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Old 12-09-2014, 07:58 AM
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Thanks for the encouraging words, folks. I'm not really depressed, just having a bit of difficulty coping with things I can't change or are very difficult to change, in myself and others. And the winter and not enough sunlight accentuates that dark mood. I'm trying to get my attitude shaped back up, I hate to exercise, but I did take a short walk at lunchtime and will try to do so again today. It didn't seem to help, my afternoon was horrid, but I shall try again.
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Old 12-09-2014, 02:21 PM
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Hi FG, have you ever tried yoga? Great mood lifter.
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Old 12-09-2014, 07:14 PM
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No, haven't tried yoga. I walked again today, was in a good mood, felt well, even spent 30 minutes on the phone with a work person I don't much care for and managed to be cordial and friendly while he got all his mistakes fixed very slowly. I've decided to try to walk every day at lunch if the weather isn't awful and my allergies cooperate, I'm fortunate enough to work from home, so I can start a bit early and do a long lunch and it works out fine. It's a short walk, just half a mile, but for a guy that doesn't usually do any exercise I figure it's an okay start. Looking at the trees and leaves and various things breaks my thoughts away from whatever I might be stewing over to a large extent, and I could stand to lose more weight.
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Old 12-10-2014, 06:01 PM
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That sounds like a good idea, FG. I work in a windowless office and break up my day from time to time with walks. I think it helps. A colleague has just left so I'm going to ask to move to her office, which has a window. Sunlight makes a difference for me.

Little of any great interest to report from here. The Great (By My Standards) Kitchen Rehab of 2014 starts next week. I mentioned it some time back. When I bought my place, I swore getting rid of the backsplash tile was the first thing I'd do. Well, 11 years later, it's finally happening. It will be a beastly task to remove the existing backsplash, which looks like a giant baby shower invitation. The interceding period won't be pretty but it'll be worth it all in the long run.

(Of course, now I'm wishing I could replace the existing cabinetry with maple cupboards but my name ain't Venecia Rockefeller ... maybe someday.)

Adv, glad to hear the worst-case scenario for the typhoon never materialized.
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Old 12-10-2014, 06:59 PM
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I'll bet it will be beautiful, Venecia. Christmas present for yourself. I always buy myself a Christmas present. I wish it could be new carpeting this year but my name isn't Rockefeller either......

I usually dislike (hate) Christmas, but my new therapist asked me if there was one thing I could bring with me if I was going to another planet or something and I decided it would be Christmas music. So I've been doing a lot of listening to Christmas music and it is cheering me immensely. I may end up enjoying things this year!

My new therapist is very good. I like her very much. She really focuses on me when I'm with her and keeps me on topic. I tend to try and put a good face on things but she won't let me do that because she's very concrete in her approach. Anyway, I very happy to have found her. I do believe she is my much needed present to myself this year. There is much room for improvement in my mood (personality?) but I'm feeling fairly well right at this moment. Love you, Guys!
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Old 12-10-2014, 08:39 PM
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A baby shower invitation backsplash, huh, Venecia? I'm not sure I can visualize that, but I'm getting little kid Easter Card. Probably close enough. I do not wish to discuss home renovations at this time. I have come full circle, I think I only loved the idea of owning, now I feel as if the home owns me. I would like nothing more than to have a total loss, take the insurance proceeds, and walk off, to rent forevermore.

Glad you are doing well now, Else, sounds like the new therapist is good for you.

Today wasn't a great day. But it wasn't all awful either. I did walk again, I found I wanted to. Today I think I'm not struggling to cope, I'm fighting dissatisfaction. Is that the same thing? Maybe.
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Old 12-11-2014, 05:48 AM
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Does this help, FG? (It does look a little Easter-y, now that you mention it.)



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Warning: happy ending ahead!

So I'm on the phone with my brother, who lives with his family in my hometown. He tells me he'd been invited to stop by and visit some friends, who live out in the country, when his cell rings. It's my aunt. The town ambulance, staffed by remarkable volunteers, is at Mom's.

This isn't a first. When it comes to heart attacks, she and Cheney are tied; the similarities begin and end there. Various ambulance volunteers know their way around our family home. The last time they were there ... it was Dad.

My brother departs his friends' home quickly, a sense of dread growing with each mile of country roads until he gets to Mom's. Where she is watching "Wheel of Fortune." No ambulance.

Rewind: Picture another widow in my hometown, chain-smoking and with Tammy Faye Bakker-scale mascara and eye-liner, listening faithfully to her police scanner in her senior citizen apartment. She hears the ambulance being alerted to Mom's and promptly gets on the horn to my aunt, who calls my brother.

It was the monthly test of Mom's medical alert system, designed to ensure the proper connections are all working.

Sometimes, I think of Mom as a "tough old bird," as one of her cardiologists once described her. Sometimes, I think of her as fragile--alone and missing Dad terribly.

It's just nice to think of her watching "Wheel of Fortune," the TV volume turned up loud as she calls out the answers well before the contestants.
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Else: I'm so thankful you have found a therapist that you like! That often proves to be a difficult feat.

Venecia: can't wait to see after pictures! What a scare with your mom. I am so happy that everything turned out and your mom is ok.
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Old 12-14-2014, 07:33 AM
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I've certainly seen worse, V, but yeah, that doesn't work at all. Blind people really shouldn't make design choices. I'm looking forward to an after picture now! Good news on the false alarm.
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Old 12-14-2014, 07:22 PM
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Thanks, FG. Neighbors told me that the former owners who installed the ghastly tile had shades of pink throughout the home. (Insert joke about who wore the pants in that household.) I can see hints of it in a couple spots that weren't covered by subsequent paint jobs. It must have looked like a band of Mary Kay ladies went wild here.

On a more serious note, I see there are troubles in Sydney. Dee, I hope all ends safely for your fellow countrymen and women.

May we all have a peaceful, healthy and sober week. It's been quiet here as of late. I hope all are doing well.
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Old 12-17-2014, 01:00 AM
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Kind of quiet here lately.. classmates must be enjoying the holidays, lol. I personally can't wait for them to be over, although it is kind of fun here in the Philippines to see Palm trees with lights on them.. and be swimming in the pool.

The holidays were always a bit dysfunctional when I was a kid. Dad was always working overseas, mom was always engaged in church-related activities and trying to do too much, so things were always hectic. We even drove to the Midwest a couple of winters to be with the cousins who lived in Hyde Park, in Chicago. Yes, we drove. From California. In winter. Everyone else was headed the other direction, lol. Plenty of stories there. Bless mom, she didn't shy away from adventure.

But, overall it's always just something I want to be over with, which is pretty much how I felt back then. I am trying though, to make it nice for my gf, and her son.

Elsewhere, how are you doing? Hope things are still going well.

Cheers to all.
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Old 12-17-2014, 06:57 AM
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We even drove to the Midwest a couple of winters to be with the cousins who lived in Hyde Park, in Chicago.
I lived in Chicago for a bunch of years, including a few in Hyde Park. I lived in the old Windermere Hotel across the street from the Museum of Science and Industry.
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Hi guys and gals, forgive me for getting so caught up in church fair and musium tree decorating and my other activities that I've been neglecting my close pals...

Sounds like everyone is doing well. Else, glad you have found a good therapist. Saw my doc the other day. She was quite happy with how I'm doing on SSRI. I have not told anyone in my family that I'm taking anything. Realized in her office how out there your health problems are. Problems are listed by date and faxed to any referral. I wondered why when I had a eye treatment a few weeks ago in outpatient, the nurse asked me if I had problems with anxiety!! Sadly, nothing is private between you and your doc...
Had a Xmas party tonight . So grateful that I can have a nice time and not drink...much easier than last year.
Would love to redo my kitchen! I'm envious!
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Hi guys and gals, forgive me for getting so caught up in church fair and musium tree decorating and my other activities that I've been neglecting my close pals...

Sounds like everyone is doing well. Else, glad you have found a good therapist. Saw my doc the other day. She was quite happy with how I'm doing on SSRI. I have not told anyone in my family that I'm taking anything. Realized in her office how out there your health problems are. Problems are listed by date and faxed to any referral. I wondered why when I had a eye treatment a few weeks ago in outpatient, the nurse asked me if I had problems with anxiety!! Sadly, nothing is private between you and your doc...
Had a Xmas party tonight . So grateful that I can have a nice time and not drink...much easier than last year.
Would love to redo my kitchen! I'm envious!
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Hi, all --

Had my annual girl's get-together today with a close friend -- a trip to our fantastic art museum for an exhibition on Italian styles since WWII. It was really something. Some of the dresses were jaw-droppingly beautiful. Then lunch. So a quiet day before I gird my loins for something I'm dreading: a visit to the Mall of America tomorrow. A place I try to avoid like the plague but cannot if I'm going to finish shopping.

The kitchen is 90 percent done. Grouting will be on Monday, followed by a photo or two here. It looks wonderful and I'm so happy I finally got it done.

Generally, I've been all right. Continuing to sleep better than I have in a long time, which is helpful. But I know what you mean, FG, when you talk about the pressures of coping. Tomorrow brings the day of the least light. I'll be glad when the days get longer.

How is everyone?

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Glad to hear things are going well V! Did you go to the Walker or MIA? I just love the various art museums and cultural events in the twin cities. There is just so much support there for the arts.
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Glad to hear things are going well V! Did you go to the Walker or MIA? I just love the various art museums and cultural events in the twin cities. There is just so much support there for the arts.
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Thanks, Adv. It was at MIA, one of my all-time favorite places; I go several times a year, even if it is just to see pieces I've viewed many times before. We're truly fortunate here to have had a significant history of philanthropy that makes a lot of great places and organizations possible. The MIA collection is substantive. There was a major Matisse exhibit there earlier this year, which was great.

The Italian exhibit was fascinating. Lots of background on how Italy became a fashion powerhouse in the hardscrabble days after WWII. And I actually liked the dresses of the '50s and '60s better than the modern ones. They were truly elegant. There were a couple dresses on display that were worn by Audrey Hepburn and Ava Gardner in movies.

I'm a little "meh" on the Walker. (I lean toward more traditional art.) The other museum I particularly like here is The Museum of Russian Art, which grew out of a significant private collection. Haven't been there in a while, but hope to get back there one of these days.
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I agree. I visited MIA for the first time in October of 2013 and it was very nice, especially the Asian collection they had at the time. However, I do admit the details are a little fuzzy... having just quit drinking a month or so prior, I think my brain wasn't making hi def recordings yet, lol.
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