i cut
i used to put ciggarettes out on my arm while i was drunk, i was in my mid twenties, and i had a mom and dad that were very good to me growing up, no kind of abuse from them, there was only one time that a boy had pulled down my pants when i was maybe 4, and i told my mom, so we moved away, anyway, that would not be the reason for my doing the ciggarette burns. so its a little irritating to me to say that because of what happend in your "past" is the reason for you actions today.
I don't think anyone has openly stated that self-harm is caused solely by childhood sexual trauma. However, if that trauma is part of your history there's a lot of research suggesting you're much more likely to wind up a cutter, burner, etc. Why some get this way and some do not is still a great mystery.
There are many many many reasons for self harm. Childhood trauma or abuse is only one. Likewise, not every child who has experienced this horror will go on to self harm. It is not something that can be easily defined. I s/h and know others who do. My reasons are personal, however, I have read a lot to try and understand why I do this. I had thought it was an action of troubled teenagers so didn't understand why, in my mid 30's, I had taken to cutting although did previously burn myself as a teenager. I can't say I have a full understanding, I am having to work through it with a psychologist.
Hippy
Hippy
not related to me////fell in love withsame girl age only ten months apart,brothers)
she taught both of them to cut;...............................to cut. Thank god she had abortion and left ( ten years to both senior female agee)
she taught both of them to cut;...............................to cut. Thank god she had abortion and left ( ten years to both senior female agee)
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Yeah I've tried to change how I felt by losing weight, dieting, exercising, etc. I tried everything to fix my outsides when it was my insides that needing fixing. It's harder, no question, but the difference is incomparable when you start from the inside. Hang in there my friend and seek out a solution that will bring you peace.
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