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Old 09-23-2014, 01:11 AM   #321 (permalink)
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Hey all, I'm posting buzzed but with a desire to get sober.

I've got a major life changing event coming up (birth of a child) in less then a week, and am having major work stressers as well as we just kicked off a major job.

I have a sincere desire to get sober for the birth and thereafter, and want to do it with all of you. I feel pretty lost....

I've never been this type of person, but if you guys have some spare prayers, I could use them.
You're in the right place. Keep posting. Prayers for you and the safe, timely arrival of this precious child.
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Old 09-23-2014, 01:26 AM   #322 (permalink)
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The thing about recovery Jim Jim is it doesn't stay like it is in the early days - it gets better and so do we

On that note, I've been feeling pretty unwell, but I'm bouncing back now.

I'm glad to see everyone who's returned back for another go, and I'm thrilled to see so many Septemberites hitting some pretty significant milestones.

Sorry for the site troubles avice but it's not just you - it's me, and a whole lot of other folks too - hopefully the techies will sort it out soon as.

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this class is getting huge! Just trying to catch up since yesterday

avice -haha. autocorrect on my phone.. "diver day" should be "sober day"! I guess I need to add sober to my dictionary? And yes, watermelon juice is fantastic. With coconut juice? I'll have to try it... I think I'd break an ankle with trampoline dodgeball though, I'll leave that to the pros.. Glad you are feeling a little better!

safeandsound - hope you are feeling better and the w/d is subsiding! You won't have to go through it again

NeverThought- great job on 4 weeks! My kids are big into minecraft as well, I've only personally played it once. Kinds of like having unlimited legos. I tend to be more on the introverted side myself, but I'm much more capable of conversation and remembering people sober. I like your junk drawer analogy, I have lots of "tidying" to do in life and in my thoughts.

needinghelp82- welcome back, sorry about your recent relapse and hospitalization, but I'm glad you are here for a new start

snowbunting - welcome to the class! I've been ambivilant at times. Unfortunately it often takes something bad to happen to remind me why I am quitting (an argument, a blackout, etc.)

Cecelia44 - We're on day 9! Tomorrow is double digits!!! I made it to 10 days once this year, but not a full month in about 4 years.

Luper - glad you are doing better and almost 30 days. Festivals with lots of drinking can be tough, glad you were able to face it and add it to your sober experiences! It feels great to make it through something like that.

blisswithin- welcome!

tryingintexas - hope it gets easier for you and your GF! It has for me, she seems to understands now I want to quit. I've been told here though that it has to be an "inside job". I have to want to quit and really do the work on my own. Others are just there to support me. I think in time as your GF had confidence that you can do it, she will be very happy for you. :-)

razor15- Yes, it was a much simpler time! Commander Tom was on Channel 7 out of Buffalo, he was a local weather forecaster and had a Saturday morning children's variety show. Having a Christian show like Davey and Goliath on network tv is not something you would see today.

Alynn - congrats on your AA meeting! It takes guts to open up in front of a group.

Deanyaa - glad you are sticking with us!

forwardmotion - glad you are back! There is nearly always someone on here, and ofter just taking the time to put our thoughts together in a post is long enough to work our way through the urge to drink. I need to remember that myself.

walkinganewpath - my GF and I probably enable each other as well. It makes it a bit harder, but my drinking can't go on, so I'm quitting. I do see a difference in her drinking when I'm not getting drunk every night. She'll have a few, but we aren't sitting down and finishing a bottle of rum like we have in the past. wishing you the best for friday!

thisibelieve - Good job on getting out for exercise! IS Bikam yoga in the type in a really hot room? Not sure I could deal with the heat, but yoga can really work out the kinks in my body and feels great afterwards. I've only done it at home though.


dearprudence- I had no idea sleepy hollow was a series now. way to go on double digits! I'm one day behind you...

facingfuture - best time to get sober is today, welcome!

sobriavida - congrats on 15 days!

brisies - welcome

jimjim- Yeah, SR brings me back from the brink of drinking a lot of times. This is a great group of people and their stories remind me why I came here to begin with. Don't give up!
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mystified- Reading your old posts, I'm a wino myself. It gets very tiring and I'm glad to give it up and make it past 9pm awake. Welcome!
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Good morning all. I sure have a lot of thread-reading to do so I can get acquainted with everybody here This is a huge (and rather fabulous) class, I must say. Maybe it's something to do with it being September, that lovely back-to-school month when we often start to take ourselves more seriously. I absolutely love the autumn, everything about it is a motivation to stay sober: curling up in a cosy sweater with an engrossing paperback and a cup of steaming mint tea, seeing the dewy cobwebs in the garden in the morning, going blackberry picking in the woods, choosing the scary films I want to watch this Halloween, swapping summer salads for warming meals with plenty of roasted parsnips... okay, I'm getting carried away here now. Basically I love autumn

Just to quickly introduce myself - I'm a binge drinker. I first joined SR a few months before I got married in 2012 (different username, can't remember what it was), asking if people thought I should quit drinking until my wedding. The fact that I had to ask was an answer in itself, but I kept drinking anyway. Then in March last year I joined again, wanting to get sober for good so we could start trying for a baby. I was sober three months, and it was a lovely time of my life. Then some bad things happened and I backslid. It also became clear that I had fertility problems, and I had to start investigations into what was wrong, which was really stressful and upsetting. I also lost my father just before Christmas in particularly awful circumstances. I wasn't ready to quit with everything that was going on - I just let alcohol do its job of numbing my pain and making me feel like death.

In May this year I came back here but drank on Day 13. All summer I struggled to string sober days together - 3 here, 5 there. The fertility investigations finally culminated in laparoscopic surgery nearly two weeks ago, and I was told I have stage 4 endometriosis and will need IVF Obviously it's really bad news, but having the diagnosis is actually better than living in fear of it, because at least I have a path now, and I can set goals for myself.

It's also really motivating for sobriety, because it means that I basically CANNOT, MUST NOT, WILL NOT drink, if I want a chance at having a family. I have to follow a strict diet now to try to control my condition, and needless to say, alcohol is not a part of it: it will make my condition worse. I want a family more than I want a drink, and even though there are so many what ifs, and it is hard to stay positive, it is a huge, huge, huge incentive and motivation.

Sorry that was so long I'm so relieved to be on Day 14 now, and I'm so happy to be here
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Hope you feel better soon anyhow Dee.
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Hey Zetec, welcome to SR. How's it going ?
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I have 8 days now-please may I join? Xx
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September 2014 Will Be My Month

Well hear I go. Quitting again. This time, it will be the last. I have promised my wife and myself. This time I'm thinking forward about how I will handle upcoming events. I'm thinking about how others will react and what I really want to disclose to others. This time I WILL do it.
I know I'm in the first couple of days and that's when I'm most motivated. The next week will be a real challenge. My wife and I are going on vacation and there are so many triggers that I have to avoid and not give in. I will do it. If I don't, I will lose everything. My life as I know it today will be over. I don't want that. I want to continue to grow myself, and my marriage.
I'm so grateful for this forum and it's members. I know it's going to be the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. I hope that with time it will get easier. Please help me get through this.
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I know what you mean JimJim ... there's an amazing spirit here

Welcome Zetec, Flossia and hiya Goose - good to see you guys joining

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I am on Day 2 and happy to be part of the class of September 2014.
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Just starting Day 2. I had a crummy nights sleep - but I still feel better this morning than I did yesterday morning. I even managed to get the kids off to school without any yelling on my part. I have an 8 year old boy that just can't seem to do anything until I tell him 4 times...and has taken to calling his older sister big butt every time he gets mad at her. So not yelling at them (him especially) is quite an accomplishment. When I have a hangover I'm really not a very nice mom

Having some coffee and trying to figure out the right balance of getting some stuff done and taking it easy on myself today.

All that said my goal for today is staying out of the package store. Being here yesterday helped me do that.

Wishing you all a sober day!!
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Thankyou for the welcome! I really want to do this. I only managed 4 days last time. I've got the shakes, feel spaced out and sick, and can't wait for today to be over and on day two.
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Thankyou for the welcome! I really want to do this. I only managed 4 days last time. I've got the shakes, feel spaced out and sick, and can't wait for today to be over and on day two.
Just wanted to send you a hug. Be kind to yourself today and hang on.
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nmd, Double digits! I didn't think of that, but you are right. We can do it! Yeah for us!

snowbunting, I love fall too! It is my favorite season. Nothing like curly up with a good book in a warm cozy sweater! I'll do mine with a cup of hot cocoa.

Zetec and flossyfressia, yes, you may join! Welcome to both of you!

goose333, we are all here to help one another. Post often, read others' posts and join in the forum. We can stay sober together.

walkinganewpath, you can do it. One day at a time.

So another fall day here. I see on Google that today is officially the first day of autumn. Weather here is cloudy with a chance of rain. I am thinking of baking some cookies this afternoon. Should smell great and warm up my house, plus nothing like pipping hot cookies fresh out of the oven.

Day 9 here for me. Feeling better today with more sleep and the congestion I think is clearing up. Achooooo! Sneeze, sneeze, sneeze. It is off and on. Would that be still withdraw or is it allergies?

Should be a good day. Have some work to do here and will probably take the afternoon off. Staying sober one day at a time.

Hugs to everyone!

Oh and sorry if I don't respond to everyone's posts on here. There are so many that I usually just read the last page.
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Thanks for the encouragement nmd, Avice (MMM), neverthought, Alynn, Dee, everyone else. That withdrawal period was brutal!

Yesterday I did not have withdrawals. Finally! I felt good physically and clear mentally. Strangely enough, I also had a passing thought that a glass of wine would be nice. It was a gorgeous sunny day. After work I thought about sitting on a patio having a cold glass of white wine. Like it was ever one glass! But it was just a quick, fleeting thought with almost no real desire behind it. As someone said here (Alynn?) what I really wanted was the sun, a patio, and relaxation. Some day I'll be able to do that at my favorite spot, but not yet.

Made the mistake of getting on the scale. Not one pound lost. This is dangerous territory for me since one time I relapsed for exactly that reason--resentment after a month sober with no weight loss (looking back on it, I definitely had less fat and more muscle). I used to be super-fit and have always been obsessed with it, like most women. Over the years as I continued drinking tons of booze without changing my eating habits and also got older, I gained fat on my stomach and hips regardless of exercise. I don't like how I look.

I've tried to keep away from the scale this time. Sobriety is so much more important. Even if I stay exactly this weight (which I doubt), it is still worth it not to have hideous blackouts and to hurt people constantly and feel awful and ashamed. Please remind me if I start obsessing at any point. This is about my life, not my appearance.

Lots of new people coming in--welcome! It gets better.
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Cheerleading Time!

GO Zetec! Go flossyfressia! Go goose333! Welcome and get ready to rumble! It's really as simple (and complicated) as One Day at a Time!

GO nmd and Cecila44! May you have an easy time through your last single-digit day. Nothing but double-digits starting tomorrow! Gosh, it seems just like yesterday I was in single-digits. (Oh, wait, it WAS just yesterday. )

All my other classmates: Let's do this!

(I think I'm feeling positively giddy this morning! Look at how many exclamation points I'm using!!!!!! Sure sign I need another cup of tea and to get to work!!!!)
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safeandsound, I can totally relate to your post. In the past, I would have tried to fix all my problems at once...the weight, organize my house, work, exercise...and this time I think I need to just "fix" the drinking first. Even though I am overweight, which KILLS me, I am not restricting calories until I reach what I would consider to be a stable point in my sobriety. Then, with a clear head (which, on Day 6, I don't have yet), I want to add weight loss as a second priority. I'm not sure if it will work, but I do know that taking on too much all at once is a recipe for failure for me. Good luck to you. :-)
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