Class of March 2013 Part 42
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Me, too!
I'm just waiting to get one last piece of paperwork from the hospice nurse, then off we will go. I have packed his bag, and an aide has come over and given him a shower.
Right now I'm just standing around drumming my fingers...
I'm just waiting to get one last piece of paperwork from the hospice nurse, then off we will go. I have packed his bag, and an aide has come over and given him a shower.
Right now I'm just standing around drumming my fingers...
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I am utterly exhausted. Hopefully tomorrow I'll have some energy back. My husband just sent me an e-mail: "We should be stress free since your dad is gone, but I'm not."
Me, either. Physical therapy almost killed me today. My shoulders are apparently extremely tight, so the therapist was digging in with her thumbs. The right shoulder wouldn't get any looser, so she went in with her elbow!
I wanted to scream with pain!
Me, either. Physical therapy almost killed me today. My shoulders are apparently extremely tight, so the therapist was digging in with her thumbs. The right shoulder wouldn't get any looser, so she went in with her elbow!
I wanted to scream with pain!
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Oh Gilmer. Physical therapy sucks. I did nearly 6 months of it after my hip surgery. It's quite common to have increased pain in the beginning, but it's worth riding it out to the end. A good physical therapist will push you to your limits. Sounds like yours is pretty good. 
I am totally exhausted. I had off today. My first day off in a long time. Of course I still had to log in for a few hours and take care of some emails/business because clients were still working today.
I was going to clean my apartment today but that didn't happen. It's not like I'm living in filth or anything, but it is starting to get pretty cluttered. As my girlfriend constantly points out, I have boxes from Christmas that I still haven't broken down and recycled. I will try to get to it tomorrow.
I was so exhausted, I laid down for what I thought would be a quick nap at around 5pm and just woke up - at 1:30am!!! Ugh. At least I have some time to catch up and post here.
I did manage to cook an amazing lunch - braised calamari stuffed with artichoke hearts topped with a pan sauce, with eggplant and zucchini ratatouille. This was definitely one of the hardest things I've ever cooked, but it came out so delicious. I slept through dinner so I'm going to eat my left overs now and watch some more Orange is the New Black.
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Toots - I really do want a kid eventually. Although I'm 33 and my girlfriend is 35 and time isn't exactly on our side (I have more grey hairs than I can count on both hands!), I still think we can pull it off in a few years. Besides, I'm already used to only sleeping 4-5 hours a night because of work. Plus my work gives amazing paternity benefits for the USA - 6 weeks paid! I know it's nothing compared to what you guys get in the UK/Europe, but it's amazing for the states.
The goal would be to eventually transition into a job in-house at a company so my hours would be more 9-5 and I wouldn't be traveling so much. I just got back from Texas yesterday (too hot!) and have to fly out Tuesday to Denver and drive 1.5 hours north.
I am totally exhausted. I had off today. My first day off in a long time. Of course I still had to log in for a few hours and take care of some emails/business because clients were still working today.
I was going to clean my apartment today but that didn't happen. It's not like I'm living in filth or anything, but it is starting to get pretty cluttered. As my girlfriend constantly points out, I have boxes from Christmas that I still haven't broken down and recycled. I will try to get to it tomorrow.
I was so exhausted, I laid down for what I thought would be a quick nap at around 5pm and just woke up - at 1:30am!!! Ugh. At least I have some time to catch up and post here.
I did manage to cook an amazing lunch - braised calamari stuffed with artichoke hearts topped with a pan sauce, with eggplant and zucchini ratatouille. This was definitely one of the hardest things I've ever cooked, but it came out so delicious. I slept through dinner so I'm going to eat my left overs now and watch some more Orange is the New Black.
IMG_0354.jpg
Toots - I really do want a kid eventually. Although I'm 33 and my girlfriend is 35 and time isn't exactly on our side (I have more grey hairs than I can count on both hands!), I still think we can pull it off in a few years. Besides, I'm already used to only sleeping 4-5 hours a night because of work. Plus my work gives amazing paternity benefits for the USA - 6 weeks paid! I know it's nothing compared to what you guys get in the UK/Europe, but it's amazing for the states.
The goal would be to eventually transition into a job in-house at a company so my hours would be more 9-5 and I wouldn't be traveling so much. I just got back from Texas yesterday (too hot!) and have to fly out Tuesday to Denver and drive 1.5 hours north.
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Wow DD your work exhausts me!
Went to visit MIL last night, apparently she has improved greatly but her speech and movement is still quite poor. We were told that she was found quite quickly and they are optimistic about her recovery. She seemed in good spirits.
We have a crate arriving today from Boston with the things we put in storage there ( thinking our return would be January past) so it will be like Christmas here finding all sorts of things we had forgotten about!!
Gilmer, I think I have your problem a solid wedge of clenched muscle in ly shoulders and neck I'm sure it doesn't help my pain. I. Thinking of weekly massage, but never get around to booking anything. Your post today made me realise I need to get my finger out and arrange something! Have a fab weekend sweetheart, no one deserves it more.
Went to visit MIL last night, apparently she has improved greatly but her speech and movement is still quite poor. We were told that she was found quite quickly and they are optimistic about her recovery. She seemed in good spirits.
We have a crate arriving today from Boston with the things we put in storage there ( thinking our return would be January past) so it will be like Christmas here finding all sorts of things we had forgotten about!!
Gilmer, I think I have your problem a solid wedge of clenched muscle in ly shoulders and neck I'm sure it doesn't help my pain. I. Thinking of weekly massage, but never get around to booking anything. Your post today made me realise I need to get my finger out and arrange something! Have a fab weekend sweetheart, no one deserves it more.
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Good morning Marchers from a cold old Paradise. I have something funny to share with you this weekend, I just need Mr Marcher to take a photo for me. I commented recently on a blog that I read regularly about a polar fleece cosy a friend had made for her hot water thermos. I suggested that she give up her day job and make human size ones as the weather has been so cold lately. Being the completely mad woman she is she made me one, it turned up in the post yesterday!
On a more serious note I need to give some thought to something that has been asked of me. A large local art venue is run by volunteers, recently the committee disbanded for a variety of reasons, I've been asked if I would take on the booking agent role for 6-12 months. I'm seriously considering doing it as it wouldn't involve more than a meeting a month (I detest meetings and won't do anything that involves them as a rule) and organisational work is right up my alley but...would I be over-committing (on my time generally) is the question. At least I am thinking it out and not just saying "yes" and then feeling resentful if I can't cope.
DD it's wonderful to see you! You sound just as busy as ever but in a very good way and I'm so glad you are getting some time off. I have never braised calamari so I am intrigued.
A very happy July 4th to all of you Yankee Marchers, I hope the weekend is just what you would like it to be.
On a more serious note I need to give some thought to something that has been asked of me. A large local art venue is run by volunteers, recently the committee disbanded for a variety of reasons, I've been asked if I would take on the booking agent role for 6-12 months. I'm seriously considering doing it as it wouldn't involve more than a meeting a month (I detest meetings and won't do anything that involves them as a rule) and organisational work is right up my alley but...would I be over-committing (on my time generally) is the question. At least I am thinking it out and not just saying "yes" and then feeling resentful if I can't cope.
DD it's wonderful to see you! You sound just as busy as ever but in a very good way and I'm so glad you are getting some time off. I have never braised calamari so I am intrigued.
A very happy July 4th to all of you Yankee Marchers, I hope the weekend is just what you would like it to be.
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Marcher: Thank you for your wishes to all of us in the US for a happy 4th of July.
I bet by writing out your thoughts about becoming the booking agent first, you will be content with your decision, whatever it may be.
On a more somber note, my friend, C, who I had written about here, passed away Thursday evening with her three daughters present. My heart just goes out to them, as there are now such cute little grandchildren who will miss growing up with that grandma as part of their life.
I bet by writing out your thoughts about becoming the booking agent first, you will be content with your decision, whatever it may be.
On a more somber note, my friend, C, who I had written about here, passed away Thursday evening with her three daughters present. My heart just goes out to them, as there are now such cute little grandchildren who will miss growing up with that grandma as part of their life.
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1Day I am so sorry to hear about your friend.
Sass I laughed at the smiley you chose, if it was wearing orange it would look just like me in my "cosy".
W-e-l-l except for the fact that I ski on my bum rather than on the skis!
1Day thank you for the suggestion (btw this is a volunteer position not a full time job) and thank you Dee for the vote of confidence, I have been sitting down for the past half hour and nutting this out. I'll be maintaining my commitments to the online forum I admin at and also my monthly help at the foodbank in town so, on paper, it looks like I could do the job if it really is calendar organisation and email work. I'd really like to see this organisation get back on its feet so I'll get clarification at Monday's meeting and decide then.
Isn't everything is so much easier to do in sobriety. I find that running the house and business & looking after Mum is so much more manageable sans hangovers and other time wasters plus I am so much healthier. I am aware that I do have a track record of over-committing so I am being cautious.
My favourite bachelor is coming over for dinner tonight, he's a lovely quiet fellow who is a long-time friend of Mr Marcher's, he's a great traveller and has recently come back from a trip to Iceland and islands around there so it will be an interesting evening. I'm experimenting with some easy Japanese cooking so wish me luck!
Sass I laughed at the smiley you chose, if it was wearing orange it would look just like me in my "cosy".
W-e-l-l except for the fact that I ski on my bum rather than on the skis!1Day thank you for the suggestion (btw this is a volunteer position not a full time job) and thank you Dee for the vote of confidence, I have been sitting down for the past half hour and nutting this out. I'll be maintaining my commitments to the online forum I admin at and also my monthly help at the foodbank in town so, on paper, it looks like I could do the job if it really is calendar organisation and email work. I'd really like to see this organisation get back on its feet so I'll get clarification at Monday's meeting and decide then.
Isn't everything is so much easier to do in sobriety. I find that running the house and business & looking after Mum is so much more manageable sans hangovers and other time wasters plus I am so much healthier. I am aware that I do have a track record of over-committing so I am being cautious.
My favourite bachelor is coming over for dinner tonight, he's a lovely quiet fellow who is a long-time friend of Mr Marcher's, he's a great traveller and has recently come back from a trip to Iceland and islands around there so it will be an interesting evening. I'm experimenting with some easy Japanese cooking so wish me luck!
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Oh Marcher I hope batchelor friend hasn't brought you any of that stinky Icelandic fish!!!
As for the editing job; the fact you are giving it thought after saying no outright to another volunteer job the other week leads me to think you would be interested in doing it and get something back from doing it. I say go for it!
1day sorry about your friend, I'm glad you got in touch before it was too late. You can still be there for her daughter.
Happy 4 th July my American cousins
MIL has been moved to another hosp that specialises in stroke care which means she is stable and will get intensive therapy all good news.mwe will get in to see her today.
I'm suffering bad insomnia just now, worse than usual, nothing seems to work. P'd off with it tbh.
As for the editing job; the fact you are giving it thought after saying no outright to another volunteer job the other week leads me to think you would be interested in doing it and get something back from doing it. I say go for it!
1day sorry about your friend, I'm glad you got in touch before it was too late. You can still be there for her daughter.
Happy 4 th July my American cousins
MIL has been moved to another hosp that specialises in stroke care which means she is stable and will get intensive therapy all good news.mwe will get in to see her today.
I'm suffering bad insomnia just now, worse than usual, nothing seems to work. P'd off with it tbh.
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Marcher, I'm sure if you decide to take the new post on, you'll do well: you are very efficient.
Toots, I hope you get some sleep soon!
1Day, I'm sorry about C, but it sounds as if the passing was as good and meaningful as could be. I'm very glad her daughters were able to be there for her.
Toots, I hope you get some sleep soon!
1Day, I'm sorry about C, but it sounds as if the passing was as good and meaningful as could be. I'm very glad her daughters were able to be there for her.
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Just when I think I'm running at extremely high efficiency, a wrench gets thrown into the gears!
I think I may have accidentally thrown away a valid medical card from my dad's wallet (along with the reams of junk). It has already been hauled away.
The nursing home yesterday suspected that the cards I presented to them didn't cover the prescriptions. I have been panicking a little since--but then I looked at the website, and I realize that I can submit the receipts for reimbursement if need be.
Thank God he still has active prescription insurance. Awhile ago (as some of you might recall) I accidentally cancelled it altogether! I will try to get a new card ASAP so that I can present it to the facility he'll be moving to permanently by the end of the month.
I know we're doing the right thing--and when he's not in his right mind, I have no doubt--but it still seems so sad and I wish it could be different.
Thursday night they found matches on him (!--he's never smoked in his life!--they must have dug it out from the junk in his bag. God knows what old stuff he has in there. I just took out the heavier things and put in some necessary clothes and toiletries).
He kept trying to get out of bed and escape, too, so they had to inject him with a horse's dose of Ativan. I wonder if they'll call me with a report today.
I think I may have accidentally thrown away a valid medical card from my dad's wallet (along with the reams of junk). It has already been hauled away.
The nursing home yesterday suspected that the cards I presented to them didn't cover the prescriptions. I have been panicking a little since--but then I looked at the website, and I realize that I can submit the receipts for reimbursement if need be.
Thank God he still has active prescription insurance. Awhile ago (as some of you might recall) I accidentally cancelled it altogether! I will try to get a new card ASAP so that I can present it to the facility he'll be moving to permanently by the end of the month.
I know we're doing the right thing--and when he's not in his right mind, I have no doubt--but it still seems so sad and I wish it could be different.
Thursday night they found matches on him (!--he's never smoked in his life!--they must have dug it out from the junk in his bag. God knows what old stuff he has in there. I just took out the heavier things and put in some necessary clothes and toiletries).
He kept trying to get out of bed and escape, too, so they had to inject him with a horse's dose of Ativan. I wonder if they'll call me with a report today.
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