Living in Sobriety Part 3
Member
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Texas
Posts: 4,469
I'll go try to change mine now. I'm sick of the one I have anyways!
thanks for all the kind messages about my dad in law. Quick funny story:
He has been REALLY grumpy. I think because of the pain and the pain meds. Anyway, my hubby was hanging the TV and I was sitting on the bed. I announced that I was tired. My mom in law said "well, you should lay down with your father in law" He was laying and I was sitting. He says, "you can lay down with me but YOU CAN'T snuggle with me!"
He cracks me up.
thanks for all the kind messages about my dad in law. Quick funny story:
He has been REALLY grumpy. I think because of the pain and the pain meds. Anyway, my hubby was hanging the TV and I was sitting on the bed. I announced that I was tired. My mom in law said "well, you should lay down with your father in law" He was laying and I was sitting. He says, "you can lay down with me but YOU CAN'T snuggle with me!"
He cracks me up.
Miracles Happen
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 9,977
Originally Posted by Rowan 
Is the headache due to stress do you think, Bee? I hope it goes away soon. I'm not going to a meeting until my paranoia and dizziness are gone.
Has anyone tried to change their avatar recently? I keep getting a message that says 'invalid file' and that usually means a site problem.
Has anyone tried to change their avatar recently? I keep getting a message that says 'invalid file' and that usually means a site problem.
I'm not gonna touch the other thing in this quote though, cause I know you don't feel well.
giving you a hug instead 
Living in sobriety
Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 3,870
Is that your yorkie in your avatar, nelco? I know I need new glasses but it's difficult to make out - I remember all-too-well the duck/goose avatar mishap, and don't wish to repeat the same mistake.
Believe.......I think you really are wearing those big girl pants out!! you are really working your stuff and facing up to lots of things. I think your great and you deserve a big clap on the back.
Hi Paperdolls. I forgot to say hello to you earlier.
HI IO although your prob gone for a tuna sandwich again.
least,Tan, parentrecovers,scardykat and any guests peeping in the window of living in sobriety.........hello
IO Storm
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
Posts: 18,436
Hiya Nelcs!
Not gone yet...just spoke to my big girl granddaughter just now. I sent her some money
for her 10th bday. She received it and already bought a bicycle. Jumping up and down
for joy she is! I included a little letter with the card.."secrets from Grandma for a happy
life"..lol. She liked that, too.
Thinking about my Daddy today...he passed on this date 9 years ago. I miss him.
Not gone yet...just spoke to my big girl granddaughter just now. I sent her some money
for her 10th bday. She received it and already bought a bicycle. Jumping up and down
for joy she is! I included a little letter with the card.."secrets from Grandma for a happy
life"..lol. She liked that, too.
Thinking about my Daddy today...he passed on this date 9 years ago. I miss him.
Living in sobriety
Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 3,870
Originally Posted by IO Storm
Hiya Nelcs!
Not gone yet...just spoke to my big girl granddaughter just now. I sent her some money
for her 10th bday. She received it and already bought a bicycle. Jumping up and down
for joy she is! I included a little letter with the card.."secrets from Grandma for a happy
life"..lol. She liked that, too.
Thinking about my Daddy today...he passed on this date 9 years ago. I miss him.
Not gone yet...just spoke to my big girl granddaughter just now. I sent her some money
for her 10th bday. She received it and already bought a bicycle. Jumping up and down
for joy she is! I included a little letter with the card.."secrets from Grandma for a happy
life"..lol. She liked that, too.
Thinking about my Daddy today...he passed on this date 9 years ago. I miss him.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,746
Cute pic of the yorkie on the tiny scales! He makes my dogs look huge - and they're small dogs. Dk is off walking with friends and ck just got home, don't know what I'm going to do next, maybe make something to eat. Don't feel like doing anything, but woke up from a nap a while ago and can't go back to bed as it's too close to bedtime now. So will stay awake and do something, if only to pass the time.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,746
Ck just made pasta and shared it with me! How nice! I was hungry too. Now dinner's taken care of so will have to find something else to do til bedtime...
Might pop into Bottoms as it's quite deserted lately and don't want to see it languish and die...
Might pop into Bottoms as it's quite deserted lately and don't want to see it languish and die...
Member
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: massachusetts
Posts: 2,216
Hey everyone!
Whew, it took me about 30 minutes just to catch up from yesterday! Anyways, ,the flight was delayed and I didn't get in until 11 pm, but all well that ends well. Our eldest daughter picked me up and she was telling me of her therapy. She is 23 and has compared herself to her sister ever since she (the other, younger one) was born. She feels that she always does "the right thing" and doesn't get the support that the other one does, even though in her eyes, her sister always screws up. *sigh*. I tried to tell her that comparing my responses to each of them isn't fair. They each have different lives and different needs in my eyes. If she wants to talk about how I have or have not supported HER, I am OK with that. What isn't right to me is to hear her say, well you didn't do that for ME but you did for her. Isn't she a little OLD for this tit for tat? Nonetheless, I told her that I try to be supportive and approving of her and I'm sorry that she doesn't feel it's enough. I said, if she needs more of me, to say so at the time in order to not feel disappointed that I didn't pick up on her subtle cues.
Do you think that this is a good approach???
Then she told me that she really suffered when I was at my worst (she told the therapist this). I have talked with both girls about my past behavior. The problem is that they remember things that I don't (blackouts, I guess). Do you think it wise for me to ask them to bring this back up, so that I can not only know what I did, but also make amends for them? My youngest thinks that she would rather NOT go through all of it again and doesn't feel that it would do her any good at all. She and I are very close NOW, but her adolescence was a doozy period for both of us.
I certainly don't want to cause any MORE damage than I already have. Do you think that I should let them call the shots on this?
Needless to say, I fell asleep staring at the ceiling pondering these things..
On another note, altogether...
I'm sorry to hear that the interviews didn't work out, Bee. I WAS thinking of you. Maybe I need to recharge my eye screwing batteries!
Ro, I am SO glad that you are feeling better!
Least, great about the upcoming trip!
Nel's Bells, thanks for noticing my "presence", I needed that hug today!
IQ, Stoney, PR, Scardy, ...shoot and everyone else, I've missed you and it's only been 36 hours!
:ghug
Whew, it took me about 30 minutes just to catch up from yesterday! Anyways, ,the flight was delayed and I didn't get in until 11 pm, but all well that ends well. Our eldest daughter picked me up and she was telling me of her therapy. She is 23 and has compared herself to her sister ever since she (the other, younger one) was born. She feels that she always does "the right thing" and doesn't get the support that the other one does, even though in her eyes, her sister always screws up. *sigh*. I tried to tell her that comparing my responses to each of them isn't fair. They each have different lives and different needs in my eyes. If she wants to talk about how I have or have not supported HER, I am OK with that. What isn't right to me is to hear her say, well you didn't do that for ME but you did for her. Isn't she a little OLD for this tit for tat? Nonetheless, I told her that I try to be supportive and approving of her and I'm sorry that she doesn't feel it's enough. I said, if she needs more of me, to say so at the time in order to not feel disappointed that I didn't pick up on her subtle cues.
Do you think that this is a good approach???
Then she told me that she really suffered when I was at my worst (she told the therapist this). I have talked with both girls about my past behavior. The problem is that they remember things that I don't (blackouts, I guess). Do you think it wise for me to ask them to bring this back up, so that I can not only know what I did, but also make amends for them? My youngest thinks that she would rather NOT go through all of it again and doesn't feel that it would do her any good at all. She and I are very close NOW, but her adolescence was a doozy period for both of us.
I certainly don't want to cause any MORE damage than I already have. Do you think that I should let them call the shots on this?
Needless to say, I fell asleep staring at the ceiling pondering these things..
On another note, altogether...
I'm sorry to hear that the interviews didn't work out, Bee. I WAS thinking of you. Maybe I need to recharge my eye screwing batteries!
Ro, I am SO glad that you are feeling better!
Least, great about the upcoming trip!
Nel's Bells, thanks for noticing my "presence", I needed that hug today!
IQ, Stoney, PR, Scardy, ...shoot and everyone else, I've missed you and it's only been 36 hours!
:ghug
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,746
I shall wait for grooming til the fall, when our local vocational school's animal care class reopens and let them bathe and groom my dogs. They do a great job for little money and the students adore their clients.
Both kids are off with friends so I have the house to myself for the evening... Just me and the doggies... waiting for dinner time and bedtime...
HOS, glad you had a good flight. Don't know what to say about the kids...
Both kids are off with friends so I have the house to myself for the evening... Just me and the doggies... waiting for dinner time and bedtime...
HOS, glad you had a good flight. Don't know what to say about the kids...
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