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Old 01-31-2013, 03:56 AM
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Hi Undie Friends. Yesterday I was reading through some posts before the last round of holidays before I joined and felt like it's too bad I didn't find SR sooner. Glad to have found you.

Hi Grace, sounds like court was interesting, glad the judge didn't grant too much time. Nice of you to arrange a supervised visit. Tanja, I hope you and your doctor can work out something to help you sleep and have some energy. Duane, you too. WWG, weather stabilizing any?

Thinking about what cal said about pleasing others, I've been shady about that a lot. Just enough pleasing to keep a job, and not far beyond. Just enough pleasing to keep a relationship from completely disappearing. But even when it isn't shady, I see how often I was looking for something. As for pleasing me, I'll avoid pain and count that. For instance, I won't text my ex because I don't want the hurt feelings of getting no response at all or a worthless one, like LOL, or one more flippin' smiley face. And she works it too! When she's all sentimental, "fine" isn't supposed to be my response to "How are you doing?" Sad that we still mess with each other, and yet it isn't really a game. If she's by herself she hits me up for a little attention. If she has plans, she detaches. So I shouldn't feed her (or me), but the bottom line is, I don't get thirsty about it, so I'm not going to pretend she isn't there. I just need to protect myself by not allowing my tail to wag just because she contacts me.

bloss, I also have some new attachments here, and I like them, so it is one more piece of what I need to stay sober today and also be in a safe place to share some of life's colors-that-aren't-my-favorite.

Hi Caledonia, TTBABP, BF, and everyone posting and reading. Be safe and well today.

I loved Silence of the Lambs, btw, and no nightmares!
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sober1ck - so glad you liked Silince of the Lambs. It is one of my favorites I've seen it dozens of times and it never gets borng to me. (The sequel - not so great. Even though I love Julieanne Moore you cannot beat Jodie Foster as Agent Starling)

Thanskl for the good vibes Mydee - I'll take 'em and send some right back atcha

Catch up with all of you later on. Have a great day!
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Morning Undies @ 10:15 a.m.

Hey group, January is nearly in our past. Looking forward to February, I just think it's a "pretty" month with all the flowers/candy/stuffed toys/hearts and so on. Taking it one day at at time, in all areas of life. This seems to be the best way forward, no matter what happens, I am sober and thats the most important thing.

Each of you have a nice day,
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Old 01-31-2013, 11:47 AM
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Evening all

Thank you all so much for your kind words and support this week. It has been a rather trying week all round and I've made it sober. My husband mentioned earlier that this would defo been one of those times where I would have cracked in the past and drank to blot it all out. Thank heavens I'm sober and can be supportive to my families needs and not thinking constantly of alcohol. So grateful to be sober and content today.

bloss that hug sure was appreciated.

Thinking of you all
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Old 01-31-2013, 03:36 PM
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Nicky - congratulations to you for getting through. I will think of you when some little issue makes me want to crack open the bottle and remeber that you were so very strong.

bloss - I always liked February too. I like how you describe it as pretty.

Rest of the gang - hope you are all well. Farewell for now.
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Old 01-31-2013, 03:58 PM
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Good evening Undies

Sorry to be so late checking in, I've had a hectic couple of days. My Dad had a seizure yesterday morning and got taken in hospital again. He came out again this afternoon and seems okay, confused.com and doesn't remember anything about it, but he's been given some new medication for epilepsy so we'll have to see how it goes.

WWG, it's very cold, wild and very windy here too. No point in drinking ourselves into oblivion, we wouldn't be much use to our loved ones then, would we?

Nicky, seems like we're both going through trials and tribulations at the moment. I could happily have hibernated this past week. The good thing is that we are dealing with these issues in a much more rational way than we would be if we were drinking.

B.F sounds like you did yourself and your Aunt proud at the funeral. You've been amazing.

Hi Bloss, wow yoga, I would love to do that. I would like for O's mum to come and visit him more often, I just wish she would make the effort to learn a bit of English, it would make her life and ours so much easier.
Feb 1st tomorrow, spring is just round the corner and I have spotted the first yellow crocus blooming in my garden, even after all that snow last week.

Pan, I hope you got a good nights sleep.

Thank you for your kind words TTBABP.

Sober1ck, scary, I couldn't watch 'silence of the lambs' before going to sleep. Good film though. Hey, you're nearly on a month now and that is good.
I read your comments about the people pleasing and how you do just enough to please and I'm guessing that you have build a barrier up around yourself, self preservation so you don't get hurt, very normal after a relationship breakdown. It does get easier with time, like staying sober.

Hi Mydee, good to see you posting here and yes I agree, it is so good to know that we are all in this together, all here for each other, it makes me realise that I am not on my own. We're all walking this walk side by side every step of the way.

I'll be back tomorrow.

Night night, sleep tight.
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Old 01-31-2013, 06:15 PM
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Grace You truly are remarkable, what a week you have had indeed. Life is surely testing you at the moment and you're dealing extremely well with everything it is throwing at you.
Hope your poor mum is bearing up. Take it easy on *Frantic Friday* and wishing you a realaxing weekend.

TTBABP Thanks for that, much appreciated.

Your probably wondering why I'm up at this mad hour (2am) Well I've got my beloved cat to thank for this. Just been woken by him and another cat fighting at the front door and think my poor *Thomas* was losing although when I opened the door he casually sauntered in........haha

Looking forward to my work sleepover tomorrow or should I say tonight, gives me time to think and slow that brain of mine down.

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Old 01-31-2013, 10:40 PM
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An early good morning Undies

I've was lying awake for ages so I decided to get up and make a brew, I've wrote out a healthy eating plan for all next week, wrote my shopping list out too. The other half is cruising for a bruising, he's been lay on his back all night, knees up and arms behind his head as if he's on a sun lounger and snoring like a road drill. O is snoring too so enough is enough!

Thank's Nicky, I'm beginning to think I must have been a really bad person in a former life, not that I've been a such a good one in this life. Good thing I've got all you lot keeping me sane. You've not had the best of weeks yourself either, I hope your mum is improving, is she home now?

I've not got a bad day lined up for today, my brother is taking my mum shopping so this morning it will be just myself and O doing my shopping, I need to nip into work for half an hour to give my friend a birthday present, taking him in with me as she's never seen him. Home for lunch then I'm going to take Mum out to a charity shop, which she loves rummaging round, plus I've got some stuff to donate, then we'll go for a coffee, then back home. So an easy, peasey day, fingers crossed.

See you all later sleepy heads.

Dee, I hope you are getting better and looking after yourself.
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Old 02-01-2013, 03:07 AM
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DAY 10, and proud. I wanted to drink yesterday in a bad way, but didn't. Friday is a tough day for me, but I will get through it.
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Old 02-01-2013, 04:51 AM
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Good Morning All,

Bloss - I really like the idea of February being a pretty month with flowers and hearts. Especially since the weather is pretty cold and blustery during February. I haven't ever decorated for Valentine's Day, but I know decorations just lift my mood.

((Nicky)) - I am so sorry that you had a trying week. But through it all you are grateful and content and that is just so inspirational. I certainly hope you get an opportunity to get some rest this week-end after being woken up at 2:00 a.m.

((Grace)) - I am so sorry to hear that your Dad had a seizure and was hospitalized. You really are a rock! It sounds like you have a lovely day planned and really need it. Much like your Mum, I love to rummage in charity shops too! I hope you have a wonderful day

Boozefree - Your strength is amazing! I too can relate to struggling with drinking and gettting a month here and there. For me, getting some time under my belt was instrumental in showing me how much I hated the way I lived before and how desperately I wanted to change. Kudos to you!

Sober1ck - You have a great attitude about your ex. Changing your thinking and doing things differently is imperative to living a better life. Simple concepts, but not so easy to do! One day at a time is all we need to do

I did see my doctor on Wednesday and it went much as I thought it would. I don't think too highly of him or my healthcare plan. I explained the headaches, chronic exhaustion, the vitamin B and D I take and the fact that I exercise on a daily basis. The first thing he did was whip out a depression questionnaire. Apparently, this is a new protocol that Kaiser has adopted. I was disappointed to say the very least. I scored mildly depressed on this silly questionnaire and explained that of course I feel depressed at times because I always feel physically bad and cannot do the things I want and need to take care of. I also take an anti-anxiety medication. He suggested taking more of it at night to sleep. I told him that he prescribed a sleeping aid that I took and that I took the anti-anxiety med for anxiety and not sleep (as recommended by the psychiatrist). I requested a saliva test for adrendal exhuastion. He wasn't familiar with that and ordered a blood test. Apparently, a blood test will only pick up on severe adrenal exhaustion and not the earlier stages. Then he asked me what I thought the issue was. I said I did not know. He then told me he thought it was "psychological issues" and make an appointment with my psychiatrist. I was really pissed off that I was in there for only ten minutes he chalked up my physical symptoms to be psychological! The good news is that at the very least, I did manage to get a flu shot and get a request for some bloodwork. Unfortunately, the next day was a bad one for me. I woke up with a raging headache. I have a service position on Thursday night. I tried my best to feel better, took my vitamin B, ate healthfully and got on the treadmill for 8 miles. I finally took some advil and that did take the horrible headache away. I was just to worn out to make the meeting. I went to bed at 9:30 and actually did sleep well. I'm not sure if the symptoms I experienced were just more of the same stuff or a reaction to the flu shot.

At any rate, I feel much better today My plans are to attend a beginner's meeting tonight. Wishing everyone a wonderful TGIF!
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Old 02-01-2013, 05:13 AM
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Nicky hope your cat is ok!

WWG way to go on the 10 days!

Grace I like the idea of the healthy planning for the week. Enjoy your shopping and coffee, sounds fun.

Tanja sorry the doctor didn't go so well. Hopefully your headaches and energy levels will get better soon or some other doctor can find the solution to all of it.

Yesterday I dropped my dog off at the specialist for her joint tap. When moving her knee around the doctor felt that she had torn her ACL. She will now have surgery that consists of putting a plate and 4 screws along the side of her tibia. I called around last night and got approved for a loan to pay for all of it, I was not going to let her be in pain, I would do anything for her. Recovery is 6 to 8 weeks so Ill be busy keeping her from running and jumping. So glad I am sober for all of this and not drinking. Hoping after this I won't have anything else major for awhile happen!!!

Have a great day undies!
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Old 02-01-2013, 06:05 AM
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Hi Undies, happy February. January was gone in a blink even though I was sober for most of it. The best holidays are paid days off, so Valentine's Day isn't going to do anything for me.

Caledonia, good for staying strong. Hope things calm down soon.

TTBABP what's the sequel? Is that Hannibal?

Grace, sounds scary about your dad. Hope everything stabilizes. You are right about the barrier and it's a two edged sword. I say I want to be connected then I'll find some way to bite. I'm a sick dog! Sounds like you have a good meal plan, I hope I can spend some time on that this weekend. Your day sounds busy; hope it's going well.

WWG congrats on 10.

tanja, thank you for support, and for reminding me that I only have to deal with today. Sorry about the frustration with the doctor. The only time my GP has any time (like 20 minutes) is at a physical. Then we can chat a little while he's going through the routine. I think you are spot on that a bit of depression is totally normal for you right now with so many things unsettled. I know you are positive about many things like staying sober, and that at least helps.

Have a great day everyone, I'll check in later!
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Hi, my dear Undies! I've been missing you so much. I'm still trying to reschedule my computer time. I used to post in the evening, quite late, but now, when I'm fighting this crippling insomnia, I force myself to turn off computer at 8 p.m. But, good news is that I've slept 4 nights in a row by far! And I'm just afraid to ruin my night sleep again by staying late at computer, it's so good to wake up after 6-7 hours of good sleep, and I've just forgotten what it's like.

I'm reading your posts, just have no time to answer. But I'm with you, my SR friends! And still sober!

I hope, I'll catch up soon and will post again. I miss you all!

Have a great weekend!
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Old 02-01-2013, 07:20 AM
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Grace - My!! You were up early. Hope your Dad is doing well. I also hope you are having that much deserved "easy peasey" day. I sympathesize abut the other half snoring. I feel like I'm at the sawmill everynight.

WWG - congrats on 10 days. I always have problems with Friday night too. After a long stressful work week - I treated myself. Of course, the big head on Saturdays was never a treat. Hang tough. I've said it before and will say it again - just as others have - play it through to the end. I think about how nice the first glass of wine will be then I think how awful the next day will be. So far (since December 1, 2012) this has kept me from that first glass.

tanja - sorry you doctor visit was not more helpful. It seems to me that many of them want to push people complaints off on some kind of depression or psychological issue. Can you not get a different doctor under your plan?

BF - sorry about your doggie. You are a very good and kind person to take such good care of your pooch.

sober1ck - yes Hannibal is the sequel. Its not nearly as well done and has some gross scenes that are just unnecessary.

MB - missed you. So glad you are back and somewhat rested.

Not much going on at the moment. So far it is quiet at work. I even made a hair cut appointment at lunch - hurrah. I'm six weeks past due. Never seem to be able to fit it in.
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Happy Friday Undies:

This weekend B. and I will be cheering on our football team, SF 49ers playing in the Super Bowl on Sunday. We're also going to a community play with B.s mom and dad. It should be a full weekend. Each of you have a relaxed weekend and take good care.

Grace: Sorry to hear about your dad, so nice you are doing well with your sobriety and able to be there for the family.

Nicky: glad the stressful week is over and you can get some rest, those cat fights scare me too! Hope the kitty is ok.

BF: Take good care of your dog, hope the surgery goes well, big hug to your dog

Tanja: sorry the doctors visit wasn't what you hoped for, you are right everything is not psychological. Maybe your plan will allow you to try a different doctor. Take care

M.B. glad you posted, sounds like getting off the computer earlier is helping with your sleep. It feels so good to sleep well, makes all the difference.

WWG, sober1ck, TTBABP, Pan, MyDee and everyone have a nice afternoon, evening and night
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Day ten and wanted to drink, but I'm sober. I am going watch a movie with my bride.
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Saturday morning

Good morning everyone. Fairly slow here, hopefully it just means all are busy and well.

Have a safe, sober weekend
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Old 02-02-2013, 10:51 AM
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Good morning undies!

I got up early and washed my car. Now just watching tv and trying to keep my very hyper boxer calm without exercise. Maybe I'll see if I can find something on Netflix to watch
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Good evening my week end Undies

Well I wrote a long post at about 10 last night and lost the lot and I've just done the same thing again, grrr! So I'm going to make this short.
All is okay on the home front, I've got my two step grandaughter's staying over tonight, they're in the other room at the moment with their Grandad watching a film.
It's freezing cold outside, but dry, better than all that rain anyway.

I hope you're all well and enjoying the week end and I'll be back tomorrow and hopefully have a bit more success with my posts.

Night night, sleep well
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Great with my princess. Looks like a slow day on the board today.
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