Members with less than 2 weeks Welcome Part 16
Member
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 21
Saturday all done, wanted a beer but refused to give in, that's a Friday and Saturday done! Feeling proud and no sinking feelings of wondering what I have done due to black outs! Although I feel I am going to turn into a boring hermit at least I am not hurting anyone!!!
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 622
Im on day 2 again. I really hope I can do this this time. It was hard tonight but I am trying to stay focused. Already after 2 days I feel my hangover gone and feel good so I want to drink - why, and why is it so damn strong the urge!
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
copperfield....Welcome to our Daily Support crew..
Yes early sobriety is difficult for most of us...and you are still in de tox mode.
However...I drank when I felt bad or good...it made no sense to me
That is when I came to know I had slid into active alcoholism.....then recovery was my goal..
Yes early sobriety is difficult for most of us...and you are still in de tox mode.
However...I drank when I felt bad or good...it made no sense to me
That is when I came to know I had slid into active alcoholism.....then recovery was my goal..
Living Sober
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: East Coast
Posts: 59
I started the class of October thread but slipped last weekend, so now I am on day 2 again. I still plan to be in the October club, but I thought I would re-visit the 2 week and under class. Always met some really good people in here, good to be here and still trying.
Thanks
Thanks
as I was.Member
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 21
Least, I appogise for my term boring hermit, I hope I did not offend. What I should of wrote was I have to stay awaY from all the places I used to go, ie bars and clubs... And just found myself declining offers of going out from friends I have made. Hence at home alone but still sober.. Thank you though I am going to re evaluate my pass times.
Day 5 yeah!!
Day 5 yeah!!
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Philomena...How about planning something for Friday night that will not include drinking?
Make it clear when you ask someone....there will be no alcohol offered or allowed.
You could say the truth...it no longer agrees with you...you quit for your health.
Then...ask your best female friend to come over for a girls night.....you could
do manicures...try new hair styles...put on the newest chick flick..serve
: ...non alcoholic spiced Tea...make fancy dip or sandwhiches.
You could also ask them to go out with you..dinner...movie..
walk around a shopping mall to window shop...attend an AA meeting...etc.
If that is not do able...we have an active Chat Room here...and
of course....we are here 24/7 if you want to log on.
Keep in focus..Friday is just another day on your journey.....
Make it clear when you ask someone....there will be no alcohol offered or allowed.
You could say the truth...it no longer agrees with you...you quit for your health.
Then...ask your best female friend to come over for a girls night.....you could
do manicures...try new hair styles...put on the newest chick flick..serve
: ...non alcoholic spiced Tea...make fancy dip or sandwhiches.You could also ask them to go out with you..dinner...movie..
walk around a shopping mall to window shop...attend an AA meeting...etc.
If that is not do able...we have an active Chat Room here...and
of course....we are here 24/7 if you want to log on.
Keep in focus..Friday is just another day on your journey...
..
Member
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 21
That's good advice carol, thank you.
This Friday is a work do, it's actually for me leaving, returning to uk. It is with a couple of people I have made friends with over my stay in the US. I would find it very hard to explain that I just don't drink anymore, they like a drink too but seem to control it better than me. I have thought I may just make an excuse and not go, but I don't want to let anyone down, they have gone to a bit of effort, equally I could just drive, but then I think I won't have as much fun, I certain ally won't dance the night away with out a beer! I need to learn how to enjoy a night out without a drink, I just don't know how...I was a party girl, beers gave me confidence, but I know now I take it to far and can't stop, I say things I shouldn't ect, half the time not even remembering the next day.... Will just want to hide on Friday I think,!,,,, rambling on sorry!
This Friday is a work do, it's actually for me leaving, returning to uk. It is with a couple of people I have made friends with over my stay in the US. I would find it very hard to explain that I just don't drink anymore, they like a drink too but seem to control it better than me. I have thought I may just make an excuse and not go, but I don't want to let anyone down, they have gone to a bit of effort, equally I could just drive, but then I think I won't have as much fun, I certain ally won't dance the night away with out a beer! I need to learn how to enjoy a night out without a drink, I just don't know how...I was a party girl, beers gave me confidence, but I know now I take it to far and can't stop, I say things I shouldn't ect, half the time not even remembering the next day.... Will just want to hide on Friday I think,!,,,, rambling on sorry!
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Ok I see you are considering your options....
and my suggestions above you can put aside for another time...
This is from my files...and perhaps something will be useful for Friday..
and my suggestions above you can put aside for another time...This is from my files...and perhaps something will be useful for Friday..
Yes.....parties .. weddings ... social and business events
sometimes are part of our lives.
Here are some tips that have worked for me
and I have left sober each time.
Go late ...leave early
Take your own car.
Ask a sober friend to go with you.
Take sober peoples phone numbers to call if you get antsy.
Turn your wine glass upside down at dinner
..denoting to the server you don't plan to drink
When toasts are made raise a glass of water
Get your own beverage from the bar. then
carry around a glass with something non alcoholic
(Club soda and Lime ..Coke with a cherry...Virgin Mary)
When asked "want a drink"?
you then say..."No thanks I have one"
When you leave your beverage ...smell before drinking.
It's easy to mix up the glasses.
Dance often and enjoy!
sometimes are part of our lives.
Here are some tips that have worked for me
and I have left sober each time.
Go late ...leave early
Take your own car.
Ask a sober friend to go with you.
Take sober peoples phone numbers to call if you get antsy.
Turn your wine glass upside down at dinner
..denoting to the server you don't plan to drink
When toasts are made raise a glass of water
Get your own beverage from the bar. then
carry around a glass with something non alcoholic
(Club soda and Lime ..Coke with a cherry...Virgin Mary)
When asked "want a drink"?
you then say..."No thanks I have one"
When you leave your beverage ...smell before drinking.
It's easy to mix up the glasses.
Dance often and enjoy!
Member
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 1,928
One other trick that I learned in an AA meeting. Keep your cell in your pocket. If you get into a sticky situation you just look surprised, pull the cell out, open it and say "Sorry, I've got to take this" - and walk away. Works every time.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 21
Hi guys, I went out tonight with a friend from work and met one of there friends in a bar, I did not touch a drop!! Yeah, I was driving, but I thought I was going to refuse to go initially but I went,. Looked at it as a challenge, I watched how they drank.. Only had 4 beers each in 3 hours... If I was drinking I would have swallowed mine and looking for the next not really enjoying the company, as it was I chilled out and had a good time. I have the thirst now but will resist tomorrow another day. Friday is looming though,
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