Class of March 2015 Part 5
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Originally Posted by Pouncer 
Gawd, I thought this would never happen but I am pretty upset for no real reason. Birthday depression? Recovery depression? Dunno.
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Sorry to hear you've been down guys
Secretary Id be devastated for a long time if anything happened to my dog, I think it's perfectly natural to still be grieving and feeling down. as long as you take care of yourself and keep reaching out here when you're struggling things will get easier
Pouncer sorry you're having the birthday blues too! It happens to me too, for no identifiable reason, I've just chalked it up to one of life's mysteries... i think any celebratory time can be a bit bittersweet. I do hope you're feeling ok though stick around here if you still feel 'off'
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Sorry to hear you've been down guys
Secretary Id be devastated for a long time if anything happened to my dog, I think it's perfectly natural to still be grieving and feeling down. as long as you take care of yourself and keep reaching out here when you're struggling things will get easier
Pouncer sorry you're having the birthday blues too! It happens to me too, for no identifiable reason, I've just chalked it up to one of life's mysteries... i think any celebratory time can be a bit bittersweet. I do hope you're feeling ok though stick around here if you still feel 'off'
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I found an insightful article that helped:
Slightly Nutty: Dealing with Birthday Depression and Birthday Sadness: An Update
Yes, depression came on randomly. It is gone already. I left the house with the family and we went to Olvera Street. I bought a lot of Mexican trinkets for my daughter and me. We had fun -- the boys (husband and son) did not.
Slightly Nutty: Dealing with Birthday Depression and Birthday Sadness: An Update
Yes, depression came on randomly. It is gone already. I left the house with the family and we went to Olvera Street. I bought a lot of Mexican trinkets for my daughter and me. We had fun -- the boys (husband and son) did not.
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Originally Posted by Kafkaesque
You know, I hadn't thought about it like that, but that's a great way to look at the past of drinking with friends and drinking in general. In a way, all of us have outgrown drinking to some degree that's why we are all here looking for a fresh start 
thank you for sharing, Bobcat!
thank you for sharing, Bobcat!
Originally Posted by NikTes
Does anyone know how to embed both quotes from a post? I.e. the original and the responding? Good points here by Kafka and Bobcat. I think Wolf has mentioned it too. The acceptance part, I'm thinking of. Accepting that we don't drink and that we won't. Accepting our present and our past. Accepting our limitations, which become redefined into new healthy choices. Accepting each small step forward, however they manifest. We're all working hard at this new life. It can only get better.
buttonyou can do that for another post as well...but the final quote needs to be done with the quote button
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Originally Posted by Mel12
After sobriety, does anyone else feel as if they are suddenly standing at a crossroad, needing to make a major life decision, a choice that is long, long overdue?
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Originally Posted by Pouncer
Gawd, I thought this would never happen but I am pretty upset for no real reason. Birthday depression? Recovery depression? Dunno.
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Thank you for clearing the quote thing up dee.
Pouncer, I hope you're feeling better today.
Mel, I relate to that feeling. I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels at the moment. I don't feel down or depressed about it though. I'm just seeing the feeling as one of many I've experienced on this journey. I'm working hard on acceptance and being mindful.
I hope my fellow marchers are doing well. Hugs and love to you all.
Pouncer, I hope you're feeling better today.
Mel, I relate to that feeling. I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels at the moment. I don't feel down or depressed about it though. I'm just seeing the feeling as one of many I've experienced on this journey. I'm working hard on acceptance and being mindful.
I hope my fellow marchers are doing well. Hugs and love to you all.
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Originally Posted by Mel12
After sobriety, does anyone else feel as if they are suddenly standing at a crossroad, needing to make a major life decision, a choice that is long, long overdue?
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Originally Posted by Pouncer
Yes! This thought is consuming my life now. Thanks for posting. I am glad I am not the only one.
DECISION PRESSURE --> FREAKOUT STRESS --> AVOIDANCE BEHAVIOR --> DRINKING
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Originally Posted by Mel12
After sobriety, does anyone else feel as if they are suddenly standing at a crossroad, needing to make a major life decision, a choice that is long, long overdue?
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I'll get there is time. My children are grown, so it's just me, myself and I. My AH has made his life choices and it does not include me, which I am dealing with, most of the time. 15 years of marriage is a long time. So happy i did not have any babies with him.
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Originally Posted by Mel12
After sobriety, does anyone else feel as if they are suddenly standing at a crossroad, needing to make a major life decision, a choice that is long, long overdue?
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I waited a while tho til I was sure my head was giving me good advice
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Originally Posted by Mel12
After sobriety, does anyone else feel as if they are suddenly standing at a crossroad, needing to make a major life decision, a choice that is long, long overdue?
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Originally Posted by Mel12
After sobriety, does anyone else feel as if they are suddenly standing at a crossroad, needing to make a major life decision, a choice that is long, long overdue? Mel
Originally Posted by Mel12
I have to watch it, and here's why: DECISION PRESSURE --> FREAKOUT STRESS --> AVOIDANCE BEHAVIOR --> DRINKING
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I had many overdue choices to make, yeah
I waited a while tho til I was sure my head was giving me good advice
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I waited a while tho til I was sure my head was giving me good advice
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