Class of December 2014 Part 7
I'm so sorry for your loss....holds the key
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((Fabl)) I'm so sorry sweetie!
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Please take care of yourself and know we are here and will be waiting to hear from you.
Much love coming your way.
xoxo
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Please take care of yourself and know we are here and will be waiting to hear from you.
Much love coming your way.
xoxo
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I'm sorry for your loss FABL.
Please stay sober - it will let your grief run its natural course, and it will allow you to be there for others and them for you.
all my prayers and best wishes in this difficult time.
Please stay sober - it will let your grief run its natural course, and it will allow you to be there for others and them for you.
all my prayers and best wishes in this difficult time.
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FABL - so sorry that you have lost your father. You and your family will be in my morning prayers. We are here for you. Dee said it, stay sober and let yourself grieve naturally.
Check in when you can. We are with you through this sadness.
Check in when you can. We are with you through this sadness.
...holds the key
Join Date: Dec 2014
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Y'all...what Dee said about grieving naturally, un-medicated, really made me stop and think.
I lost my sister and a husband, and I was drunk/stoned the entire time and for years after.
Not only do I regret not 'being' there for my family, but I've never grieved properly for either of them..I mean how can you grieve when your blacked out the majority of the time! Their deaths are always just looming over me and it's an awful way to live. I was so selfish when I was drinking! I mean seriously disgustingly selfish. Not sure how you go about the grieving process years later or if your just stuck with the turmoil in your head?
Anyway....fabl...please don't make the mistakes I did. It's one of those regrets that doesn't get better with time.
And Dax....thank you for your kind words. That pretty much just made my day!
I lost my sister and a husband, and I was drunk/stoned the entire time and for years after.
Not only do I regret not 'being' there for my family, but I've never grieved properly for either of them..I mean how can you grieve when your blacked out the majority of the time! Their deaths are always just looming over me and it's an awful way to live. I was so selfish when I was drinking! I mean seriously disgustingly selfish. Not sure how you go about the grieving process years later or if your just stuck with the turmoil in your head?
Anyway....fabl...please don't make the mistakes I did. It's one of those regrets that doesn't get better with time.
And Dax....thank you for your kind words. That pretty much just made my day!
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My two cents on grieving. I have lost many close people - when I was young, older, drunk, sober and everything in between. Allowing yourself to grieve in the moment is, of couse, optimal. But if you could not, did not or chose not to at the time then grieving when your able is important. Take the time to honor your grief, past or present. The burden of holding it can only wear you down.
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I don't comment much on things, others say here, it's true. My rolling in and out is obnoxious and rude and flash in the pan.
I flit in and out. For obscure reasons. *sad smile* But this post isn't about me, it's about you.
Thank you! Each of you is a gem. PLEASE indeed, Love Thyself. Find that the goal, dear ones.
If we can do that, the world is tolerable and even, lovely.
Find
A way
Today.
*smooch*
I flit in and out. For obscure reasons. *sad smile* But this post isn't about me, it's about you.
Thank you! Each of you is a gem. PLEASE indeed, Love Thyself. Find that the goal, dear ones.
If we can do that, the world is tolerable and even, lovely.
Find
A way
Today.
*smooch*
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