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Class Of February 2012 Part 2 |
Welcome TriGirl :) HelloKitty - I'm on various medications...not anti depressants at the moment although I have been years ago... I think there's a vast difference between medications we take to help us maintain a quality of life, and drugs we abused to escape life. JMO :) You've decided not to be a hermit after all HF? :) As long as you feel ready, and you feel integrally committed to not drinking, you'll be OK. D |
Dee74 Im not ready at all!!!! I will be ready after 12 months. If I feel that I can't cope tomorrow and drinks start to appear everywhere, I will leave immediately. Don't see another solution. |
Hey TriGirl...it's never too late to seek help and improve yourself. If it was, I'd have given up long ago. It's day 15 for me...again. Welcome. |
HealthyFood I think that's a good plan! Thanks for the new thread Dee! Welcome back Lilac! I was watching one of those dumb criminal shows on TRU TV. The had a lawyer who showed up to work wasted in front of the judge. Omg. What a nightmare! I worked in a law office in college. I know what kind of paperwork you lug around and the amount of reading required. It must be hard to get drunk an function in the lawyer environment the next day! |
So I have toddler boy yelling DADDY realizing that daddy hasn't been around. The wake is tomorrow and the funeral is on Saturday. I asked him if he could fly home Sunday and he didn't want to talk about it. Apparently MIL wants to have DH drive 18 hours here with them leaving Monday. Wth. That means they win't get here till we'd, which would make 8 days of no daddy. When I mentioned him flying out Sunday I found out through yes and no questions ( his parents were present) that MIL was mad he was coming home Sunday. Wtf he ain't married to her. Deep breaths Orbea, deep breaths! |
If you don't feel you're ready HF why are you going? D |
HF, you are brave. I don't think I could do it... |
Dee74 Because I said yes already. Now Im worried and I don't want to go. Really makes me nervous. Drink in front of me will just freak me out. |
I couldnt do.it without a sober support by my side, for at least thirty days, probably.more.like 45 days. If you proceed with going, is there someone who will be there with u who.knows and supports what u r doing? |
Orbea, while your MIL may be difficult all the time for.all.i.know,.keep.in.mind grief makes.people act extra.needy and kind of crazy. I am just starting to recognize.myself. And at the time.no.one in the family knew what the heck to.do with me, rude and angry and irrational.i.was. Anyway, whatever is going to happen, u will face it soberly!! |
Day 3 done! well half an hour to go but i'm in my PJs tucked up in bed so it seems unlikely I'll have any probs tonight now! :c015: Am finally feeling a bit better. Appetite's back and nausea's pretty much gone. Hope you guys are all doing ok tonight? x |
I had committed to go.out weeks prior to eat and drink for this just past.monday, and i cancdled it ON Monday! |
Way to go Kam!! Woo hoo!! |
I agree with the others HF - so what if you said yes previously? I used to think *so* much of other people...I never wanted to let anyone down or have them mad at me... I was hurting myself with the choices I made - even tho I knew they were bad for me, I put other people ahead of my own welfare again and again. That had to stop. Hang in there Orbea - glad you feel better Kam :) D |
EQ I'm sure it's the grief. It's also been a while since they visited last. She never interferes w our marriage or parenting. I think it's stress. I mean...her and FIL would arrive 2 days later and probably spend 2 weeks here. |
EternalQ HelloKitty8340 No support for me tomorrow. I will be there in alco environment with friends who drink. As I said, if I for a second feel like giving in, I will leave in 5 minutes. |
Dee74 18 sober days will be at risk tomorrow. I used to say no, but not last minute, when people count on me. |
Well, i feel.like giving.in just hearing you talk about sitting around with friends drinking! Just hearing it described triggers me! Lol, but perhaps, you rehearsing.it in your.mind ahead visually will help you.. |
I think you need to consider you're fooling yourself HF - people counted on me for a lot of things but turning up for drinks or parties wasn't one of them...people generally didn't care whether I was there or not. But it's your decision - I hope it works out :) D |
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