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Old 10-25-2013, 07:39 PM
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Hey where in the world is Matthew. I hope you're Walking With God Matt because I haven't read your news in ages. How are things?
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Old 10-25-2013, 08:12 PM
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Hi Undies,

Oh Drake, glad you liked the passage...but doing cartwheels (figuratively)that you didn't drink. Andy deserves a Kudos for sure. However it is pretty certain that you didn't really want to drink. Okay, now the sermon...gotta be careful of those old people, places and things. Hey, we cannot dump everything from our past life, but be careful, and plan an exit strategy when you do trigger. Andy may not be your next server. Thanks for telling us, that's huge in itself.

DG, like you I am away in Ohio, but I will be back to the chores as soon as I return. Congrats on the cool milestone! I so get what you mean about alone not the best time. The head games I can play with myself. I long for the day that being alone with my thoughts will be fun again. I know this will happen if I keep on track with recovery. Every Old Timer that I know in AA seems so humble and at peace with themselves. They swear that all 12 Promises and 12 Rewards have happened to them. I know that you all don't use AA...not my point here because many different approaches and programs work. So, regardless of your program, if you get a chance read the Rewards and Promises and get excited...they are on the way for you!

Dayover, it is so hard to just stay in today. When I really am able to do that it really simplifies my life. I treat thoughts of past and future like the AV monster, and throw them out. It is my primary focus these days. It really is progress, not perfection for me. Don't avoid posting in bad times. We mat just cheer you up?

MB2, just loved your "heart happy" quote. Simple, yet deep rooted. Thanks.

Gracie, OMG, I was kidding about the racy stuff. Might have had something to do with a certain nurse's outfit and taking care of Rusty on the bus...I remember. The pumpkin lantern craft must have been great fun. I bet the Gracie house is getting all Halloween up? Great hubby smiley, thanks.

Courage, no, my sinus headache's are random. Been having a bad fall with allergies. I plan to see an allergy specialist soon...been dragging my feet. Really hoping I get a fix for my loss of smell and taste. It at about 33% now. Really a drag. Sorry you can't deal with Led Z. I need at least one Stairway to Heaven in my life each year.
A few times in my life I have had cluster migraines. My headache today was approaching that level. They are very powerful migraines, and come once a day for like two weeks. Been maybe 25 years now, but I remember pacing all night many times, and as I passed the kitchen knifes countless times, I would imagine, wow, that it would be nice.... My Dr at the time, a woman, said that studies show that they are as painful as natural child birth.

Well, my sweetie, Toots. Some might think or say, how does she encore that? To them I say, stay tuned. She's just warming up!

Stevie, miss you.

wwg, what gives? We need our update.

Feeling a bit better but far from normal. I am pretty sure I have a bug. Wish I were home, too. But some SR hangin has helped.
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Old 10-26-2013, 03:49 AM
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Good morning Undies

A happy Saturday to you all. It's a rainy one here. Just doing my Dad sitting at the moment, we've watched his James Last dvd twice through this morning and now we've sneaked a 'Jack and the Giant Slayers' on, if that doesn't confuse him, I don't know what will, lol.

Dorothy no wonder you were down after that lousy experience, how unprofessional! I'm really sorry. You deserve some positive news and I'm sure you'll get some before long. Thanks for that clip, it made me really lol.

Hey Dottie, you're right, I thought that last night, Matthew where are you?

Hope you're feeling much better today Carlos. Damnations, you were joking? I always wanted to be racy!! I don't actually do a great deal of decorating for Halloween to be honest, it' s not as big here as it is in other countries, though it is getting that way. Just a few pumpkins and trick and treating and we have been invited to a Halloween party next Saturday, so that should be fun.

Have a good week end all of you.

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Old 10-26-2013, 06:25 AM
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Day 324 and all is well....In the middle of a 14 hour day shift but it's my monthly night out tonight as when I finish I'm off to see my cousin box again...Once again it's in a nightclub and there will be booze flowing but I'm taking the car and my uncle who knows about my alcoholism will be there to keep me on the straight and narrow...It's gonna be a late night and I have to be up for work again at 4am but at least I won't have an hangover....

I hope everyone else is ok.....Take care.....Steve.
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Old 10-26-2013, 07:13 AM
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Have a good night Steve, I have no worries about you staying sober, none at all!

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Old 10-26-2013, 07:45 AM
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Stevie, I’m with Gracie. Not even a hint of worry! Have fun, good luck to your cousin.

Toots, my AV is for you my dear. With my oldest prior to her wedding.

Happy Sober Saturday, all.

ps...DG, how cool are those Drummer Girl tee's?
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Old 10-26-2013, 10:05 AM
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That's a lovely photo Carlos, you look good and your daughter is absolutely stunning.

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Old 10-26-2013, 12:17 PM
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Haha Carlos, I just replied to your pm before coming on the thread, so it was a guess about your beautiful daughter ( usually when I say things like that I get " she's not my daughter..she's my wife!") but I thought given your situation, you wouldn't be posting yourself with your ex!! You look very distinguished, and very much as I would picture you!

Drake, you need to go back to that waiter and give him a huge tip! I'm so gonna have to come kick you butt you do anything like that again! You have been dealing so well with all the crud thrown your way recently, please, please don't let this get you down. How about some meditation? Or have you ever tried any other calming techniques?
Oh Dotty, that is so unfair, that someone else's thoughtlessness could cause you such hurt. I know what you mean about the therapeutic value of a good sobbing session, rarely related to what triggered it,( or 'the last straw') but although you feel tired and limp after, it is also very cathartic. You never know re the job, he may remember you better for what happened and think of you if something else comes up, or mention you to someone. I am a great believer in putting yourself out there, even if the knock backs are sore, life doesn't come knocking on your door until you go introduce yourself!

Well Racy Gracie, are you getting into bother!! My hubby thinks I'm already a kept woman! He tells me that Molly says I just lie about on the sofa all day eating grapes! I told him, at least I no longer wait for them to be fermented and bottled! I also threatened Molly I will tell him all the things she's been chewing which I have hidden! Lol when she was a puppy and enjoyed chewing the walls and woodwork. I became a dab hand with the polyfilla sander and paint so he'd never notice! Because we live down a long drive, we don't really get the trick or treaters, but next door knows to send their kids round. I wish we got more, I love seeing little ones in fancy dress!

Steve good luck to your cousin and enjoy your free time x

Everyone else, be safe and well and sober x
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Old 10-26-2013, 12:46 PM
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Hi Undies!
Forced myself to get up early and take my dog down to the beach to walk around. I really enjoyed it with the morning fog and tall ships out.
Home now doing some laundry.

Steve have fun watching the fight!

Courage today's music started with some indie bands- Best coast, local natives, the rocket summer, cursive, death cab for cutie, saves the day, small brown bike, sunny day real estate. Then switched to hardcore/post hardcore/screamo bands like every time I die, atreyu, throwdown, the chariot, for today, bishop. I'm sure you're not into hardcore music tho...
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Old 10-26-2013, 04:05 PM
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Certainly not something Drake would be singing at the next wedding....! Lol
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Old 10-26-2013, 04:59 PM
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Hi everybody --

I'm sooo tired -- spent all day since early a.m. at a conference/networking event at a well-known US military academy. Not enough coffee, too much talk. A year ago I wouldn't have been asked to attend. If asked I wouldn't have gone. If I'd gone, I'd have scuttled straight to a bottle after and by now would probably be in a blackout. As it is, I'm in bed w/SR and a heating pad, looking forward to a cup of tea.

Dorothy, I sincerely hope you get a break soon! That bad experience with the director position must have really hurt. My heart goes out to you.

BF lol you're right I don't do screamo. I was a kid of the Beatles, a deadhead in my early teens, and punk/new wave/post punk in my late teens. Since then it's been more or less whatever grabs my attention, although I confess a weakness for big, ambitious music & certain kinds of prog rock/psychedelia.

Carlos, love the new AV. Your daughter is a beauty & looks so happy!

Stevie, have a great time at the match!

Grace -- You sound just a little bit down. Hope if anything's bothering you, you'll tell us. You said something I needed to hear:
my priorities have changed and I work to live not live to work
-- I'm with you on that in principle but not often enough in fact. Thanks for the reminder.

Catch you all later!
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Old 10-26-2013, 05:13 PM
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Thank you everyone for the kind words and encouragement I am feeling OK now. Not as stressed out and anxious. It is really great to be able to talk openly about how you really feel and feel comforted

I went shopping today with my best friend and her family. Was so nice they are so funny and I love being able to socialize and get close to my friend now that I'm sober. Friendships were very fake to me before. She had to get a new winter coat and boots etc because...

WE HAVE SNOW!!!!! Thanks, Canada!

I decided to treat myself and bought a really nice wool sweater

Now I'm studying and having a productive night in.
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Old 10-26-2013, 06:16 PM
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Oh Toots, what good words of support. He actually will remember my name when a project falls on his desk on this side of the fence. Maybe I'm meant to stay a writer/director and not a commissioning editor at a TV station. I had prepared to death though. I'm kind of still stunned about the turn of event. At least, I'm going to pitch my project on legal psychiatry to this news channel. See what that does. I only need to last another month I think before I land something concrete. I think...

Grace, thank you for telling me I need a break. It's true even though it's been dragging on for so long. Perhaps, things are moving invisibly and all of a sudden the clouds will spread...

I still wonder what WWG is up to.

Even if I wanted to have a drink, I couldn't because I don't have a dime to my name. Probably the only good thing about this time of famine ;(. Oh and I'm losing weight ha ha. I think I can laugh about "poverty" because I know it won't last.

So, how is everyone tonight? I can't believe I'm home alone again on Saturday. Music, books, tv, FB. It gets tedious. Mind you, would I truly feel better with a partner next to me? I remember horrid Saturdays of fighting but that was probably the booze talking. He was a pretty heavy drinker too. We'd often have 2 bottles for dinner.

I went looking at other threads tonight. Dee you're everywhere! wow and Boy, there's a whole world out there !! I felt like I was spying, especially when I landed on the over 1 year thread. lol. Felt like I should leave straight away. It's good to know I'll know some faces from this thread when I graduated on December 31st.

BF, I love that your taste in music is so eclectic. I must look some bands up. I hope your sister is not having a mini party in your kitchen again tonight.

Courage enjoy your cup of tea and thank you for your kind words too.

I'll go watch Luther I think.

Have a great sober evening.

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Old 10-26-2013, 07:47 PM
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Dottie no parties over here! My sis is actually in San Diego for the weekend and invited me buy I didn't wanna be around all the partying. So I've had the house all to myself which has been pretty nice!!

WWG hope everything is ok. Check in soon fellow undie!!


Well I sure am tired even tho I didn't do anything too exciting today. Thinkin I will just got to sleep early.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.
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Toots! HA!! I am picky in my choice of wedding music, though a while back when I had a younger voice, I did some pretty odd stuff....

Went to a fund raiser at a private car museum... I so wanted to take home the Rolls....

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Old 10-27-2013, 02:03 AM
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Carlos, I see you have changed your avatar again! Miss your photo, but absolutely love the autumnal colours of those trees, how wonderful. I hope your sinus head is better, do you try inhaling steam? Ask Dee about the sinus thingy he has, but pm I almost upchucked when they began a discussion on another thread 😱

Drake, I so see you in that Roller, playing your classical music at full pelt. I'd offer you a race, but even the landrover would wipe the floor with that. Though when it comes to class and style.....

Grace, I have visions of your dad wondering how James Last got so fit he could climb trees!!!( and fight giants!) I figured my work/life balance a while back, but hubby still has a long way to go! He left for Boston yesterday for 2 weeks, no visa so it is not being charged to the client, but the project is starting up and they need his expertise. Hopefully it will galvanise the company to push for his visa soonest! I think it's the longest we have been apart, but as I am used to him being away in the week,it is only the weekends which I need to get through, and I have plenty to keep me occupied!

Dotty, I'm glad you are seeing a funny side to this even if the humour is a little sad! I want to come feed you up. It reminds me of when I first left home and worked bar jobs for a pittance ( we have never had the same tipping mentality here, and I would be more likely offered a drink than given a tip ) I lived on beans on toast for months. As for sharing your life with a partner, well the right guy won't be a drinker, and will want to treat you like a princess which is no more than you deserve.

Dayover, I'm glad you are feeling less anxious, when we drink we cover it, we don't deal with it. I feel anxiety is a natural state for most humans these days the pace of the 21st century, and the expectations on us are constantly battling with our caveman instincts to fear what we can't control. Just remember, every time you feel anxious about a situation, that everybody else is probably feeling exactly the same. What matters is not letting it change your actions. Don't start avoiding situations, or your anxiety will increase next time, but little victories will build your confidence. I still am incredibly shy of meeting people, so I just act like I am a confident happy person tell myself everyone I meet is painfully shy and needs me to coax them out of their shell. It really works for me.
It does sound like you had fun shopping.
Courage, you better be feeling really proud of yourself sweetheart, you have had an awesome day!
BF home alone! Yay! You can play your music full blast dance about the house in your fluffy slippers, drink the milk from the bottle, and cuddle up with the dog on the sofa watching just what you want on tv with a big bowl of popcorn! Enjoy!!

I am sure WWG is fine, possibly having internet problems with the weather?
Steve, I hope you don't feel too sleepy today, and hope your cousin wine his match.
MB how's our fighting Furie??
Happyfeet 5 months and counting eh? Brilliant

SJ, you and your puffin are a big part of my SR day, it's not how much we post, it's the support we offer in our words, and you are always there for everyone. I love that about you.

I know there are loads of Undies out there I haven't mentioned so be safe be strong be sober all.
Oh Dottie, re visiting other rooms in our SR house, please come visit us in the limerick thread, no need to post unless you feel like it, but the kettle is always on for visitors. I tend to stick to the same half dozen or so threads, or I get drawn in to something new, and that's another half hour in my day I need to find somehow!!! Lol I like the funny ones, as humour is important for healing.x
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Old 10-27-2013, 02:12 AM
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Day 325....Cousin lost his fight....I'm back on a 14 hour shift after only 4 hours sleep....Didn't even crave a drink whilst I was there even though the majority of people were drunk....I'll check back later when I have more time....

Take care....Steve.
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Old 10-27-2013, 03:24 AM
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Morning Undies,

Yes Toots, following a couple comments sent my way about what a pretty couple we make, it felt a bit strange, While she does look like her Mummy, my daughter is exactly half my age in that photo. Current AV is a pic from the golf course where I live. It is to warm up by week's end and I expect to be playing there soon....new sticks and all.

Oops, left charger in my car...only a couple minutes left.

Stevie, good show not drinking, mate.

DP, I shall do some further digging.

Drake, you would be totally stylin in that ride, dude!

Courage, if that was Annapolis, the Midshipman beat my alma mater there in football yesterday.

Gracie, no complaints here...lovely watching you swim around like a fish!

BF, keep rockin on

DG, sorry dear. Is it safe for me to look at limericks?

wwg, snoozyq...hope all is well.

Well, only 4% power remains...I must move on

Happy sober Sunday, Undies.....Don't Drink!!
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Morning folks.
I haven't posted in a while, but I've been reading and keeping up with the thread.
Had some slips(okay a big slip) but am back to it and more determined than ever. I wanted to wait to post here till I felt like I had some solid days under my belt so I'm at day 9 and feeling ever so much better.

Off to run, and will check in later.
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Old 10-27-2013, 07:48 AM
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Hi my Sunday Undies

Hope you're all having a good day.

Toots, that's how I imagined Carlos to look too believe it or not. Polyfiller and sanding! I'll give you a good tip, any marks or chips on our white paintwork I paint over them with tippex, lo, it works a treat. Don't tell P.
Ha, I've had my dad again this morning and he's sick of that bloody James Last ( not as sick as us!) I just put the t.v on for him and he was fine apart from his cat has followed us here and it's amazing how he knows the way ( not really, that was our cat!).
You'll be fine this next couple of weeks I know, just stick close. Hopefully his company will see the light and push for that visa.
I love what you said about humour being good for healing, I agree wholeheartedly, it's having a sense of humour and a lot of patience that get me through each day.
I will email you this week first chance I get. xxxxx

It's good that you are finding some relief from your music, if you like it then go for it, it can only be a good thing if it makes you feel better.

Courage, I'm not down at all, honestly I'm not, a bit tired may be but that's all. Thank you for caring.
You coped well at the conference and I hope you had a restful night.

Dayover, snow!!! Brrrr! Don't send any our way please, I don't do snow! Glad you're feeling perkier today and yes it is really good to be able to be honest and open with people who really do understand.
I'm glad you treated yourself, it's good to now and again. you deserve it.

Dottie, Toots raised a very good point there, yes, I'm betting that director will remember your name, I'm a great believer in 'good always comes after bad'!
I'm sure our Matthew is probably doing something family orientated. Hopefully he'll be here tomorrow.
Talking about threads, I'm on far too many and I have cut down, we can never have too much support though and I've made so many friends here I just can't cut back any more.
We are waiting for you on the 'Overs' thread, I have reserved a place for you, it is very much quieter there than it is here, some good people though. They are in for a culture shock when you all come over and join me!

Gorgeous car Drake, I want one!

I'm sorry your cousin lost the fight Steve, I suppose you can't win 'em all. I knew you'd be fine and look forward to reading your post later. xxxxx

Carlos, I love your new avatar too, beautiful colours, though I have to say that you too look how I imagined, which is odd because it's not usually the way it is. I thought you looked very kind too.
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Well, I'm just having a tea break, I've emptied the cupboard under the stairs ( the naughty cupboard as we call it) and I'm going to scrub it out, we're having the boiler serviced on Tue and it was a bit of an untidy mess to say the least. O.M.G when did I buy all these shoes???

It's wild and windy this afternoon and we have severe weather warnings, 80-90 mile per hour winds, I know it's just a breeze to some of you, but we're not used to it, I fear for the green house!

Back later, stay safe and sober.

Love to you all

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