Class of September 2013 - Part 16
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Charlotte North Carolina
Posts: 1,195
I feel like a bachelor a lot of the time she travels she's gone up to 3 weeks at a time I also travel but I'm home a lot I'll fly out one day fly back the next so much of the time it does feel like I'm living alone. That's when my drinking started getting really bad
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Strailya
Posts: 8,019
Originally Posted by GotGrace 
Did we know that Fish is married? I pictured him a bachelor! Now I need to compose a new mental picture of the Fishy One. Must include attractive country lady, a little Dolly Parton-ish, methinks!
Velveteen Rabbit
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
Posts: 2,661
I have noticed that if I like something, I seem to lack that ability to moderate. Coffee....I drink more than just about anyone, ever....all day long. Once I started smoking pot....same thing.....all the time for years. Dieting....yep....I have will power for anything. Working....workaholic for years until recently. Parenting....24/7 and probably overkill.
Anything worth doing, is worth doing to excess was my mom's saying. I just always tell people "my gate is broken"...you know, the gate that goes down in the parking lots. Mine is dysfunctional because I don't have that natural common sense to stop before it gets out of hand.
Since we are talking about patterns, I'm sensing all of us have a high level of intelligence. I feel that everytime I read posts here. And with me personally, it's coupled with some painful childhood experiences. My insecurity is high, so the driver of my thoughts isn't strong enough to use more common sense.
And I can't shut down my mind. It thinks all the time and goes places that makes me feel sorry for schizophrenics. Alcohol calmed that down, and now that it isn't there, I am working triple time to control the mind to just settle the heck down.
This is what's leading me to get into therapy. The veil of alcohol has come off and it's bringing up stuff that I have deadened for a long time. But I'm afraid. Since we are being honest here....yep. I'm afraid to go to counseling. I tried a few years ago and was a mess.
Anything worth doing, is worth doing to excess was my mom's saying. I just always tell people "my gate is broken"...you know, the gate that goes down in the parking lots. Mine is dysfunctional because I don't have that natural common sense to stop before it gets out of hand.
Since we are talking about patterns, I'm sensing all of us have a high level of intelligence. I feel that everytime I read posts here. And with me personally, it's coupled with some painful childhood experiences. My insecurity is high, so the driver of my thoughts isn't strong enough to use more common sense.
And I can't shut down my mind. It thinks all the time and goes places that makes me feel sorry for schizophrenics. Alcohol calmed that down, and now that it isn't there, I am working triple time to control the mind to just settle the heck down.
This is what's leading me to get into therapy. The veil of alcohol has come off and it's bringing up stuff that I have deadened for a long time. But I'm afraid. Since we are being honest here....yep. I'm afraid to go to counseling. I tried a few years ago and was a mess.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Strailya
Posts: 8,019
Originally Posted by LillianGish
I have noticed that if I like something, I seem to lack that ability to moderate. Coffee....I drink more than just about anyone, ever....all day long. Once I started smoking pot....same thing.....all the time for years. Dieting....yep....I have will power for anything. Working....workaholic for years until recently. Parenting....24/7 and probably overkill.
Anything worth doing, is worth doing to excess was my mom's saying. I just always tell people "my gate is broken"...you know, the gate that goes down in the parking lots. Mine is dysfunctional because I don't have that natural common sense to stop before it gets out of hand.
Since we are talking about patterns, I'm sensing all of us have a high level of intelligence. I feel that everytime I read posts here. And with me personally, it's coupled with some painful childhood experiences. My insecurity is high, so the driver of my thoughts isn't strong enough to use more common sense.
And I can't shut down my mind. It thinks all the time and goes places that makes me feel sorry for schizophrenics. Alcohol calmed that down, and now that it isn't there, I am working triple time to control the mind to just settle the heck down.
This is what's leading me to get into therapy. The veil of alcohol has come off and it's bringing up stuff that I have deadened for a long time. But I'm afraid. Since we are being honest here....yep. I'm afraid to go to counseling. I tried a few years ago and was a mess.
Anything worth doing, is worth doing to excess was my mom's saying. I just always tell people "my gate is broken"...you know, the gate that goes down in the parking lots. Mine is dysfunctional because I don't have that natural common sense to stop before it gets out of hand.
Since we are talking about patterns, I'm sensing all of us have a high level of intelligence. I feel that everytime I read posts here. And with me personally, it's coupled with some painful childhood experiences. My insecurity is high, so the driver of my thoughts isn't strong enough to use more common sense.
And I can't shut down my mind. It thinks all the time and goes places that makes me feel sorry for schizophrenics. Alcohol calmed that down, and now that it isn't there, I am working triple time to control the mind to just settle the heck down.
This is what's leading me to get into therapy. The veil of alcohol has come off and it's bringing up stuff that I have deadened for a long time. But I'm afraid. Since we are being honest here....yep. I'm afraid to go to counseling. I tried a few years ago and was a mess.
What you wrote mirrors me a lot except the pot bit (I used to smoke during university but now the smell of it makes me sick).
Nothing succeeds like excess used to be the rule for me during my younger days. I thought it only applied to work and being materialistic but it also extended to my drinking, sadly enough.
It took me a while to realise that not everyone's childhood included visits to psychiatrists, psychologists and experiencing trauma. In recent years, my old therapist helped me unearth some painful childhood memories that I had buried for most of my life. It helped explain a lot about my character.
You should try meditation (if you havent already). I find it is brilliant for gaining serenity and a sense of calm.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 579
Rochele, I'm sorry to hear your daughter has those issues. She sounds just like I was at that age. I only wish we'd had drugs like sertraline at that time. I commend you for getting her the help she needs. Not every kid needs these meds, but for the ones who do, they are a godsend.
Fish, I had you in the bachelor camp, too. Well, the divorced camp, actually. Glad that was wrong, and may you and Mrs Fish have many more happy years together. You know, compared to some former drinkers, like me, five years isn't all that long. Good for you in confronting the problem before it causes any more problems or takes up any more precious time.
Workoholic, tak sa mycket for the info.
Lillian, I get the same sense you mentioned about the intelligence of folks here. But may I stay, anyway? Seriously, though, the traits of OC and noisy brains show up in so many of us. Maybe those and intelligence are linked somehow. I truly wish you a better experience with therapy this time. I think it's normal to be a bit afraid of starting the process. Don't be afraid to change therapists if you don't click with the first one.
Fish, I had you in the bachelor camp, too. Well, the divorced camp, actually. Glad that was wrong, and may you and Mrs Fish have many more happy years together. You know, compared to some former drinkers, like me, five years isn't all that long. Good for you in confronting the problem before it causes any more problems or takes up any more precious time.
Workoholic, tak sa mycket for the info.
Lillian, I get the same sense you mentioned about the intelligence of folks here. But may I stay, anyway? Seriously, though, the traits of OC and noisy brains show up in so many of us. Maybe those and intelligence are linked somehow. I truly wish you a better experience with therapy this time. I think it's normal to be a bit afraid of starting the process. Don't be afraid to change therapists if you don't click with the first one.
Velveteen Rabbit
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
Posts: 2,661
Thought you all might like this ~ for anyone who denies the obvious problem.... 
It's Not About The Nail - YouTube
It's Not About The Nail - YouTube
Member
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Northeast, US
Posts: 1,052
Originally Posted by LillianGish
Thought you all might like this ~ for anyone who denies the obvious problem....
It's Not About The Nail - YouTube
It's Not About The Nail - YouTube
Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 5,554
So, about to go tuck in my son, and it is Gray's Anatomy night, and Scandal night.
Tomorrow, I may be off early to do a gazillion shopping returns. I had ordered some stuff and was sent the same worng sizes when I ordered new(smaller) sizes, so have double the wrong sizes to return, plus a bunch of stuff I re-ordered trying to find something for my dd for a function. I think I have close to $500 or more in returns to do! I need to get that done. Never enough time before kids get home, and between my volunteer gigs or appts of late.
Tomorrow, I may be off early to do a gazillion shopping returns. I had ordered some stuff and was sent the same worng sizes when I ordered new(smaller) sizes, so have double the wrong sizes to return, plus a bunch of stuff I re-ordered trying to find something for my dd for a function. I think I have close to $500 or more in returns to do! I need to get that done. Never enough time before kids get home, and between my volunteer gigs or appts of late.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Charlotte North Carolina
Posts: 1,195
I do believe it's starting to get a little bit easier everyday. I tried half hearted attempts to quit in the past and what I didn't realize is being sober is a lot of fun but it's also a lot of work.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 225
Nuway, my sentiments entirely. Lillian was spot on about the intelligence levels of people here and yes, despite that, please can I stay too! I have found more wisdom, compassion and empathy here on SR amongst you lovely lot that I ever imagined possible. To say an Internet forum has changed my life sounds beyond melodramatic, but, quite frankly, it has.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
