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Old 02-14-2015, 11:58 AM
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Fingers crossed for your deal Napster & congrats on the ice cream bargains RAL!
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Old 02-14-2015, 04:23 PM
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Balls - just realised, by doing more research after event I've gone and fitted the 75hp turbo not the 90 so just made a slow van even slower...

Not to worry, just found a 125hp one on eBay, more spanners and tea next Sat then
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Old 02-15-2015, 12:52 AM
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What's the difference between a Greyhound terminal and a large-breasted lobster?
Tell tell tell courage. You do tease - leaving us overnight without the answer

Am going to love this one as the new man in my life is a lobster fisherman
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Old 02-15-2015, 12:59 AM
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I saw my brother yesterday for the first time in 3 years. We were just casually chatting and he said he'd cut down drinking, didn't drink as much as he used to ( you really can hear the self justification and trying to convince oneself- not a criticism btw just awareness)

Anyway then, which seemed relevant to the conversation, I said I don't drink anymore. He said "what nothing?" I said no, haven't had a drink since 2012 ( yes it sounds like 3 years ish so slight exaggeration but 2012 not untrue)

Do you know what his first comment was? "Oh we'll have to change that tonight then! " and laughed nervously. hahaha. I didn't take offence at all and stayed calm as I could see, from his original comment and his reaction to my sobriety is that he is concerned about his own drinking and my decision highlights his own position.

We used to drink a lot together. I didn't see him often but when we did it always involved drinking. Me giving up drinking would be unbelievable. It certainly changes the balance of things. I'm no longer the silly pissed little sister. I am a grown up, sober person who drinks water and bakes bread ...............and tells bad silly jokes
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Old 02-15-2015, 08:51 AM
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What's the difference between a Greyhound terminal and a large-breasted lobster?
One's a crusty bus station and the other's a busty crustacean!
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Old 02-15-2015, 09:10 AM
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Originally Posted by ReadyAtLast View Post
I'm no longer the silly pissed little sister. I am a grown up, sober person
It's interesting how the family dynamics shift a bit when you get sober -- I'm the youngest in my family and was also a bit of a write-off family-wise, the runt. Not a contributor, ignorable. Now with my brother's mental illness more flagrantly in the foreground than it's been in a long time, I'm getting some weird messages from my siblings. They are "reaching out". I have one sister who's been sober for almost 2 decades and she knows that I stopped drinking, am in AA, and am now on anti-depressants. I suspect she's talked to the other sister. The two of them have started making these uncharacteristic supportive overtures in my direction -- probably even more so towards my brother -- which are sweet enough but kind of too little and way too late. But well-intentioned, I suppose.

I expect they're expressing their own fears, like your brother, RAL, in his way. My parents' generation is mostly all dead now, and since my cousin's suicide I suppose there's a certain amount of wondering what's in store for all of us as we age. Sometimes I think that we hover around the "sick" one partly in superstitious hope that it will somehow direct ill fate away from ourselves.

There's my cheery thought for this a.m.! Have a great day!
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PS on reflection I thought my post above sounded a little resentful towards my siblings that they haven't been "there" for me. Not true -- I feel a little of that towards my parents, but I haven't been available physically or psychologically when my siblings have had their troubles, any more than they've been available to help me. We were raised to hide our weaknesses most of all from those closest to us. I just think it's odd that at least superficially some of that seems to changing. And I'm playing along with it nicely, but keeping my walls up.
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Old 02-15-2015, 11:45 AM
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Originally Posted by courage2 View Post
One's a crusty bus station and the other's a busty crustacean!
LMAO

I needed that.
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Old 02-15-2015, 09:25 PM
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I have been absent... We did another re-org at work... we do them about every 12-18 months (I know right?!?!?) and in the 9 years I have been there, have gone from a large local company to a world wide conglomerate. Each reorg, we lay off more and more people causing the people left to do more work with no transition of the work. People don't know that they're going to be asked to go.... it's really insane. And unhealthy. Anyway, I could write volumes on it, but at the moment, all I will say is that I'm still searching, in all this time, I've only had the one real interview, a couple of phone calls and that is it but I need to think of a different strategy because I can't work the way that they want us to, which is around the clock, personal life be damned.

I don't think that you sounded resentful courage, I think that it sounded realistic though. I had similar relationship dynamics with my family because of my drinking and now I'm relatively fine. Note I say relatively. LOL

Met with the sponsee, had to have a talk about commitment and whether or not this was going to work, I think we're good now. I had the flu and lost a huge chunk of time because I was down and out for 4 days in bed, didn't even hit 600 steps on the fitbit!

I'm off to bed, need to get some sleep before this week starts all over again.

Everyone have a good night.
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Old 02-17-2015, 12:53 AM
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I hope your work situation gets resolved Tam,either by you finding a new suitable position or more stability where you are, if that is what you want. It really does sound very stressful

I also didn't think you sounded resentful courage. Sibling dynamics can be very complex and challenging, to say the least. There are 5 of us and it can be very difficult at times. As much as we love our siblings doesn't mean we like them or they would be people we would choose to be friends with in other circumstances.

Last night Jr RAL went to stay with his sister and I am going to the spa so feeling very relaxed and excited already. I'm going to read all day and not speak to anyone as much as I can-pure bliss!! Even just waking naturally in the morning without a small boy waking me up is a luxury

Happy Tuesday everyone.x
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Old 02-17-2015, 11:23 AM
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It's hard if your sibling "doesn't have a problem", but you know they do, especially if you have had them yourself. It's hard for me to get on my brother who basically has to go for a beer or 3 after work before he goes home to deal with his 3 kids. Anything you say basically becomes "Really? You are telling me not to drink/drink less? Really?"
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Wish me luck friends, or wish my dinner companions luck with me -- I have to go to a rather raucous Mexican place for a work dinner tonight. I'm not going to want to drink, but I am going to want to poke someone in the eye!

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Old 02-17-2015, 04:09 PM
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Poke no one in the eye courage! But if you do, please tell us how it went.
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Hope it turns out less violent that you fear Courage

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Old 02-17-2015, 05:22 PM
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Oh la! I went to the place and there was nobody there! The guest of honor cancelled and nobody told me LOL -- I'm very pleased, I did the round trip to the restaurant on a transfer so it barely cost me a dime, I bought a 2015 calendar for me & the minion on the way home for one buck, and my husband is in charge of dinner. And I don't have to watch my tongue or where I'm waving a fork!
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I like it! How is the minion?
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I love the minion! She's so much smarter than I am, but she has the grace to make an occasional mistake, just to make me feel better!
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We arrived home yesterday. JR RAL spent 2 days away. Tomorrow I am off to a spa hotel for the weekend whilst Jr RAL goes to stay with his father. It must seem that I spend most of my life at spas away from my child but it isn't the case. This week is a one off

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend.x
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Have a great spa weekend, Ready! Anyone in Scotland should have one, as often as possible. You pay for it on the blustery days!
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Old 02-19-2015, 07:10 PM
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have fun! I've never been to a spa... and I live close to a really popular one. What do you do? Are you totally pampered? Cukes on the eyes? shiatsu massage? seaweed beatings?

I just got home from Zumba, kinda tired, going to bed soon. Glad for sobriety. LOL I'm crabby at work, if I were drinking, I would be a nightmare.

Everyone have a great night!
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