Class of March 2015 Part 5
I think you need to give yourself credit especially when the credit is due and it is totally overdue. Please do not self label yourself as a dry drunk.
Stop the 'you're darned if you do and you're darned if you don't' thinking. Making changes is difficult and making that change a way of life is nothing more then a miracle.
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what exactly is a dry drunk? I have heard this expression before. Some say there is no just thing and some say differently. I think you need to give yourself credit especially when the credit is due and it is totally overdue. Please do not self label yourself as a dry drunk. Stop the 'you're darned if you do and you're darned if you don't' thinking. Making changes is difficult and making that change a way of life is nothing more then a miracle.
A dry drunk is someone who is sober in the literal sense but is still obsessing over drinking and hasn't moved on mentally/emotionally from drinking.
Thank you everyone for the encouragement. I was feeling super depressed yesterday but I saw my doctor this morning and he changed my medication. I guess the one I was on causes drastic mood swings and that combined with my trigger of seeing people drinking just led me to an emotional breakdown. Thank you all for your support everyone. I really appreciate it. I don't know what I would do without you all.
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Thats a very common thing, especially at the stage though Kafkaesque We drank, and obsessed about drinking, for years - it's gonna take a little time for that to break up. It's also still very common to do some internal bargaining as well - maybe if I did this, I'd...' Recovery and change are processes rather than events. I was like a yo yo for 3 months or so. Then thiongs started to settle and I got some traction... don;t leave before the miracle happens , as they say in AA. Right now you could be right where you need to be D
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Thank you Secretary! It was a long week but today is much better. Congratulations on your 70 days!! That's an awesome accomplishment, too! It's hard dealing with the dramatic feelings lately but I'm hopeful for a long lasting happiness that will be accompanied by sobriety! We are over halfway to triple digits, right? Thank you for the support!!
Just wanted to share this thought I had earlier. My mention of religion is only included because it's what started the line of thinking.
Ya know, I was just wondering if when "a certain book" says not to judge, that includes judging ourselves. I mean don't we pass judgment on ourselves based on the same ****** up measurements the rest of the world uses? Kind of like the saying "Don't worry about what other ppl think of you, it's none of your damn business anyway."
I hope that my mention of religion has not offended anyone. I DO HOPE that some of you who are having some self doubt and feeling low, can find some peace.
Ya know, I was just wondering if when "a certain book" says not to judge, that includes judging ourselves. I mean don't we pass judgment on ourselves based on the same ****** up measurements the rest of the world uses? Kind of like the saying "Don't worry about what other ppl think of you, it's none of your damn business anyway."
I hope that my mention of religion has not offended anyone. I DO HOPE that some of you who are having some self doubt and feeling low, can find some peace.
Random comments:
At 71 days, I don't obsess about drinking, but still think about it.
Djinn: I agree with your comments on judgment 100%.
Happy Mothers Day to the Moms in our group.
About to leave for a family gathering. Will probably be stressful, but praying it goes well.
At 71 days, I don't obsess about drinking, but still think about it.
Djinn: I agree with your comments on judgment 100%.
Happy Mothers Day to the Moms in our group.
About to leave for a family gathering. Will probably be stressful, but praying it goes well.
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Thank you Secretary! It was a long week but today is much better. Congratulations on your 70 days!! That's an awesome accomplishment, too! It's hard dealing with the dramatic feelings lately but I'm hopeful for a long lasting happiness that will be accompanied by sobriety! We are over halfway to triple digits, right? Thank you for the support!!
I second the Happy Mother's Day to the moms in the March group I'm not a mother yet, but I'm excited to spend the day celebrating my mom who has been my rock and support!
Bobcat, I hope your day goes well and ends up not being stressful!
Have a great Sunday and Mother's Day everyone!
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Just wanted to share this thought I had earlier. My mention of religion is only included because it's what started the line of thinking. Ya know, I was just wondering if when "a certain book" says not to judge, that includes judging ourselves. I mean don't we pass judgment on ourselves based on the same ****** up measurements the rest of the world uses? Kind of like the saying "Don't worry about what other ppl think of you, it's none of your damn business anyway." I hope that my mention of religion has not offended anyone. I DO HOPE that some of you who are having some self doubt and feeling low, can find some peace.
I was raised a lutheran and I do have very strong religious beliefs and i find myself praying my heart out on many occasions.
Checking in on day 24-ish. I just wanted to drop by to say that I am still here and still stone cold sober.
I haven't been around over the last two days so that I could deal with some PTSD issues. I got new medications from my p. doc, saw him on friday, and am now looking for a new therapist - someone who specializes in trauma.
Things are going really well with my husband, too. We are taking that one day at a time as well.
I hope everyone has a happy mothers day.
I haven't been around over the last two days so that I could deal with some PTSD issues. I got new medications from my p. doc, saw him on friday, and am now looking for a new therapist - someone who specializes in trauma.
Things are going really well with my husband, too. We are taking that one day at a time as well.
I hope everyone has a happy mothers day.
I've been lurking rather than posting. Life has got a bit 'samey' and I'm on guard for the av as I'm periodically feeling bored with things. I've also noticed some complaining creeping into my conversations with others.
And there's this simmering anger which sometimes explodes into a seething rage. For no logical reason. I'm not a nice person to be around sometimes.
Just stream of consciousness talk guys.
Any book or website suggestions for not being a bitch?
Really happy to hear this pouncer.
I've been lurking rather than posting. Life has got a bit 'samey' and I'm on guard for the av as I'm periodically feeling bored with things. I've also noticed some complaining creeping into my conversations with others.
And there's this simmering anger which sometimes explodes into a seething rage. For no logical reason. I'm not a nice person to be around sometimes.
Just stream of consciousness talk guys.
Any book or website suggestions for not being a bitch?
I've been lurking rather than posting. Life has got a bit 'samey' and I'm on guard for the av as I'm periodically feeling bored with things. I've also noticed some complaining creeping into my conversations with others.
And there's this simmering anger which sometimes explodes into a seething rage. For no logical reason. I'm not a nice person to be around sometimes.
Just stream of consciousness talk guys.
Any book or website suggestions for not being a bitch?
I Many BIG changes still need to be made. I need to start asserting my needs a bit better. (Always trying please others and be a peacekeeper before protecting myself.) Also many of my complaints and anger seem to be tied to feelings of hopelessness. Working on that too... How to not dwell on the past. How not to worry about the future.
Totally get that. I just can't deal with the husband any more and I have totally withdrawn from him, not speaking, just kind of cohabitating in the same house. We haven't slept in the same room for years (he has sleep apnea), we don't eat or watch TV together. And lately I see how negative he is to me, no matter what I say to him, so I slowly started to withdraw, and the funny thing is, I don't feel so sad anymore!! How weird is that?
I don't seem to miss drinking as much anymore, except when we are out at a restaurant. But yesterday I remembered how when I was drinking, I used to have anxiety in the pit of my stomach 24/7 and I realized I haven't had that feeling in a long time! And that made me happy. I guess it's true, it's the small things that can make you happy.
secretary, we're living parallel lives! right down to the husband's sleep apnea and separate beds. and me too about the anxiety. it has really dissipated. what a relief. I'm still gobsmacked with the realization that it was the booze/morning withdrawal which was causing the chronic state of it! I haven't had that morning wine in months now. really starting to see my alcoholism for what it was -- and how much it was affecting my day to day life, in unexpected ways. hooray for small things! which do become big things over time...
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Hi everyone looks like we've all been busy lately as there hasn't been much discussion going on the last few days. Today is day 66 for me. I'm nervous about going to a happy hour after work but I have the entire thing planned out and will be ordering a coke and leaving after an hour. I don't know why I'm so nervous, I feel like I'm going crazy (then again, maybe I am- my mood swings have been so volatile lately I can't even predict how I'm going to feel or react to certain things anymore!)
Anyways I'm just venting. I feel like my mood swings are starting to interfere in my life and I'm desperate to make them stop. I'm going to be going to sleep extra early tonight to see if going running before work in the mornings helps.
How's everyone else doing?
Anyways I'm just venting. I feel like my mood swings are starting to interfere in my life and I'm desperate to make them stop. I'm going to be going to sleep extra early tonight to see if going running before work in the mornings helps.
How's everyone else doing?
Well Kafka, I can tell you, running has helped me in the past. It's a good way to shed some stress and bring your mood up.
I'm on day 31 today I think. Having a hard go of it today too. So many moving pieces lately with my job, my family, moving and going back to school to get my Bachelor's. 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, every day, for the past 3 months.
It's taking its toll and I keep finding myself thinking about a drink. It hasn't been this bad for awhile. I know that alcohol most certainly WON'T make things better and I keep telling myself that too. AV is just on a soapbox with a megaphone today... If AV was a real person, I'd tackle him to the ground and beat his good for nothing face in... How do I do that mentally?
I'm on day 31 today I think. Having a hard go of it today too. So many moving pieces lately with my job, my family, moving and going back to school to get my Bachelor's. 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, every day, for the past 3 months.
It's taking its toll and I keep finding myself thinking about a drink. It hasn't been this bad for awhile. I know that alcohol most certainly WON'T make things better and I keep telling myself that too. AV is just on a soapbox with a megaphone today... If AV was a real person, I'd tackle him to the ground and beat his good for nothing face in... How do I do that mentally?
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