Members with less than 2 weeks-Welcome! Part 13
Member
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Minneapolis, MN
Posts: 36
I'm still sick but still sober , almost 2 weeks, yay!
My husband was just telling me that good friends/drinking buddies of ours had just won a huge crate of liquor (seriously in a raffle!!) and said they would have to have us over to help drink it!! He didn't tell them about me yet but we'll have to.
Any tips for how to tell people without sounding preachy or judging?
My husband was just telling me that good friends/drinking buddies of ours had just won a huge crate of liquor (seriously in a raffle!!) and said they would have to have us over to help drink it!! He didn't tell them about me yet but we'll have to.
Any tips for how to tell people without sounding preachy or judging?
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
I don't think everyone needs to know everything
about my personal life.....
I'd simply turn down the invite ...you make any
excuse you feel comfortable with.
If you do decide to go....tell them you are on a
new health kick....no more drinking this year.
Take your own car...arrive late...leave quickly when you
feel antsy. Nothing more boring than hanging
out with drinkers ...when your sober
Just my experience.....
Congratulations on your 2 weeks.....
about my personal life.....
I'd simply turn down the invite ...you make any
excuse you feel comfortable with.
If you do decide to go....tell them you are on a
new health kick....no more drinking this year.
Take your own car...arrive late...leave quickly when you
feel antsy. Nothing more boring than hanging
out with drinkers ...when your sober
Just my experience.....
Congratulations on your 2 weeks.....
Member
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Minneapolis, MN
Posts: 36
Thanks Carol. They live just a few houses away, so no driving. They're good friends so I'll tell them when I'm ready. Just not sure how to put it. This is all so new to me. They still think it's weird that I gave up eating meat!!
Last edited by K8E; 10-01-2010 at 02:53 PM. Reason: wrong smily!
Member
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 58
Brand new
Hi everybody,
I just joined soberrecovery.com and am just trying to find my way around the site. In the hour or so that I've been looking at posts, etc., I've sensed that there is a very caring and supportive group of like-minded people out there who really want to help others to stop drinking. Thank you, because that is what I need right now.
I'm reluctant to call myself an "alcoholic," but there's no denying that my drinking has caused some problems in my life, and I just want to quit. I've been drinking more and more over the last year or so, and have now worked up to about a bottle of wine every day after work, so while I said I was reluctant to refer to myself as an alcoholic, an honest look at my drinking probably says otherwise.
Right now, I'm going on 24 hours without drinking. I feel fine, so far. Anyway, I'm really happy that I found this site and am looking forward to spending a lot of time here, chatting with and getting advice from others who understand.
Hope to be "talking" with many of you soon.
Mick
I just joined soberrecovery.com and am just trying to find my way around the site. In the hour or so that I've been looking at posts, etc., I've sensed that there is a very caring and supportive group of like-minded people out there who really want to help others to stop drinking. Thank you, because that is what I need right now.
I'm reluctant to call myself an "alcoholic," but there's no denying that my drinking has caused some problems in my life, and I just want to quit. I've been drinking more and more over the last year or so, and have now worked up to about a bottle of wine every day after work, so while I said I was reluctant to refer to myself as an alcoholic, an honest look at my drinking probably says otherwise.
Right now, I'm going on 24 hours without drinking. I feel fine, so far. Anyway, I'm really happy that I found this site and am looking forward to spending a lot of time here, chatting with and getting advice from others who understand.
Hope to be "talking" with many of you soon.
Mick
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
.....Welcome to our recovery community Mick I promise.....those wonderful Blue Crabs taste just fine
without alcohol....
Glad you decided to head for sobriety ...it was the wisest
move I ever made.
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: MI
Posts: 194
Originally Posted by K8E 
I'm still sick but still sober , almost 2 weeks, yay!
My husband was just telling me that good friends/drinking buddies of ours had just won a huge crate of liquor (seriously in a raffle!!) and said they would have to have us over to help drink it!! He didn't tell them about me yet but we'll have to.
Any tips for how to tell people without sounding preachy or judging?
My husband was just telling me that good friends/drinking buddies of ours had just won a huge crate of liquor (seriously in a raffle!!) and said they would have to have us over to help drink it!! He didn't tell them about me yet but we'll have to.
Any tips for how to tell people without sounding preachy or judging?
I just say no thanks. no reason just no thanks.. if they say oh com'on.. I say no thanks again.. just like if they offer me something to eat I don't like.. nothing more nothing less, just no thanks. No one needs to know why you don't want to drink, or eat or anything.. We don't need o explain! just because we know we have a problem with it..
for sharing with usbona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,780
Welcome to any newcomers!
Carol calls this our "yes you can" thread. And if I can stop drinking, anyone can!
Congrats to all on their progress. It will continue to get better and better, I promise.
Carol calls this our "yes you can" thread. And if I can stop drinking, anyone can!Congrats to all on their progress. It will continue to get better and better, I promise.
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: MI
Posts: 194
Originally Posted by Fee11
Hya guys. I wanted to introduce myself; I made it through my first weekend in a long time sober. I really feel it. Life might be okay if I dont have to fight to drink to survive anymore. Much love.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,780
Welcome all! I too used to 'fight with myself' over drinking/not drinking. Buat when I finally truly accepted that I could never drink even a sip, that it was not an option anymore, only then did the fighting stop. I don't think about drinking much except for the occasional thought of being glad I don't drink.
Once I removed the option of drinking, it was no longer available. Sounds simplistic but to me it's realistic.
Keep us updated on your progress. Always a pleasure to see someone succeeding a day at a time.
I too used to 'fight with myself' over drinking/not drinking. Buat when I finally truly accepted that I could never drink even a sip, that it was not an option anymore, only then did the fighting stop. I don't think about drinking much except for the occasional thought of being glad I don't drink. Once I removed the option of drinking, it was no longer available.
Sounds simplistic but to me it's realistic. Keep us updated on your progress. Always a pleasure to see someone succeeding a day at a time.
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: MI
Posts: 194
Originally Posted by least
Welcome all! I too used to 'fight with myself' over drinking/not drinking. Buat when I finally truly accepted that I could never drink even a sip, that it was not an option anymore, only then did the fighting stop. I don't think about drinking much except for the occasional thought of being glad I don't drink.
Once I removed the option of drinking, it was no longer available. Sounds simplistic but to me it's realistic.
Keep us updated on your progress. Always a pleasure to see someone succeeding a day at a time.
I too used to 'fight with myself' over drinking/not drinking. Buat when I finally truly accepted that I could never drink even a sip, that it was not an option anymore, only then did the fighting stop. I don't think about drinking much except for the occasional thought of being glad I don't drink. Once I removed the option of drinking, it was no longer available.
Sounds simplistic but to me it's realistic. Keep us updated on your progress. Always a pleasure to see someone succeeding a day at a time.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Anthem, AZ
Posts: 29
Originally Posted by jwk3964
Well, I'm currently on Day 6. Not going to lie... the withdrawals have subsided for the most part (shakes, night sweats)...everyone!
I am on day 8. I stopped taking the ant abuse because it made me I'll. I know I will make it because I've decided to. I recognize that although I lived a charmed life, I am no different an alcoholic than my formerly abusive and violent alcoholic mother.
The night sweats, nightly anxiety attacks, morning guilt and failed commitments to cut back or quit. Are gone. Quitting alcohol has eliminated the most glaring failure in my otherwise victorious life. I used to think "rehab is for quitters" without knowing that with every flip comment or joke was more evidence of my problem.
How are YOU doing?
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Fee11....I waved at you in our Alcoholism Forum
I'm so pleased you are doing well and have
joined with us here....
My not drinking has improved my life in so many positive ways
What's not to like?
I'm so pleased you are doing well and have
joined with us here....
My not drinking has improved my life in so many positive ways
What's not to like?
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
I have no ccurrent info on jwk3964 ....hope everthing is going well...
Bellerophon....Day 8 is a good beginning
Well done!
I hope you keep posting here on our
"Yes! You Can" thread
Bellerophon....Day 8 is a good beginning
Well done!
I hope you keep posting here on our
"Yes! You Can" thread
Member
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Minneapolis, MN
Posts: 36
Hi there everyone. Day 15 : )
We went out for a last minute meal at a friends house last night. They had an amazing cheese tray and I knew the wine would come out. The other couple and my husband drank (Cheese and red wine my fave combo!) but I said I was still getting over a cold and didn't join them.
It was hard but a good test run for other situations.
It's funny I used to think drinking helped with my social anxiety. Now I realise that it made it worse because I'd usually end up saying something stupid!
We went out for a last minute meal at a friends house last night. They had an amazing cheese tray and I knew the wine would come out. The other couple and my husband drank (Cheese and red wine my fave combo!) but I said I was still getting over a cold and didn't join them.
It was hard but a good test run for other situations.
It's funny I used to think drinking helped with my social anxiety. Now I realise that it made it worse because I'd usually end up saying something stupid!
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