Originally Posted by refuser

Hi,
I am the mother of a son who is in a 30 day program but is refusing to buy in because he doesn't believe pot is a drug so he doesn't think he is an addict. Long story short, cops got a search warrant for his dorm room and found marijuana and other narcotics and now he is looking at multiple felonies for possession and possession with intent to sell. We finally visited him and found out that after 20 days in the program, he is not participating in his program. He's late to group, he's not buying into the 12step program. He's only going to music because he says its what he connects to but I feel that he's just going there cause it's easy and can avoid the real work. He says that when he gets out he has no problem giving up everything else, and that he'll never deal, cause that's what his problem was, but if he's with a friend who is smoking a joint, he'll want to join in. He says that he has about 6 months before getting through the courts and if he ends up on probation, he knows he won't be able to do anything anymore, but in the meantime, he still wants to smoke. Any advice from former users if you had that mindset and what changed for you?
BTW, he says that he was spending about $250/week on pot at the height of his use. He said he was using about 8 times a day, but most recently, he had cut down to once a day after all his classes and homework was done. He was finally doing well in school this semester.