Class of December 2014 Part 15
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Yes. The one and only. 
. Things are definitely improving since I told him to knock off the bringing up of the past. If he starts to now I cut him right off. Sometimes I think he doesn't even realize he's doing it but since I told him how sh*tty it makes me feel he's been pretty good about it. I told him true friends don't do that to each other and he keeps saying that's what he wants to be. Feels good to stand up for myself.
. Things are definitely improving since I told him to knock off the bringing up of the past. If he starts to now I cut him right off. Sometimes I think he doesn't even realize he's doing it but since I told him how sh*tty it makes me feel he's been pretty good about it. I told him true friends don't do that to each other and he keeps saying that's what he wants to be. Feels good to stand up for myself.
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Originally Posted by MLD51 
Yes. The one and only. . Things are definitely improving since I told him to knock off the bringing up of the past. If he starts to now I cut him right off. Sometimes I think he doesn't even realize he's doing it but since I told him how sh*tty it makes me feel he's been pretty good about it. I told him true friends don't do that to each other and he keeps saying that's what he wants to be. Feels good to stand up for myself.
. Things are definitely improving since I told him to knock off the bringing up of the past. If he starts to now I cut him right off. Sometimes I think he doesn't even realize he's doing it but since I told him how sh*tty it makes me feel he's been pretty good about it. I told him true friends don't do that to each other and he keeps saying that's what he wants to be. Feels good to stand up for myself.
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Originally Posted by Tonks
I had to edit some inappropriate comments, omg am I finally growing up? ****!
As for the dating thing.... I personally think if you've never had a period of healthy living (i.e., not drinking) single, then you owe it to yourself to have that time. Otherwise you run the risk replacing booze with sex or codependency. I dunno... I spent a year and a half single and most of it sober while I was doing the therapy thing and it was scary but I'll never regret taking that time away.
But only you can know what's best for yourself. So your mileage may vary.
As for the dating thing.... I personally think if you've never had a period of healthy living (i.e., not drinking) single, then you owe it to yourself to have that time. Otherwise you run the risk replacing booze with sex or codependency. I dunno... I spent a year and a half single and most of it sober while I was doing the therapy thing and it was scary but I'll never regret taking that time away.
But only you can know what's best for yourself. So your mileage may vary.
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I don't know, I think I'm over my ex as person, he's a jackass and kind of a coward, and I don't like that obviously... now I'm at the anger ( but not too angry) stage, moving into the getting on with my life stage. Hopefully anyway
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I have spent a lot of time single and a lot of time in relationships. Personally I think if I was in a serious relationship right now I wouldn't be able to focus as much on my recovery and personal growth. I didn't start drinking till I was 32 and was married at 20 so I think I need some sober me time. That said there are some things I really miss...Dee is back so I will leave it at that.
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