Class of April 2013
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: The South Pacific
Posts: 306
If I've found anything to be true in the last 48 hours ABIDE, it's that beating myself up over my past failures isn't helpful to me.
Good on you for making an appointment. Fear of the unknown sucks, and if you know what you are confronting, I find it easier to deal with.
A couple of things I've come across while reading here is: Don't worry about drinking tomorrow. Worry about not drinking right now.
Get lost in reading some of the peoples' stories here.
Comment when something strikes a chord.
Arm yourself with information--and who knows? Perhaps some inspiration as well.
Good on you for making an appointment. Fear of the unknown sucks, and if you know what you are confronting, I find it easier to deal with.
A couple of things I've come across while reading here is: Don't worry about drinking tomorrow. Worry about not drinking right now.
Get lost in reading some of the peoples' stories here.
Comment when something strikes a chord.
Arm yourself with information--and who knows? Perhaps some inspiration as well.
to all the April folks here.
I hope we can give to you some of what was given to us.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Keep Trying
Posts: 370
Hi everyone. Joining this April group with true hope that I can stop this time.
I joined the March group and was doing well but then had a stressful health issue that is fine now but completely fell off and now feel terrible.
I joined the March group and was doing well but then had a stressful health issue that is fine now but completely fell off and now feel terrible.
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 79
Thank you everyone for the warm welcome. I'm on day 2 here, I was hungover all day yesterday, so I'm not sure i can even count yesterday as day 1. Ofcourse as soon as the hangover fades I start thinking about wine again..Im so dumb! I'm having sleepy time tea instead and watching the walking dead with my hubby. Keeping my mind busy.
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 891
Originally Posted by Pamel 
"When you are in the gutter, the curb is your horizon." Here's to getting onto the curb, from which the world becomes your horizon, Pamel
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 141
Welcome Abide, NewHouse and RamblingOkie!
Rough night last night. Awful insomnia. So exhausted today and had to bring my DD to an early morning doctor's appointment before school for her physical. Really dragging. Off to get a little exercise, then an appointment of my own, and then off to my 2nd (3rd?) AA meeting. I think it's Step of the Month today. We'll see what that's about.
Planning to rock day 5 over here. Worried that my exhaustion will make that tricky, but I guess if I see the potential stumbling block, I can walk around it?
Have a great day Peeps (I may call us that for a while since we started around Easter)!
Rough night last night. Awful insomnia. So exhausted today and had to bring my DD to an early morning doctor's appointment before school for her physical. Really dragging. Off to get a little exercise, then an appointment of my own, and then off to my 2nd (3rd?) AA meeting. I think it's Step of the Month today. We'll see what that's about.
Planning to rock day 5 over here. Worried that my exhaustion will make that tricky, but I guess if I see the potential stumbling block, I can walk around it?
Have a great day Peeps (I may call us that for a while since we started around Easter)!
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 65
First day!
Hi!
Easter was my quit date (both smoking and drinking) - but on Easter I changed it until April 1st - because I really wanted a cigarette. April 1st was my new quit date - but got bored driving back from Airport, that I smoked again! Since I already smoked, I poured a rum and diet coke when I got home at 3pm.
Today is my new quit date! I hope I can do it, and am extremely nervous about failure.
I want to change my lifestyle, get healthy again - I want to look and feel great. I want to hit the gym, more often than I do now. I want whiter teeth. I want to wake up with ENERGY!
Easter was my quit date (both smoking and drinking) - but on Easter I changed it until April 1st - because I really wanted a cigarette. April 1st was my new quit date - but got bored driving back from Airport, that I smoked again! Since I already smoked, I poured a rum and diet coke when I got home at 3pm.
Today is my new quit date! I hope I can do it, and am extremely nervous about failure.
I want to change my lifestyle, get healthy again - I want to look and feel great. I want to hit the gym, more often than I do now. I want whiter teeth. I want to wake up with ENERGY!
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: London UK
Posts: 25
Hi CoffeeInstead, that's the nature of the beast I'm afraid - always looking for you to put off the day you finally tell the drink/smokes where to go. Try not to be nervous about failure, you should be more worried if you didn't even try. Hopefully all of us in this April group can help each other stay on the straight and narrow - We are all after the same thing - A new life full of energy and vitality and we can attain it.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 3,313
Hi all, on Day 2 and feel great, but I have been here before. Start feeling really good and then the "hmm, a glass of wine sure does sound good..." thinking comes back. How quickly we forget that awful Day 1 feeling?! Going to try very hard to make it this month. Hope we can all help each other
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Down Under
Posts: 42
I'm in too. April 1st just seemed like a really appropriate day to give up. I feel like I'm in a boat just sailing away from all the problems that alcohol causes me and want to keep going.
Have a great sober day everyone.
Tyre
Have a great sober day everyone.
Tyre
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Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Midwest, USA
Posts: 1,551
Hi all, sorry for the short intro earlier, but I was on my way to work but wanted to post before leaving. My drinking has been out of control for a long time. I quit for few months using SR back in June of 2011. But I was trying to start a social life after a long and terrible relationship and fell back into drinking again. It has progressively gotten worse. I'm back to drinking alone and sometimes at work. I have two kids under the age of 6 and feel like I'm letting them down. I've even started drinking with them in my care. I have also found a really great man (who drinks) but doesn't have a problem with it. He can stop after 2 and is responsible about it. Something I've never been. Anyway I guess there is a fear that I'll lose him over it. I'm not getting any younger. I need to be taking care of my health. So here is to sober day one. I'm in.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 366
So good to see April Class shaping up! I'm looking forward to each and everyone of us making it to the end of the month (and months beyond).
Medion - I concur . . . water IS so GOOD!
Javamaman - Welcome. I'm happy to see you here. I wish I would have sought help many years ago when I was 29 and my children were still young. You have so much SOBER life ahead of you.
Mustlovecoffee - Welcome Peep! I swear sleep is sosoososo important in the first few weeks. Honestly, I would prioritize sleep above getting exercise this early on.
raamblingoke - Welcome. Maybe someone can hold onto that month chip for you, so when you actually reach your month of soberity (which I know you will) you can get your old chip back.
abidebylaw - I completely understand the fear of getting your bloodtest. I'm the same way. Let us know how goes for you.
newhouse - welcome to the April group! That damn March 17 got me too. It is a holiday specifically built around drinking after all.
Irelander - Congrats on day 3. Every day is an accomplishment
Blackbird - Welcome! Bad relationships can really throw a wrench into so many of our plans and dreams. I'm glad your back on track. Maybe your new man can refrain from drinking while you are in early recovery.
Medion - I concur . . . water IS so GOOD!
Javamaman - Welcome. I'm happy to see you here. I wish I would have sought help many years ago when I was 29 and my children were still young. You have so much SOBER life ahead of you.
Mustlovecoffee - Welcome Peep! I swear sleep is sosoososo important in the first few weeks. Honestly, I would prioritize sleep above getting exercise this early on.
raamblingoke - Welcome. Maybe someone can hold onto that month chip for you, so when you actually reach your month of soberity (which I know you will) you can get your old chip back.
abidebylaw - I completely understand the fear of getting your bloodtest. I'm the same way. Let us know how goes for you.
newhouse - welcome to the April group! That damn March 17 got me too. It is a holiday specifically built around drinking after all.
Irelander - Congrats on day 3. Every day is an accomplishment
Blackbird - Welcome! Bad relationships can really throw a wrench into so many of our plans and dreams. I'm glad your back on track. Maybe your new man can refrain from drinking while you are in early recovery.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 366
Hey all!
Coffeeinstead (what's with all the coffee names - lol) - giving up smoking AND drinking at the same time CANNOT be easy. Please don't punish yourself for a slip up. I have personally found that I have to tackle one habit at a time. Last year, I got my finances in order (and remain on a tight budget today). In Dec I put all my energy into eating better. Only now, am I tackling my drinking problem. Hang in there!
Tessider - sounds like your slip ups were short lived. I'm looking forward to hearing your advice for us newbies. Thanks for joining us.
Bobbyjim - Nice to "meet" ya!
Ladybug - so what is your plan when your mind starts telling you, "A glass of wine would be so good right now"?
Tyre - I LOVE the sailboat analogy. It's such a peaceful thought. I think I'm going to steal it and imagine myself sailing away from my troubles (drinking) too.
Hanker - Welcom!!
Coffeeinstead (what's with all the coffee names - lol) - giving up smoking AND drinking at the same time CANNOT be easy. Please don't punish yourself for a slip up. I have personally found that I have to tackle one habit at a time. Last year, I got my finances in order (and remain on a tight budget today). In Dec I put all my energy into eating better. Only now, am I tackling my drinking problem. Hang in there!
Tessider - sounds like your slip ups were short lived. I'm looking forward to hearing your advice for us newbies. Thanks for joining us.
Bobbyjim - Nice to "meet" ya!
Ladybug - so what is your plan when your mind starts telling you, "A glass of wine would be so good right now"?
Tyre - I LOVE the sailboat analogy. It's such a peaceful thought. I think I'm going to steal it and imagine myself sailing away from my troubles (drinking) too.
Hanker - Welcom!!
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 366
So . it's Day 8 for me.
I had horrible dreams last night. Not the "monster chasing me" kind of dreams. But the kind of terrible horror that hits me to the core . . . like my best friend from h.s. was back in town but not taking my phone calls and telling everyone behind my back what a loser I was. I know, I know . . . I'm nearly 50 years old and still afraid of h.s. mean girls.
But I guess it kind of makes sense . . . I mean . . . not drinking and the fear of not fitting in . . . being a social outcast . . . and not having the booze to cover up the feelings of being a "loser".
Anyway, the plan for today 1) Eat good 2) start packing for our trip 3) DON'T DRINK 4) get some exercise, 5) DON'T DRINK
I had horrible dreams last night. Not the "monster chasing me" kind of dreams. But the kind of terrible horror that hits me to the core . . . like my best friend from h.s. was back in town but not taking my phone calls and telling everyone behind my back what a loser I was. I know, I know . . . I'm nearly 50 years old and still afraid of h.s. mean girls.
But I guess it kind of makes sense . . . I mean . . . not drinking and the fear of not fitting in . . . being a social outcast . . . and not having the booze to cover up the feelings of being a "loser".
Anyway, the plan for today 1) Eat good 2) start packing for our trip 3) DON'T DRINK 4) get some exercise, 5) DON'T DRINK
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