LoftyIdeals

Way to GO, RS2!!! 100!!! (and 2, today)!!!!

rs2

Hey folks, Friday (11-11-11) was my 16th wedding anniversary, and we went to a familiar restaurant. I was given a wine menu. I decided I would likely have a glass of wine with my steak. I looked over the menu and didnt see anything by the glass that looked appealing and I surely wasnt going to buy a bottle! So I politely declined the wine and had water with my delicious steak. Funny thing was, I actually thought, "What am I gonna tell my Sober Recovery Family if I have a glass of wine". I'm sure that helped convince me that none of the wines by the glass looked appealing.

It sure was nice not to feel compelled to have an alcholic drink to celebrate our anniversary.

Thanks again for all the encouragement and open and honest support on this board. Ya'll are so helpful.

Warmest personal regards.
rs2

LoftyIdeals

Good choice, my man. I'll bet you felt great about it later. To me, you described the difference between living in the moment, which I always did with complete negligence of past or future when drinking, and in living life in the continuum that it actually is.

Dee74

have a great weekend guys

D

prayforstrength

Congrats rs2, wantthistostop and newday on your success!!

To all my SR friends state-side - Hope you have a wonderful sober holiday!!

To everyone else, wishing you all the best!!

Peace!!

amy55

hey everyone, I'm still around. Stopped counting awhile ago, made me think of drinking too much. Quit date 08/02/2011.

Still working on the foreclosure that I bought.

Nice to see so many still here.

wantthistostop

Hi guys,

Hope you are all well. I have to be honest and share with you the fact that for the last week or so i have been toying with the idea that 'yeah, i could do this now and drink in moderation'. Im not sure if its because Xmas is looming (there are untold drink ad's on tv, and deals) or my boredom and want to socialise over a drink... That little devil is sitting inside my head desperately telling me that i am aware of how i used to be, and i know what problems i caused for myself and feeling of regret - but because of all of that i would be more diligent in my moderating and be able to control it!! I really have been battling with this thought - however there is a faint voice in the back of my head further reminding me that ive not been successful with this in the past so why would i be now?! Thanks for letting me get that out guys im grateful that i can be completely honest here.

Can i say, i survived two parties (kids parties) on the weekend and there was alcohol at the second one. One of my neighbours also gifted me a bottle of wine on Monday.. i did say that i wasn't drinking and didn't want it in the house (i couldn't say that i have a problem with it and dont want the temptation around me) she left the bottle with me. I immediately re-gifted it to my cousin the same evening as he is aware of what i am going through right now. It just seems to be all around me at the mo, nagging.

Dee74

thats the big lie, isn't it?.

Our life gets better because we're not drinking alcohol, so the first thing we do is think about re-introducing alcohol...

Crazy.

Good for you for ratting your inner voices out wantthistostop

D

rs2

Hey, I've been having these thoughts too. Almost gave in a couple of times. Today is 108 days for me and everyone is coming over for Thanksgiving, which normally includes lots of wine. Thinking I should wait a year before "maybe" considering the moderation thing.

Hope everyone is doing great on this American Holiday. Warmest regards.

Sincerely,
rs2

wantthistostop

Hmmm, so true Dee - thanks (just needed a kick i guess) I can also noticeably feel my self respect returning... Im feeling proud of myself and am remembering my worth - which i think, scratch that... which i know the drink destroyed over the years. Im finding me again and it feels good.

Thank you all for the continued support, hope Thanksgiving is great for you all x

rs2

Hey gang, just checking in. Hope everyone is doing great. Still sober here. Made it through Thanksgiving at our home without any wine!!! Yeah!

Just seems to be getting easier to say "no thanks"; "I'm ok"; "not right now"; etc. When stressed and would like an escape, I think, "man a drink would be good", but then I think about it being almost 4 months and I dont want to blow my sobriety.

Was having a club soda with lime Friday night at the yacht club and my 14 year old daughter asked if it was an alcoholic drink. I told her it was not and that I'd been 4 months without any alcohol. She said, "wow, thats good dad, keep it up". Its nice that its a lot easier to discuss now. I'm not as embarrassed to just say that I'd been drinking too much and too often and need to give my body a break.

Miss seeing you guys post. Hope it just means that its gotten easier for you too and you're just not as dependant on this board. Happy holidays everyone.

Sincerely,
rs2

LoftyIdeals

Good to hear from you rs2! We are approaching 4 months, now, aren't we? Today is day 120 for me. Funny thing is that my 14 yr old daughter asked me the same about an orange cream soda in a brown bottle shaped like a beer bottle. We were both relieved that it wasn't an alcoholic drink.

Glad we are going strong during the holiday season! Take care!

amy55

Hi guys,

I'm still here hanging in. Renovation on my cabin is going slow, but hopefully will have the kitchen done by x-mas.

Been going to x-mas parties, and having a really great time. No liquor being served. I have a part-time job, about 8 - 10 hours a week. It's taking care of my friends son who has autism. The best part is that I've been taking him to parties that are thrown by autism organizations, and they don't serve liquor.

So having a really good time eating at these parties, and dancing the night away. Glad to see so many of you still here.

So in a way, I get to have my cake and eat it too. I get to go to parties, eat and dance, and have no temptations at all. Perfect job !!!!!

Piotr

Good to hear that all is going good rs2, lofty and amy.

I have cravings but they are manageable. Still would love not to have alcoholic thoughts at all. I go to group therapy twice a week and AA meetings. Helps to keep my balance. Finally had the courage to speak at AA. Felt real good.

All the best to you.

Piotr

Good to hear that all is going good rs2, lofty and amy.

I have cravings but they are manageable. Still would love not to have alcoholic thoughts at all. I go to group therapy twice a week and AA meetings. Helps to keep my balance. Finally had the courage to speak at AA. Felt real good.

All the best to you.

LoftyIdeals

Piotr...Congrats on your 4 months yesterday!

I am 4 months today!

Piotr

Congratulations Lofty on 4 months !

rs2

Congratulations Lofty, Piotr, Amy, Wanttostop, Me and all the other Augustinians that are now 4 MONTHS SOBER!!!!

So nice to share this time with you guys and happy to celebrate this wonderful milestone together. I think my liver is still in shock. :-) Thanks for posting and keeping us updated.

Piotr - congrats on the speaking at AA. That'll probably get a whole lot easier as you do it more.
Amy--hope the cabin is ready in time to sport a fine Christmas tree. (I'm jealous of the dancing and parties. It was kinda weird dancing sober, but that'll probably get better the longer I'm sober.)

Lofty-- its amazing how much our children really pay attention and learn from us isnt it? I'm ashamed of what I may have taught my 14 year old daughter by opening a bottle of wine every night for years. But quitting has sure given me a lot of opportunities to talk about the evils of alcohol with my children.

Thanks again to everyone for checking in and sharing your lives with me on this board. Its difficult relaying how much you've done to help me. THANK YOU!

Sincerely,
rs2

wantthistostop

Hey guys,

Seems like we're all doing a great job of this sobriety thing. Just wanted to share with you that i returned to work today and i really enjoyed it

Its also getting easier (not as enticing!) to say 'no thanks' to offers of drink - short check in as am dozing off x tc all spk soon xxx

jimihendrix

Hi all. Long time lurker. Aug 18th is my day, so I'm almost at 4 months.

Question: has anyone had experience with Wellbutrin?

I'm seeing an addiction-specialist psychiatrist, he's concluded that I'm depressed, and is recommending Wellbutrin. I'm not asking the forum for medical advice. Am just wondering if anyone else is going through post-quitting depression and what's it like to take Wellbutrin.

thank you.