Living in Sobriety Part 7
Living in sobriety
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Originally Posted by Bamboozle 
Ouch.
Believe, sh!t happens. Susan is well aware of the fact that she has an addiction to alcohol. She's an intelligent woman and I know she'll keep reaching out.
Just because you are "there" and don't understand why someone else doesn't "get it" like you do doesn't mean you should take someone else's inventory and lecture. It is not helpful.
I do the Bam Program. It consists of SR, therapy, meds, and photography. I had to go through a really bad relapse to "get it". My only two options at the time were suicide or drink. I decided to live and drink. That time was absolute hell and I don't ever want to go back.
And, by the way, Susan is not powerless. No one is. We all make decisions about the things we do have control over.
Susan, I believe in you. You have my support and you know it.
Believe, sh!t happens. Susan is well aware of the fact that she has an addiction to alcohol. She's an intelligent woman and I know she'll keep reaching out.
Just because you are "there" and don't understand why someone else doesn't "get it" like you do doesn't mean you should take someone else's inventory and lecture. It is not helpful.
I do the Bam Program. It consists of SR, therapy, meds, and photography. I had to go through a really bad relapse to "get it". My only two options at the time were suicide or drink. I decided to live and drink. That time was absolute hell and I don't ever want to go back.
And, by the way, Susan is not powerless. No one is. We all make decisions about the things we do have control over.
Susan, I believe in you. You have my support and you know it.
I agree with you there are vibes here now though, but please dont feel you have to leave. "This too shall pass" ...and people should be able to agree to disagree.
Living in sobriety
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Yes I played him real loud in the car, all the time thinking Rowan is playing this in her car in Canada lol. I hope those meds work for you Rowan, are you nervous about them. You prob have to be on them for a while to feel the effects do you??
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Originally Posted by Believe808
I understand some who disagree with my previous post but I still stick by it. If my experience strength and hope is asked for and I give it HONESTLY and you don't wish to accept it, then that is on you. I will only offer MY EXPERIENCE, not MY OPINIONS to help another in recovery. There are many here on SR who help me on my journey in sobriety and there are many who hinder or attempt to hinder my sobriety. I take what I need and leave the rest. I would hope that some would do the same thing, Take what you need and leave the rest.
I also assumed she was doing them by herself but when Least pointed out she WAS doing them with a sponsor I told her to forget what I had said cos I was mistaken.
Also, who on earth is attempting to hinder your sobriety?
I'm living in sobriety! 
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Originally Posted by nelco
Not for me to say Stone. I am just voicing my concern.
Donna, I still love ya even if I do disagree with you sometimes!
Originally Posted by nelco
How are you?
Miracles Happen
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Boy you people sure know how to do alot of posting while I'm away at meetings 
I am living in sobriety here and I do understand that we are all different and have our own opinions, and I am entitled to mine also. I was asked to please help in someone's recovery and that is exactly what I did, I'm sorry if honesty is not the best policy here, but it is what it is. Maybe those who my honesty bothers shouldn't ask for it, I know that everyone who posts to me, whether I like it or not, I stop and think about it and usually they are right because they can see what I cannot. So enough said on this matter, this thread was started so we could be positive and honest about living in sobriety and I plan on posting to that effect. I will not offer those who I know don't want my help any more help. I truly wish everyone posting here a life in sobriety.
I am living in sobriety here and I do understand that we are all different and have our own opinions, and I am entitled to mine also. I was asked to please help in someone's recovery and that is exactly what I did, I'm sorry if honesty is not the best policy here, but it is what it is. Maybe those who my honesty bothers shouldn't ask for it, I know that everyone who posts to me, whether I like it or not, I stop and think about it and usually they are right because they can see what I cannot. So enough said on this matter, this thread was started so we could be positive and honest about living in sobriety and I plan on posting to that effect. I will not offer those who I know don't want my help any more help. I truly wish everyone posting here a life in sobriety.
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Okay, guys, I have to jump in here.
There are many posts here that should have been kept to PM and not put on the boards.
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Nel my meeting was really good, I pm'd you about it. I'm just hanging out with my daughter right now, my son went to PA again for the weekend, at least this weekend will not be filled with the fear I had the last one.
At the meeting there is this newcomer Scott, he has 56days in the program, he took on the greeting committment with me on Saturday mornings at my HG, he is such a cutie, he shared with me last week that he had a wedding on Sat night and was a little worried as it was a good friend of his and they all drank like fish, I suggested that he raise his hand and share that and the group would give him suggestions. I also told him about when I went to the wedding on New Years Eve that I kept my cell phone on me and used it to text friends in the program and they texted me all night long.
Well tonight he said he used his cell phone at the wedding and all program people kept texting him all night. He said he didn't drink and he was so grateful when he saw the pictures that he remembered them being taken lol.
It was a good meeting, its a beginners meeting and we use a checklist. Tonights topic ended up being change, how one changes in the program.
At the meeting there is this newcomer Scott, he has 56days in the program, he took on the greeting committment with me on Saturday mornings at my HG, he is such a cutie, he shared with me last week that he had a wedding on Sat night and was a little worried as it was a good friend of his and they all drank like fish, I suggested that he raise his hand and share that and the group would give him suggestions. I also told him about when I went to the wedding on New Years Eve that I kept my cell phone on me and used it to text friends in the program and they texted me all night long.
Well tonight he said he used his cell phone at the wedding and all program people kept texting him all night. He said he didn't drink and he was so grateful when he saw the pictures that he remembered them being taken lol.
It was a good meeting, its a beginners meeting and we use a checklist. Tonights topic ended up being change, how one changes in the program.
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