebrating an anniversary, is something only another addict can understand, suddenly we have gone from self loathing to self respect, that is mega.
There is a uniqueness to this group, we are at different stages, we don't all share the same interests, we don't all use the same methods of sobriety, what we do have is a desire to succeed and a wealth of experience and support to help achieve that.
Which is why this particular UndieGraduate, can never find it within myself to sever my connection either.
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It's quite around here today where is everyone?
I worked my butt off in wompland today. Had a thought about how a cold beer would be nice but stuck with a Pepsi instead. I'm still beating myself up a bit about my relapse but trying not to dwell on it too much.
Off to bed for this undie. One more day of womp before my weekend
I worked my butt off in wompland today. Had a thought about how a cold beer would be nice but stuck with a Pepsi instead. I'm still beating myself up a bit about my relapse but trying not to dwell on it too much.
Off to bed for this undie. One more day of womp before my weekend
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Sweet dreams, BoozeFree!
Finishing day 85 here. Good, solid, basic day. Laundry, reading, SR, work. Nothing major happened, good or bad, and that's quite OK. I'm about to watch the first episode of the new Wet Hot American Summer series on Netflix. Quite excited about that as the movie is one of my favorite comedies of all time. Hope the show is anywhere near as good...
Finishing day 85 here. Good, solid, basic day. Laundry, reading, SR, work. Nothing major happened, good or bad, and that's quite OK. I'm about to watch the first episode of the new Wet Hot American Summer series on Netflix. Quite excited about that as the movie is one of my favorite comedies of all time. Hope the show is anywhere near as good...
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Casey, enjoy those Blah days when nothing much happens.... So much easier than 'Interesting Times' !
Well done on dodging the bullet BeFree, those cold beer moments still grip me occasionally but I remoind myself that alcohol is dehydrating so I'm better off sticking to my fizzy water! As for the relapse, yes on the one hand it would have better not happening, but on the other hand, you learned so much from it and will work that much harder at maintaining your sobriety, that maybe it needed to happen for you to confront the reality of your choices. It's never easy at your age to think of an alcohol free life when the world around ie enforcing constantly that it is cool to drink. In fact unless you drink particular brands you are decidedly 'uncool' . But life is always a challenge, and I happen to know you have the tenacity to fight and win.
NYMet, how's the Eurotour going??
How are you doing now Amp?
Have a good, sober weekend Undies. Be kind to yourselves and your loved ones, at day's end, you are all you have.
Well done on dodging the bullet BeFree, those cold beer moments still grip me occasionally but I remoind myself that alcohol is dehydrating so I'm better off sticking to my fizzy water! As for the relapse, yes on the one hand it would have better not happening, but on the other hand, you learned so much from it and will work that much harder at maintaining your sobriety, that maybe it needed to happen for you to confront the reality of your choices. It's never easy at your age to think of an alcohol free life when the world around ie enforcing constantly that it is cool to drink. In fact unless you drink particular brands you are decidedly 'uncool' . But life is always a challenge, and I happen to know you have the tenacity to fight and win.
NYMet, how's the Eurotour going??
How are you doing now Amp?
Have a good, sober weekend Undies. Be kind to yourselves and your loved ones, at day's end, you are all you have.
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I'm doing OK, thanks Toots. We've had friends staying since Monday. They're here enjoying a holiday and their kids are about the same ages as mine so everyone is having a good time. I just closed the doors to my office for the month of August so my holiday begins today too!
My friends don't drink heavily but, hey, they're on holiday, right? So it's beer and wine pretty much with every meal. Last night was mojitos at the beach bar. I feel a bit out of the loop and obviously temptation is there but I'm pretty strong at the moment. Don't much enjoy sitting in bars when the rest are drinking, but I can do it.
Of course, I was asked about my drinking but I just said I'd given up and they said, what? Everything? Even wine? I said, Yep, and that was it.
All in all quite pleased with myself that I can keep this going. Feeling quite confident at the moment
Hope you are all keeping well! Have a great weekend!
My friends don't drink heavily but, hey, they're on holiday, right? So it's beer and wine pretty much with every meal. Last night was mojitos at the beach bar. I feel a bit out of the loop and obviously temptation is there but I'm pretty strong at the moment. Don't much enjoy sitting in bars when the rest are drinking, but I can do it.
Of course, I was asked about my drinking but I just said I'd given up and they said, what? Everything? Even wine? I said, Yep, and that was it.
All in all quite pleased with myself that I can keep this going. Feeling quite confident at the moment
Hope you are all keeping well! Have a great weekend!
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