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June Sobriety Group Part 2

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http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-group-21.html
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this is almost an upgrade, isn't it?

Friday night. Football, friends, and sober... Dying to go to bed though. Not drinking is incredibly tiring
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(((Everyone)))

I'm struggling right now too...too much stress and too much frustration. A friend said something to me today that just resonated SO MUCH with me...she said, "It's like I have to learn how to relax on my own, without my wine, and I don't know how to do it." Yes, that's IT. Life is hard and I need to learn how to roll with it...somehow...

I don't have any answers, but I wanted you to know you are not alone.

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BF and everyone- Prayer and meditation has been a huge help for learning how to deal with stress and relaxation. Plus, it doesn't leave you with a hangover. Sober 4th of July to you all.
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Hi all and many congrats to those of you DOING SO WELL!!!

And for those struggling (count me in that group), let's make this the best sober 4th of July weekend ever!!!

I had a horrible week -- many stresses and some 'female' issues -- I didn't make it through sober. Sorry to disappoint However, I saw that a couple of you were feeling down about having to re-start this, so I wanted to say that you're not alone....

I went through some stuff relating to my divorce and felt very alone this week. It was horrible. I almost got the idea of calling my ex-husband and asking him if he wanted to get back together. Almost, and I did not do it, because it would have been a bad idea. When I was married, I never drank too much. All these drinking problems surfaced after my divorce. Well, no sense dwelling on the past. That can't be changed.

I'm ready for a sober holiday weekend. Happy July to all!!
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I'm not in the States so I don't really understand the 4th of July weekend, but I know that for anyone struggling you'll find support here, both in this thread and elsewhere.

Here's to a sober weekend, all

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..hey hey hey..a bit of a struggle n' suddenly...'bingo'..

..you're there..feelin' even better than before...

BTW:do we have a 4th of July in Ozland???

..yes we do!! n' a 3rd,5th,6th as well!!:rotfxko

..enjoy another sober day..Junbies...Ozy..


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Oh, Super, I understand how difficult it is to feel everything all at once, and now we don't get to numb it all with alcohol.

TraderJane, it sounds like I'm further away from my break up than you are from your divorce, but that was the beginning of my progressive descent. I'm sorry you're struggling with this personal trauma. Healing from such loss is a cyclical process, in my experience -- one day you're up, but a week later you're down, then three days up, and a month down But, this, too, is something you only have to deal with one day at a time. And I don't mean to be cliche or trite.

I am exhausted, and this rain is not helping. I'm skipping church tonight -- I've been attending a Friday night service that I really like since beginning this journey of recovery. I'm committed to going to a party later, though. I've got my flavored bubble water in the car and my themed outfit ready to go. All I need is a gallon of iced tea on my way and a plan to duck out early if and when temptation strikes.

How can I be so well rested and so tired at the same time?!
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Good Morning :)

Still waiting to wake up and feel like running a marathon! Until then, it's just me and my java.

bdiddy...Prayer helps, but I am not into meditation. It's just not my thing. I've got several requests into the Big Guy. I'm hoping he will take away my cramps, heal my Achille's tendon so I can run again, send a maid and a cook, send money for tuition to a really great school for my children (and make them want to go...;)...), help us get our house renovated and sold, make our debt disappear, etc. I know nothing is too great for God, but waiting on the answers is still stressful and frustrating. It's that human part of us, you know? ;) And now I hear the whispers of Matthew 6:25-34...

(((traderjane)))...I'm glad you are back. I have faith in you that you will do this! Fight with all you've got...I will too :)

Dee74...Happy Weekend to you :)

Oz...You are a funny guy :) How are you today?

livefierce...I hope you had a great time at your party last night! :)

We have a party to go to today. There will be lots of drinking. I have no desire to drink. Even with all the stress and pressures in my life at this current time. It truly is a miracle in that respect! *I* praise God because this time around I have really prayed that He would take away any desires and urges to drink. That He would help me to stay strong when faced with temptation and not be a fool. I have made these requests throughout the day, everytime I looked at the clock, it would be a reminder to say a short prayer.

I hope everyone has a really WONDERFUL day! :)
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I am back on Day One. Opened a second bottle of wine last night but poured it out this morning. So there are two empty wine bottles on my kitchen counter waiting to be put in the recycle bin. I read traderjane's post about writing Goodbye on the wine bottle before she threw it in the woods. That sounded so wonderful that I think I will do the same with my empty bottles. Something like goodbye or maybe Now go away and don't come back!
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Good for you, Lyddie! Wine bottles with messages on them .... very therapeutic.

I'm doing fine today and sticking to the sober weekend promise. I know it will be a fuller, better and happier weekend without alcohol. Going to a cookout tonight, as many of us are this weekend. I think I'll bring my own soft drinks just in case. One day at a time at this point.

ENJOY THE DAY everyone!!!
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Re: Prayer and Meditation

Those things are mentioned as tools to keep sober. Like Melissa, I don't actually have a lot of time to meditate in my daily life. However, when I go to yoga classes there is plenty of time to do that and even dedicated time for that. I find that when I go for a run, I spend productive time working things out in my brain. Not exactly meditation, but my form of meditation and it helps me.

I don't find prayer very useful, either, though I have recently gotten more spiritual. I like to believe there is something or someone watching over me, even if I don't have any proof of it. I am not religious, but when I attended my last AA meeting I found a lot of parallels with AA philosophy and my yoga philosophy -- re: acceptance, things are unfolding exactly as they should, there are no accidents, etc. It's a nice and comforting belief and it helps me. There is some meaning and it's not all just random. Of course we don't know this for sure, but it's comforting for me to think this way.

While I was at my yoga retreat a few weekends ago, I took lots of time to be by myself, walking in the woods, thinking, even praying for resolution to some of the things in my life that trouble me. Alcohol is one of them, a certain person is another. I have faith that things are going to work out. I put in "my requests" so to speak.

Heavy thoughts for the holiday weekend... now off to the pool
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Good luck to everyone on the 4th of July! I know it's going to be a tough one for me.

We're going to a wedding where I won't know more than 1 or 2 people. Usually, I would NEED a few big glasses of wine just to be able to socialize.

But as we all know too well, there's a thin line between happily buzzed and sloppy drunk. And I can't always pinpoint when those lines get blurred for me. It's safer to stay away from the bar altogether.

Day 2!!!
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6th Day

On my 6th day. Going with SO to my best buds house. He is a drinker. We used to brew beer together and chat/webcam on the PC and do tech stuff while drinking. I used to joke we drank together, but separately. You know, so I wasn't drinking alone. He is not very thrilled with my decision to stop.. I know you should seperate yourself from your drinking buddies, but Ive known him for 20some years and we do have a lot in common besides the beer. So im kinda nervous about tonite
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Hey everyone! Hope today is a sober one! 2 weeks today for me. Very proud of myself.

Breakfree- How are you doing girlie? I will say a prayer for you and your family. Sucks that you want to run and can't. Have fun at party.

TraderJ- Glad to see your back on track. Don't sweat the small stuff.

HFA- Good luck today hope you have an even better time without drinking.

Irisheyes- I really hope you make it through the day!! I think if you can you'll be over the hump.

Lyddie- Day 1 is better than no days!

Ozzy- What up?

Melindaflowers- Congrats on the weight loss.

Super71- Your doing so GOOD!

Everybody i missed, Have a Great DAY!

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Ozzy- What up?
..nuffin' much..stayin' out of mischief..
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Blah Blah Blah.. today I could drink. I won't but I could.

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Blah Blah Blah.. today I could drink. I won't but I could.

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I think that sums it up very well. I like it.

Start of Day 7
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Just checking in and wanted to thank everyone for all of their support. I was feeling so down the other day, but last night and today I have felt HAPPY for the first time in...I can't even remember how long. It's a wonderful feeling. Made myself go to the AA meeting and it was fine - just a bunch of nice, alcoholics helping each other along. Made me feel stronger and realized it's not such a big deal - just into a meeting for a dose of support and strength. I finally saw my boyfriend for the first time since quittting - have been putting him off and putting him off not sure if I could handle interaction without the wine, but it was wonderful - and he could not have been more loving, proud, and supportive. He is a heavy drinker (not alcoholic) and has volunteered to give it up as well in support - plus knows that it's not doing anything good for him healthwise either. I am running out to pick up fireworks for the kids. Hope everyone is having a great 4th of July wherever you are and staying strong!
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Hey Super71! I am so Happy that things are getting better for you! Dunno why but day 13th sux for me!
I need to follow in your footsteps and go to meeting and get out of this house with baby. I only got 2 hrs of sleep last night so its so hard to get motivated. Is this how you felt? Does exercising in morning help you sleep at night?

Have a wonderful evening with your family!

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