Moms and Mums Club 2013 Part 3
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Originally Posted by Bebetter 
I stay on FB to keep connected with my close friends IRL, my family, and a group of 12 girls who I've been connected with for nearly 6 years now after we met on another chat board for moms who have lost their babies. My son was stillborn at 31 weeks gestation on July 31, 2007, and we all had losses through the spring and summer of that year. Anyway, other than that, FB is a great way to kill your self-esteem or .
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Join Date: Jun 2013
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Ladybug... I'm so sorry for your losses! I met these girls on the Babycenter Community board called 2nd&3rd Trimester Loss Support. It's a private group, but you can search for it and ask to join. I haven't posted or visited there in probably 4 years - it was too hard with all the new moms coming in all the time. The group I met there at the time transitioned our communication to MSN groups and then to FB, and we are close knit and private.
I also belong to a larger support group on FB - are you on FB? It's called Angel Mommies. It's also private. If you friend me on FB, I would be more than happy to invite you to join that group. The moms there range from losing children years and years ago, to just last month. It's kind of a take-it and leave-it group, because there are about 150 members, but I've found some awesome women there. I'll message you my real name and you can search me on FB. <3
I've had several losses as well.... (((hugs)))
I also belong to a larger support group on FB - are you on FB? It's called Angel Mommies. It's also private. If you friend me on FB, I would be more than happy to invite you to join that group. The moms there range from losing children years and years ago, to just last month. It's kind of a take-it and leave-it group, because there are about 150 members, but I've found some awesome women there. I'll message you my real name and you can search me on FB. <3
I've had several losses as well.... (((hugs)))
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Join Date: May 2013
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Aw,, Bebetter and Ladybug...been there too.
We lost 3 babies. Two were early on, but our second was born still at 5 months:-(. A little girl...
I had a condition that was discovered after our 3rd loss, that resulted in my blood clotting and clogging up the placenta. Once they knew what was happening, we were able to get the treatment needed, and our beautiful daughter was born. Had to give myself blood thinner shots in my belly all through the pregnancy:-(. Very stressful 9 months.
Hugs yo all us mommies that endured that heartache.
We lost 3 babies. Two were early on, but our second was born still at 5 months:-(. A little girl...
I had a condition that was discovered after our 3rd loss, that resulted in my blood clotting and clogging up the placenta. Once they knew what was happening, we were able to get the treatment needed, and our beautiful daughter was born. Had to give myself blood thinner shots in my belly all through the pregnancy:-(. Very stressful 9 months.
Hugs yo all us mommies that endured that heartache.
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Yes...it wasn't great. He told me my cousin had said something to him about my drinking a while back....she was concerned. This was before he even said anything to me.
Apparently there have been a few of these conversations about me. Sort of a secret club...them checking in with each other to make sure I still doing okay.
I am even more upset now..knowing there have been a few of these conversations about me! I feel so humiliated and hurt right now!:-(
Apparently there have been a few of these conversations about me. Sort of a secret club...them checking in with each other to make sure I still doing okay.
I am even more upset now..knowing there have been a few of these conversations about me! I feel so humiliated and hurt right now!:-(
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Join Date: Jun 2013
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Originally Posted by Dollyangel17
Yes...it wasn't great. He told me my cousin had said something to him about my drinking a while back....she was concerned. This was before he even said anything to me.
Apparently there have been a few of these conversations about me. Sort of a secret club...them checking in with each other to make sure I still doing okay.
I am even more upset now..knowing there have been a few of these conversations about me! I feel so humiliated and hurt right now!:-(
Apparently there have been a few of these conversations about me. Sort of a secret club...them checking in with each other to make sure I still doing okay.
I am even more upset now..knowing there have been a few of these conversations about me! I feel so humiliated and hurt right now!:-(
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Florida
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Hey, Mommies!
Well, I also lost babies... a son in 1998 at 14 weeks.
And twin girls in 2000 at 15 weeks. That is some pain.
Dolly, don't let your AV use this situation against you. Your feelings are real and valid. Own them, feel them, and release them when you feel ready.
Hey Ladybug, 16 days and feeling better! I'll be getting the pms funk soon, too. Blah!
Well, I also lost babies... a son in 1998 at 14 weeks.
And twin girls in 2000 at 15 weeks. That is some pain.
Dolly, don't let your AV use this situation against you. Your feelings are real and valid. Own them, feel them, and release them when you feel ready.
Hey Ladybug, 16 days and feeling better! I'll be getting the pms funk soon, too. Blah!
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Thanks Joygirl! Don't worry...my AV doesn't stand a chance right now. The thought that I was being discussed in secret conversations like I was some sort of project (operation get her sober) or fragile pathetic doll! I am more determined now to show them and anybody else just how strong I can be!!
Thanks for all the support you ladies are giving me, it means so much!!!!
Thanks for all the support you ladies are giving me, it means so much!!!!
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Originally Posted by Dollyangel17
Yes...I will be livid. I know some people say I invaded his privacy, but too bad. He isn't my boyfriend, he is my husband. Not only do we share a life, but we share a phone plan with shared minutes and a shared bill. A bill which I pay (my responsibility to handle family finances), so I would have come across the information anyway when the bill came in.
If I ever noticed calls to sex lines you would bet I would be bringing that up too without a care that he was doing it in "his" phone.
I understand him being concerned, but he should just talk to me first. Or Hell, go to Al-Anon if he.needs support. Don't talk to MY family without checking with me!
If I ever noticed calls to sex lines you would bet I would be bringing that up too without a care that he was doing it in "his" phone.
I understand him being concerned, but he should just talk to me first. Or Hell, go to Al-Anon if he.needs support. Don't talk to MY family without checking with me!
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Originally Posted by Dollyangel17
Yes...it wasn't great. He told me my cousin had said something to him about my drinking a while back....she was concerned. This was before he even said anything to me.
Apparently there have been a few of these conversations about me. Sort of a secret club...them checking in with each other to make sure I still doing okay.
I am even more upset now..knowing there have been a few of these conversations about me! I feel so humiliated and hurt right now!:-(
Apparently there have been a few of these conversations about me. Sort of a secret club...them checking in with each other to make sure I still doing okay.
I am even more upset now..knowing there have been a few of these conversations about me! I feel so humiliated and hurt right now!:-(
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Well it's Tuesday morning, and right now I am up by myself. Going to be stressed between me and my husband, but have to be cordial to him for the sake of my daughter.
Didn't get much sleep last night:-(. Hope it's busy at work so my mind can take a break from thinking about this mess:-(
Hope you all have a great sober day!
Didn't get much sleep last night:-(. Hope it's busy at work so my mind can take a break from thinking about this mess:-(
Hope you all have a great sober day!
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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YAY Inperfectlyme, you are back!!!! We have missed you. So glad you are still sober and 99 days - wow! Sorry to hear you are miserable, though. Feel free to vent to us.
Dolly- so sorry you are hurting. I would be upset, too. I'm sure your husband and cousin were talking about you out of love and concern, but it doesn't excuse the fact that he did it behind your back. He probably feels really bad about it now and hopefully, in the future, he will come to you first? It will all work out
Dolly- so sorry you are hurting. I would be upset, too. I'm sure your husband and cousin were talking about you out of love and concern, but it doesn't excuse the fact that he did it behind your back. He probably feels really bad about it now and hopefully, in the future, he will come to you first? It will all work out
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Ohhh Ladies...just been to visit a girl I went through rehab with...she is drinking 24/7 and not eating she is going to die.... have managed to talk her into going to her dr with a view to going back into rehab... she admitted herself to A and E /ER last night as she was suicidal and then discharged herself........ I know how hard it is I have never gotten to that point but I honestly dont think she can get herself sober with out proper detox and medical intervention...... It has made me more determined than ever to stay sober. Her two kids are in foster care and she is vever going to get them back if she doesnt do a turn around.......it makes me so grateful for what I do have a... a supportive family ...my kids .... my job
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Prayers for your friend Sunny 
time for a new thread:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-4-a.html
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time for a new thread:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-4-a.html
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