Whiners Anonymous Pt 54
No, I don't get cold sores. Bubba does so I know what they look like. This is maybe like a small crack gone funny. Ever since I got back from Florida, my skin and hands and lips are so dry.
I keep putting good lip stuff on them and figure eventually it will just go away.
Good luck with that job, HB. You would be PERFECT!! And volunteering there as well as having a reference from there can only be good.
I keep putting good lip stuff on them and figure eventually it will just go away.
Good luck with that job, HB. You would be PERFECT!! And volunteering there as well as having a reference from there can only be good.
sigh... Miss Daisy insisted on going out for supper (she does several times a week) and bro left three dollars to add to the tip... The tab was $25... and she insisted that was enough for a tip!! It's pointless to tell her that's not enough. She said "but I have to watch my money!" To which I replied, "then you shouldn't be going out to eat all the time!" She got mad and sulked... I had no money to add to it and was embarassed as hell... She's getting to be such a terrible tightwad and the dementia makes it worse... She probably spends a hundred dollars a week on eating out but leaves a paltry tip every damn time!!
I refuse to go out with her anymore, I won't order anything from now on, just sit there and have nothing. If I can't add to her lousy tip I won't spend her flippin' money just to shortchange the server!!
I refuse to go out with her anymore, I won't order anything from now on, just sit there and have nothing. If I can't add to her lousy tip I won't spend her flippin' money just to shortchange the server!!
HB - Hoping very hard that you get it. I wonder how many others will apply - maybe no one else noticed it?
LTT - So sorry for your troubles with the damn car. What a mess.
Least - It's amazing how many people still tip as if it's 1955.
Belated happy birthday wishes to you Ring.
Cold as heck today and the furnace is cranking away. Just can't afford this oil, but then using space heaters causes electric to be high. Where is this spring we heard so much about?
Love to all you whiney kids.
LTT - So sorry for your troubles with the damn car. What a mess.
Least - It's amazing how many people still tip as if it's 1955.
Belated happy birthday wishes to you Ring.
Cold as heck today and the furnace is cranking away. Just can't afford this oil, but then using space heaters causes electric to be high. Where is this spring we heard so much about?
Love to all you whiney kids.
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i have made an appt. for a much needed pedicure this friday....it had BETTER warm up by that time or my toes might snap off from the cold!
it is 7:33PM i need to have some sort of dinner item???? i had soup for lunch and 1/2 bagel for breakfast.....i've been so busy rehearsing for my DWTS show i haven't hadtime to eat!....i like to watch but i am NOT interested in seeing mr. GF smacker and tantrum chair-thrower with the bad blonde dye job, chris brown.....they need to give him the hook.
it is 7:33PM i need to have some sort of dinner item???? i had soup for lunch and 1/2 bagel for breakfast.....i've been so busy rehearsing for my DWTS show i haven't hadtime to eat!....i like to watch but i am NOT interested in seeing mr. GF smacker and tantrum chair-thrower with the bad blonde dye job, chris brown.....they need to give him the hook.
You guys are the best!
Thank you for your well wishes, prayers and good vibes going out on this most recent job oppty.
This job is no different than any other with a floodgate of unemployed contenders...but I believe that persistence and perseverance has GOT to pay off.
Everyone's support is helping me along in this overwhelming challenge.
Thank you!
Thank you for your well wishes, prayers and good vibes going out on this most recent job oppty.
Originally Posted by Hevyn
I wonder how many others will apply - maybe no one else noticed it?
Everyone's support is helping me along in this overwhelming challenge.
Thank you!
LTL - Bummer on the car! I had mine stolen from in front of my house a few years ago. The @#*%#@ who stole it totaled it. I cried real tears. Hope yours returns to you safely.
Least - I had a friend that was a waitress who I refused to go out with because SHE under tipped. It was embarrassing!
My faucet arrived yesterday. Mr Hugs decided we needed a stainless steel sink to go with the new faucet. So off to the hardware store we went to spend money we don't have on a new sink. Didn't fit right, chipped the counter top, connecting bolts too short, water lines too short, sink needs additional support to hold heavy duty faucet. Soooo...we will be going back to the hardware store today. I haven't cooked anything since yesterday afternoon and I will not be cooking anything until I have a working kitchen!!!
Least - I had a friend that was a waitress who I refused to go out with because SHE under tipped. It was embarrassing!
My faucet arrived yesterday. Mr Hugs decided we needed a stainless steel sink to go with the new faucet. So off to the hardware store we went to spend money we don't have on a new sink. Didn't fit right, chipped the counter top, connecting bolts too short, water lines too short, sink needs additional support to hold heavy duty faucet. Soooo...we will be going back to the hardware store today. I haven't cooked anything since yesterday afternoon and I will not be cooking anything until I have a working kitchen!!!
Least - The Server's of the world bless you. I should know
because I am one of them. Actually, don't let your Mom's
behavior get you down. Most (not all, but a bunch) of server's
can "read" the table pretty darn well. If I have a table like
you describe I don't hold it against the rest of the party,
when there is an elderly person like your mom. To fix it
if you go with your mom to the same place repeatedly,
find a server that seems to have been there for awhile.
Take that person aside and explain and then make sure
to ask for her/him when you go out there again. Every once in
awhile bring a special goodie...Believe it or not, I have three
families that have done that to me. I've gotten all kinds of
thank you's that aren't monetary...cookies, a gift card, etc..
and nobody feels bad about their elderly relative's behavior.
I actually look forward to waiting on these families.
I have one family that lives in Texas. They come to Tahoe every year.
Their mom passed two years ago, but that doesn't stop them
from coming by on their vaca and leaving me a little trinket from
Texas and their regards even if I'm not on duty at the time. It
is always a nice surprise and they never fail to tell me how they
appreciate my understanding of their situation.
because I am one of them. Actually, don't let your Mom's
behavior get you down. Most (not all, but a bunch) of server's
can "read" the table pretty darn well. If I have a table like
you describe I don't hold it against the rest of the party,
when there is an elderly person like your mom. To fix it
if you go with your mom to the same place repeatedly,
find a server that seems to have been there for awhile.
Take that person aside and explain and then make sure
to ask for her/him when you go out there again. Every once in
awhile bring a special goodie...Believe it or not, I have three
families that have done that to me. I've gotten all kinds of
thank you's that aren't monetary...cookies, a gift card, etc..
and nobody feels bad about their elderly relative's behavior.
I actually look forward to waiting on these families.
I have one family that lives in Texas. They come to Tahoe every year.
Their mom passed two years ago, but that doesn't stop them
from coming by on their vaca and leaving me a little trinket from
Texas and their regards even if I'm not on duty at the time. It
is always a nice surprise and they never fail to tell me how they
appreciate my understanding of their situation.
I used to be a waitress many moons ago and I remember the little old ladies who would leave .35 cents and think they were doing a great thing lol
I really have no whines I am just lurking reading everyone's posts.
Thanks for the kind words Pattn back at ya
Nite Nite
I really have no whines I am just lurking reading everyone's posts.
Thanks for the kind words Pattn back at ya
Nite Nite
hi all, you may remember the other day I had a whine about my sister posting my age on her facebook for all to see, anyway I asked if she could remove and just repost with it saying a special birthday instead of my age. She did this, nice. However someone asked on the new post how old I was and she wrote a lengthy post that my sisters age is Top Secret and that is why I had to remove my original post that showed her age!!!! What the!
Ring, your sister and people like her are the reason I don't do Facebook. I like my privacy, particularly on the internet. Those near and dear to me know all they need to know. Those not so near or dear...it's not their business. Hope you had a Happy Birthday anyway.
Good morning dear Whiny People. This is far too early to be up and at 'em. Bubba starts early which wakes me up but I shall be heading back to bed for another hour or so very soon.
It was decided the stainless steel sink was too flimsy for the new heavy duty faucet. Sink removed, old cast iron sink put back in and extended water lines attached. The new faucet that I waited over a week for has an internal broken piece inside the spray nozzle that causes water to spray all over the kitchen. The water hose is sounding like a good idea!
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No cooking for Hugs...period...you need the professionals to make your kitchen errors look "like they never even happened"....so much for saving $$ now you need a new counter-top to fix the crack??? I like granite, so many patterns and colors to choose from, like sparkley jewels for the kitchen and bath.
someone needs to seriously smack ring's sister or point out that she has wrinkles and sagging facial lines....i hate facebook too, i like my own privacy.
RZ, the trunk is a very practical place to stow dead bodies....it is easier to dump the car with the body in the trunk than carry it around on a handtruck.
Hbeee, my ears are smoking in concentration that you get this job and your current supervisor just TELLS THEM TO HIRE YOU....end of story!
someone needs to seriously smack ring's sister or point out that she has wrinkles and sagging facial lines....i hate facebook too, i like my own privacy.
RZ, the trunk is a very practical place to stow dead bodies....it is easier to dump the car with the body in the trunk than carry it around on a handtruck.
Hbeee, my ears are smoking in concentration that you get this job and your current supervisor just TELLS THEM TO HIRE YOU....end of story!
Good moaning whiners.
MM, the servers at our favorite place know about mom's dementia so they understand her tipping practices. Still embarassing for me as I've always been a generous tipper, as I couldn't do that job myself and admire them for their skills and good service. All my kids are good tippers too, especially dk. She's very generous, often leaving a huge tip, not just her usual good tip. Last time we went out she left a fifty percent tip!!! That's something I'm proud of my kids for: none of them are stingy.
What I often do is leave them more money when I have it... So when I get my check for April I'll leave this lady five dollars, just because I can! Better late than never.
I have no whines other than it's supposed to snow a bit later on!!! And it's going to be in the thirties today, quite cold all day! No long dog walks today, I'm afraid.
Where the hell is spring??
MM, the servers at our favorite place know about mom's dementia so they understand her tipping practices. Still embarassing for me as I've always been a generous tipper, as I couldn't do that job myself and admire them for their skills and good service. All my kids are good tippers too, especially dk. She's very generous, often leaving a huge tip, not just her usual good tip. Last time we went out she left a fifty percent tip!!! That's something I'm proud of my kids for: none of them are stingy.
What I often do is leave them more money when I have it... So when I get my check for April I'll leave this lady five dollars, just because I can! Better late than never.
I have no whines other than it's supposed to snow a bit later on!!! And it's going to be in the thirties today, quite cold all day! No long dog walks today, I'm afraid.
Where the hell is spring??
Um... Miss Daisy just called me (no surprise) wanting to go out for lunch. I reminded her of her statement yesterday about having to "watch her money" when she refused to leave a decent tip... and she doesn't remember saying that... also no surprise... Sigh... so I'll take her but won't order anything but coffee and tell her it's cause I refuse to jack up the tab if I can't afford to help leave a respectable tip.
I'm also giving her a tip card to replace the one she used to have and consult as to leave the correct (minimum) tip... I'm sure she'll be so grateful to know what's the right tip... not...
Her dementia is really affecting me badly. I know in my head that she can't help it, it's the disease talking and directing her behavior, but it still drives me nuts dealing with her irrational (more so) actions. She's never been a logical person but now is totally illogical.
And, as always, I'm scared to death it will happen to me too in twenty years or so... Gawd, I'd rather be in a wheelchair than be demented in reason... but I don't get to choose my age-related disabilities...
I'm also giving her a tip card to replace the one she used to have and consult as to leave the correct (minimum) tip... I'm sure she'll be so grateful to know what's the right tip... not...
Her dementia is really affecting me badly. I know in my head that she can't help it, it's the disease talking and directing her behavior, but it still drives me nuts dealing with her irrational (more so) actions. She's never been a logical person but now is totally illogical.
And, as always, I'm scared to death it will happen to me too in twenty years or so... Gawd, I'd rather be in a wheelchair than be demented in reason... but I don't get to choose my age-related disabilities...
I am so depressed right now... Lunch was a dismal success. She got mad that I wasn't having anything and insisted I get something so I got a small item and ate it slowly.
SHe's losing it more quickly every damn day. I'm the once closest to her, in distance anyway, and it's affecting me badly even tho I know it's no one's fault and I can't do a damn thing about it. She sits at the table, staring out the window, making odd comments, and, of course, talking about how the divorce 41 yrs ago ruined her life... Always the same ol' sh!t... "what did I do wrong??" I've stopped responding to it as I can't stand hearing about it. AFter 41 yrs I have nothing to say and am so sick of hearing it I could scream!!
She's so out of it now it's amazing she's still living on her own... and it's just a matter of time before she's got to be in assisted living... which she'll fight against tooth and nail... but it will have to be done before she hurts herself somehow...
PleaseGoddon'tletmegetdementiapleasedon'tletmegetd ementiapleasepleaseplease...
SHe's losing it more quickly every damn day. I'm the once closest to her, in distance anyway, and it's affecting me badly even tho I know it's no one's fault and I can't do a damn thing about it. She sits at the table, staring out the window, making odd comments, and, of course, talking about how the divorce 41 yrs ago ruined her life... Always the same ol' sh!t... "what did I do wrong??" I've stopped responding to it as I can't stand hearing about it. AFter 41 yrs I have nothing to say and am so sick of hearing it I could scream!!
She's so out of it now it's amazing she's still living on her own... and it's just a matter of time before she's got to be in assisted living... which she'll fight against tooth and nail... but it will have to be done before she hurts herself somehow...
PleaseGoddon'tletmegetdementiapleasedon'tletmegetd ementiapleasepleaseplease...
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try to steer the conversations to pleasantries so she does not dwell so much on the past...you can talk about things that make her happy....shopping the grandchildren, the weather, the pets...make plans for the spring, talk about the upcoming holidays, describe the play you saw, how well the kids are doing in school, anything.
ask her OPINION about what color looks best on you, what color you should paint the kitchen bathroom, the cat, (even if you are not going to paint, getting her to offer her advice will be helpful) funny antics the pets are doing, how weird the neighbors are.
she NEEDS to feel useful, even if you just ask her to fold your clothes or what kind of potatoes she thinks are best....get creative....you have to give her a sense of purpose and not disrespect her, because it IS a disease.
(I attended an Alzeimer's seminar 2 weeks ago)
ask her OPINION about what color looks best on you, what color you should paint the kitchen bathroom, the cat, (even if you are not going to paint, getting her to offer her advice will be helpful) funny antics the pets are doing, how weird the neighbors are.
she NEEDS to feel useful, even if you just ask her to fold your clothes or what kind of potatoes she thinks are best....get creative....you have to give her a sense of purpose and not disrespect her, because it IS a disease.
(I attended an Alzeimer's seminar 2 weeks ago)
You're right Fandy. Was talking to ck last night about this and she said. "pick your battles". Smart kid. It's just getting to me badly and the fact that I can do nothing makes me feel worse. I'm trying to see things as Miss Daisy sees them but cannot do that as I'm too clear-minded to ignore what's going on, as she does, and make/pass judgements on everyone and everything that crosses my path. It's the saddest thing to watch her decline and be powerless to stop it.
All the zoloft in the world's not enough to keep the depression at bay. This is not my mother. THis is not my mother. This is not my mother... This is a stranger who's invaded my mother's body and has taken over. There's not a rational sensible logical 'bone' left in her body... She's slipping away, bit by bit and I can't do a damn thing about it.
All the zoloft in the world's not enough to keep the depression at bay. This is not my mother. THis is not my mother. This is not my mother... This is a stranger who's invaded my mother's body and has taken over. There's not a rational sensible logical 'bone' left in her body... She's slipping away, bit by bit and I can't do a damn thing about it.
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