Dollyangel17

Aw, Lucy....so sorry you are feeling down. I can understand your disappointment too. I am glad he is trying to get sober....that's great. But...it's only natural to want to be able to share your journey with your husband. I don't know from experience, but even though you are husband and wife, and you are also an alcoholic, there might still be an element if embarrassment on his part.

Maybe after his meeting you just casually ask how he liked it, and let him know you are proud. Possibly mention that you wouldn't mind joining him sometime if he was comfortable.

For me, I can't talk to my husband about it, because he isn't an alcoholic. In the beginning I was too embarrassed, then when I got more comfortable...I did try once to share some of my drinking lows with him (the ones he wasn't already aware of), and I will never forget the fleeting look if shock and horror in his eyes. Brought me right back to those feelings of self loathing and embarrassment. Haven't shared with him since.

He certainly didn't mean to make me feel that way, and does his best to support me , but he just doesn't understand.

That's why I hang out here with all my mom friends:-)

Hugs to you, and hope you both reach a place of sharing:-)

Dee74

We continue here:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-9-a.html

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