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Old 05-25-2019, 10:54 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Gilmer brought other people out. And she had tricks to do it. Do you know... she stalked people on SR! She scoured the forums to learn about the people she thought might need her particular way of helping -- not necessarily their facts, but what they liked and responded to. Her ability to connect was the fruit of effort, as well as some magic. I know she did her homework on me thoroughly. A+ Gilmer.
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Old 06-10-2019, 09:09 PM   #22 (permalink)
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It's painful to know that Kathy is petting Jack now. I miss them both so much. It's hard to come to grips with the finality of it. At least it's hard for me.

I also miss Kathy's quick wit.
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It's hard to feel alone. Two sides: we're each fundamentally alone in our souls, or we're all connected. I sometimes feel the first, but I know the second -- the old "life is a tapestry" bit. Weaving back into history, and forward, and side to side. I think we're still connected to Gilmer -- and Jack -- even though we can't see them. They're on the other side of the rug!
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Old 06-13-2019, 05:58 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Well said, Courage. I miss Kathy and Jack both and like to think of them together...maybe with my Toby trailing behind.

She is one of those people who brought a gift into our lives that nobody else could. And smiles, lordy that gal could make me smile.

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I often ask Gilly (when life gets a bit hard) to 'put a good word' in for me.
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I do miss her so much. I think I am still grieving for her. Sometimes I just don't even want to post because I know she's not going to be there. The thing I loved so much about her was that she was loyal and such a faithfully good friend. She always took the time to answer and write PMs, I'm still saving a bunch from her. Faithful, loyal friends are so hard to find and I think, besides that she went too early, was what I loved in her so much. I've never met anyone as kind, yet sincere and down to earth as she was. Loveliest person ever.
God bless Kathy, I know she is in your hands, safe and sound. ♥♥♥
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Gilmer had a gift. It was connecting.

She made you feel like you were the most important person in the world & she truly cared. She helped me through hard moments and put things into perspective. Never judgemental.

She made me feel my worth . She contacted me through messages when I was Down. She always knew.

We sent each other cards from the other sides of the ocean. I love her and miss her dearly xxx
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Thoughts about Gilmer keep drifting in lately. A passerby smoking a cigar. A piece of summer fun she would enjoy.

It was just about this time of year when she had her diagnosis. Summertime -- I feel like I'd like to hop on a train and pay her a visit.

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Gilmer was the only person on SR who could use the headbanger smiley in exactly the right way.

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So very true, courage.
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Nice to see you, Heaven! I hope you're doing well.

I think the site should retire it in her honor
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For me, it means everything that there are other people here who love/d Kathy like I do....I am so very glad we can share our very, very deep feelings....even if we don't know each other in person.

That kind of love is the magic of Kathy. ♥♥♥♥♥
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Several other people use the headbanger smiley, including me
I think Kathy would prefer it remain in circulation anyway?

rock on!

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^^^lol Dee, you know I jest! Headbang away in good company!
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Sat I was cooking in the kitchen. cut into some fruit and thought of Glimmer.. got my camera out and started doing photos of the fruits and vegies.. want to go to the college art area and do some clay of what I photoed.. in texture and color and size. some how I could hear her say it needs to be bigger Ardy. make that Avocado bigger it had such great color and texture and smelled so good. Talk to her as I cooked.. know she was near..
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Oh yes Ardy love....I talk to her always and I hear her too. s xx
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I will never wear my granny pants without hearing Kathy laugh, that's when I know she's around, the laughs and love she brought still lingers.
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Gilmer is always in my heart and never far from my mind. She was and is a treasure.
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I can't help wishing I'd known her years ago. Her perspective would have really helped me. Definitely a one of a kind person.
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