One Year & Under Club Part 35
Living and Loving Life at Last
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Hi all
Welcome Mish, I too am an Over-Achieving Undie, I consider myself classroom assistant here now!
Sober1ck I've seen a few 'there but for the Grace...' Moments since I stopped drinking, and it is extremely uncomfortable to watch, in part for how I must have acted at time, in part for the poor folk who had to deal with me.
GF, you know my thoughts, but I feel DG made some great points. I also feel that if you have to be there, make a point of showing that you are if not outright enjoying yourself, at least feeling content to be sober. And thank you for your lovely words, but I think if anyone drivers on it's definitely me!!!
Ali have you tried relaxation recordings? I have a couple of Apps on my tablet that I listen to and even if I wake up in the night, I often read for a wee while then put an app on and drift off again. Other times I just have to grit my teeth and give it a few days. It seems to come in cycles with other PAWS symptoms.
Afree66 good to see you back, and good that you rationalised the AV. It does lessen as time goes on, but still catches me unaware at times, often no longer times of stress, but the exact opposite, when we are having a nice evening out and other sophisticats around me are supping in a civilised manner. Of course, they are either Normies, which I know I can never be ( it's like comparing homo erectus with Neanderthal man, different species) or they will end up under a table by the end of the night, which is no longer want to do.
BeFree, what are your weekend plans? Is it this weekend the Punk festival or was that last week? I lose track. Are you getting to know the new girl at work better?
Carlos did you break 80? I'd be excited to break 3 figures, that how sh1te I am at golf, but the way I see it, I get more shots for my money. (and I get to play in the sand)
I wish all Undies a happy sober weekend
Welcome Mish, I too am an Over-Achieving Undie, I consider myself classroom assistant here now!
Sober1ck I've seen a few 'there but for the Grace...' Moments since I stopped drinking, and it is extremely uncomfortable to watch, in part for how I must have acted at time, in part for the poor folk who had to deal with me.
GF, you know my thoughts, but I feel DG made some great points. I also feel that if you have to be there, make a point of showing that you are if not outright enjoying yourself, at least feeling content to be sober. And thank you for your lovely words, but I think if anyone drivers on it's definitely me!!!
Ali have you tried relaxation recordings? I have a couple of Apps on my tablet that I listen to and even if I wake up in the night, I often read for a wee while then put an app on and drift off again. Other times I just have to grit my teeth and give it a few days. It seems to come in cycles with other PAWS symptoms.
Afree66 good to see you back, and good that you rationalised the AV. It does lessen as time goes on, but still catches me unaware at times, often no longer times of stress, but the exact opposite, when we are having a nice evening out and other sophisticats around me are supping in a civilised manner. Of course, they are either Normies, which I know I can never be ( it's like comparing homo erectus with Neanderthal man, different species) or they will end up under a table by the end of the night, which is no longer want to do.
BeFree, what are your weekend plans? Is it this weekend the Punk festival or was that last week? I lose track. Are you getting to know the new girl at work better?
Carlos did you break 80? I'd be excited to break 3 figures, that how sh1te I am at golf, but the way I see it, I get more shots for my money. (and I get to play in the sand)
I wish all Undies a happy sober weekend
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Join Date: Sep 2013
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Thank you toots and Alcohol Free! It's funny, I either sleep too much or not enough. Reading does often help me too. But for some reason, last night sleep just didn't want to come. I finally got about 1.5 to 2.0 hours. I'll live and hopefully sleep well tonight. I agree toots, I think the PAWS thing comes and goes and that's just the way it is for a long time. It's a lot better than it used to be, for me, thankfully. PAWS was terrible for me for many, many months and still rears it's ugly head sometimes.
I'm glad I have a place to come when I'm awake like that and people who will "talk" to me.
I hope you all have a great day!
Praying for and grateful for y'all!
I'm glad I have a place to come when I'm awake like that and people who will "talk" to me.
I hope you all have a great day!
Praying for and grateful for y'all!
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Aly, I was up at 3 and I was perky enough to talk to AFree; but I got really sleepy soon after and had to go back to bed! I just now woke up. From time to time I get insomnia, too. Just a random thing every couple of weeks. I hang around SR and do other reading to while away the time. It does seem like somebody's always on SR--and it's very interesting and instructive to read other threads in different forums.
Hope you function well today!
Hope you function well today!
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Toots, Carlos, DG, Gilmer - thanks. It's been a difficult process - a lonely and frustrating one, for all the reasons DG said - and I appreciate your input a ton. My sobriety was not in jeopardy last night, partly due to planning a responsible exit strategy that would support my sobriety, and partly because circumstances worked out that the crowd that he drinks with wasn't there. He came home to finish drinking instead. Lol. (At least I can laugh about it.) They'll be there Sunday. The repercussions of the life I made for myself as a heavy drinker are everywhere, like DG said.
AFree - glad to see you posting with us. Glad you avoided drinking. We help each other stay on the right track.
R1ck - I drank early in recovery when I was hanging out with someone whose drunken messiness looked like the same I used to get myself into. At first I thought, she looks like I used to - how pathetic. Then I thought, if it's good enough for her, why not join in? That was my last drunk, five months ago. Now when I see folks who are my old kind of messy, it serves as a reminder why I don't want to go back there. Have a good day Undies!
AFree - glad to see you posting with us. Glad you avoided drinking. We help each other stay on the right track.
R1ck - I drank early in recovery when I was hanging out with someone whose drunken messiness looked like the same I used to get myself into. At first I thought, she looks like I used to - how pathetic. Then I thought, if it's good enough for her, why not join in? That was my last drunk, five months ago. Now when I see folks who are my old kind of messy, it serves as a reminder why I don't want to go back there. Have a good day Undies!
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Morning undies!!
AF66 and Mish, welcome to the undies!! A great place to learn, give advice, read, get support, and even just chime in with your
Nice to see you back Aly!!! You've been missed for sure!
Just a quick note today, as I'm using the old laptop to type on. My Dell tablet cratered a few days ago, thankfully it's still under warranty, and I sent it in for repair! All this new technology is great when it works, but frustrating when it doesn't!! At any rate, the Missus and I are going shopping today and I'm looking at buying a new device and not exactly sure what to buy. I bought the Missus an Ipad a couple of years ago for her birthday and she loves it except that it won't play youtube videos posted in the threads. So my question is, what do you use for accessing SR, what are your pro's and con's about the device you use? You guys are all so good when it comes to supporting my recovery and I know you'll be just as good in helping me decide! Thanks!!
AF66 and Mish, welcome to the undies!! A great place to learn, give advice, read, get support, and even just chime in with your
Nice to see you back Aly!!! You've been missed for sure!
Just a quick note today, as I'm using the old laptop to type on. My Dell tablet cratered a few days ago, thankfully it's still under warranty, and I sent it in for repair! All this new technology is great when it works, but frustrating when it doesn't!! At any rate, the Missus and I are going shopping today and I'm looking at buying a new device and not exactly sure what to buy. I bought the Missus an Ipad a couple of years ago for her birthday and she loves it except that it won't play youtube videos posted in the threads. So my question is, what do you use for accessing SR, what are your pro's and con's about the device you use? You guys are all so good when it comes to supporting my recovery and I know you'll be just as good in helping me decide! Thanks!!
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North I use an iPad for SR the most and love it!
AF welcome!!
Aly hope you can get some better sleep soon!
Well couple things happened yesterday. Bad or good first!? ... Let's go with the good... I got promoted to assistant manager and a raise in pay woohoo! I felt very honored to be given that responsibility. And the not so exciting.. My old friend has been texting calling ect and I felt solid about sobriety so stopped by for a bit. What an eye opening experience. He and his 2 friends were wasted high n drunk falling over. One managed to fall into the garage door and break it. I felt like I totally wasted my night sitting there watching them. Might have been just what I needed tho to push me into cutting off that friendship for good tho. Think deleting his number will be a good start.
Anyway off to work.
Toots the punk shows were a couple weekends ago right after I hurt my back so I couldn't go
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AF welcome!!
Aly hope you can get some better sleep soon!
Well couple things happened yesterday. Bad or good first!? ... Let's go with the good... I got promoted to assistant manager and a raise in pay woohoo! I felt very honored to be given that responsibility. And the not so exciting.. My old friend has been texting calling ect and I felt solid about sobriety so stopped by for a bit. What an eye opening experience. He and his 2 friends were wasted high n drunk falling over. One managed to fall into the garage door and break it. I felt like I totally wasted my night sitting there watching them. Might have been just what I needed tho to push me into cutting off that friendship for good tho. Think deleting his number will be a good start.
Anyway off to work.
Toots the punk shows were a couple weekends ago right after I hurt my back so I couldn't go
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Originally Posted by Alysheba 
Ugh, I can't sleep. 
Just had to tell someone, if anyone is up. The second time this week. Oh well. Tomorrow is a light day.
Just had to tell someone, if anyone is up. The second time this week. Oh well. Tomorrow is a light day.
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Originally Posted by Alysheba
Thank you toots and Alcohol Free! It's funny, I either sleep too much or not enough. Reading does often help me too. But for some reason, last night sleep just didn't want to come. I finally got about 1.5 to 2.0 hours. I'll live and hopefully sleep well tonight. I agree toots, I think the PAWS thing comes and goes and that's just the way it is for a long time. It's a lot better than it used to be, for me, thankfully. PAWS was terrible for me for many, many months and still rears it's ugly head sometimes.
I'm glad I have a place to come when I'm awake like that and people who will "talk" to me.
I hope you all have a great day! Praying for and grateful for y'all!
I'm glad I have a place to come when I'm awake like that and people who will "talk" to me.
I hope you all have a great day!
Praying for and grateful for y'all!
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Welcome Mish and AlcoholFree.
Carlos- I forgot to mention yesterday, I'm not saying anything about what clothes I bought, other than C was on my mind when I did my shopping.
BFree- Congrats on the promotion!!
Last night I made more orange chicken with brocolli on the side. I'm really enjoying doing a bit of cooking here and there. And I feel so healthy eating stuff like that. I'm looking forward to the leftovers later today, too.
Well, my plans for the weekend are to hang around the house and do some chores and stuff. Maybe play some drums, do some cooking, or find some sort of craft project to work on.
Carlos- I forgot to mention yesterday, I'm not saying anything about what clothes I bought, other than C was on my mind when I did my shopping.
BFree- Congrats on the promotion!!
Last night I made more orange chicken with brocolli on the side. I'm really enjoying doing a bit of cooking here and there. And I feel so healthy eating stuff like that. I'm looking forward to the leftovers later today, too.
Well, my plans for the weekend are to hang around the house and do some chores and stuff. Maybe play some drums, do some cooking, or find some sort of craft project to work on.
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Originally Posted by DG0409
Carlos- I forgot to mention yesterday, I'm not saying anything about what clothes I bought, other than C was on my mind when I did my shopping.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...1&d=1406388821
Sorry, I couldn't resist...
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Welcome to the Undies, Mish & AlcoholFree! 
You probably already know some of the folks around here, but you'll get to know everyone better than you ever wanted too, soon LOL! There's always something going on here and I know you'll both fit right in!
Trachemys, I love your humor & am grateful that you've taken the steps that have allowed you to reveal it! And the turtle is a great metaphor for recovery.
Alysheba, I don't get a lot of insomnia so don't have great suggestions. Do you fail to fall asleep or wake up in the middle of the night and can't sleep again?
sober1ck, it seems like you're doing great, sleep problems aside! I wonder if computer use interferes with normal sleep?
gracette, good for you for managing that close call. Are you getting any face-to-face support?
Sparky, you sound excellent! I’ve gotta say, though, that I’d be nervous around those 1 proof beers. The chemical amount of alcohol may not be enough to produce a buzz, but for me, drinking NA beer would set off a bunch of mental triggers that would inevitably lead to full-on relapse. I’m sure of it. A virgin mary would just leave me screaming for the real thing. Just sayin’
Gilmer, so glad you found a good dentist!
Gleefan, I sympathize about your husband and his drinking. I don’t know what I’d do – maybe go and set up a little sober camp in a corner of the pool away from him for me & the kids with a lot of fun stuff to do? Let him be envious of your serenity, if he wants to.
Boozefree, glad to see the back is on the mend—stick with cautious exertion tho, you don’t want to strain it again.
Northof49, I have a really lightweight Toshiba laptop that I love. It’s lighter than a Macbook Air and has the full functionality of a desktop, even an Ethernet port which a lot of ultraslims don’t come with.
Siesta, how are you doing? You must have about 8-9 months now, is that right? Great going!
I’m fine – I had a lot going on over the last few weeks. I’d best remain cryptic as Carlos says about my “legal issue” because although it might be the 100% honest thing to turn myself over to the authorities and take all the consequences, that would adversely affect a lot of people. It’s really better this way, which is that while the smoke detectors went off, no fire was detected. And I think I put it out. ‘nuff said.
Carlos, toots, Drake, Dorothy, DG, and Tanja – thanks for still popping in from the Overs! Does that make you popovers? Yum! I'm hungry!
You probably already know some of the folks around here, but you'll get to know everyone better than you ever wanted too, soon LOL! There's always something going on here and I know you'll both fit right in!
Trachemys, I love your humor & am grateful that you've taken the steps that have allowed you to reveal it! And the turtle is a great metaphor for recovery.
Alysheba, I don't get a lot of insomnia so don't have great suggestions. Do you fail to fall asleep or wake up in the middle of the night and can't sleep again?
sober1ck, it seems like you're doing great, sleep problems aside! I wonder if computer use interferes with normal sleep?
gracette, good for you for managing that close call. Are you getting any face-to-face support?
Sparky, you sound excellent! I’ve gotta say, though, that I’d be nervous around those 1 proof beers. The chemical amount of alcohol may not be enough to produce a buzz, but for me, drinking NA beer would set off a bunch of mental triggers that would inevitably lead to full-on relapse. I’m sure of it. A virgin mary would just leave me screaming for the real thing. Just sayin’
Gilmer, so glad you found a good dentist!
Gleefan, I sympathize about your husband and his drinking. I don’t know what I’d do – maybe go and set up a little sober camp in a corner of the pool away from him for me & the kids with a lot of fun stuff to do? Let him be envious of your serenity, if he wants to.
Boozefree, glad to see the back is on the mend—stick with cautious exertion tho, you don’t want to strain it again.
Northof49, I have a really lightweight Toshiba laptop that I love. It’s lighter than a Macbook Air and has the full functionality of a desktop, even an Ethernet port which a lot of ultraslims don’t come with.
Siesta, how are you doing? You must have about 8-9 months now, is that right? Great going!
I’m fine – I had a lot going on over the last few weeks. I’d best remain cryptic as Carlos says about my “legal issue” because although it might be the 100% honest thing to turn myself over to the authorities and take all the consequences, that would adversely affect a lot of people. It’s really better this way, which is that while the smoke detectors went off, no fire was detected. And I think I put it out. ‘nuff said.
Carlos, toots, Drake, Dorothy, DG, and Tanja – thanks for still popping in from the Overs! Does that make you popovers? Yum! I'm hungry!
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