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Old 12-25-2005, 05:11 AM   #141 (permalink)
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God of compassion, there is such a hole in my heart! Today should be a day of joy, but I feel only emptiness and loss. While the world celebrates around me, I remember Christmas celebrations of the past and I long to have my loved one with me. I bring my sorrows to you, Lord, like some odd gift of the magi and dump them at your feet. In my blind tears I wonder if anyone can possibly understand the depth of my sadness.

I know, you can. You sent your son to be with us in our deepest sorrows and I know that even though I might not feel it now, you are here with me, grieving with me, caring for me in my sadness. Dearest lord, help me to turn to the one I miss so much today and speak. Help me heal the loss of our parting and help me not to regret the things I didn't say. Sorrow tears at my heart, but today I ask that my loss soften my heart and make me more compassionate with everyone I meet, so that my loss may become a gift to others.



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for they shall be comforted.

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Old 12-25-2005, 06:58 AM   #142 (permalink)
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Beautiful posting on this Christmas morn.

Thank you Trish - many blessings to you.

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Old 12-25-2005, 07:26 AM   #143 (permalink)
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Help me heal the loss of our parting and help me not to regret the things I didn't say. Sorrow tears at my heart, but today I ask that my loss soften my heart and make me more compassionate with everyone I meet, so that my loss may become a gift to others.
and may i add - help me to ask for forgiveness for the not so nice things i did say out of hurt and frustration.

thank you trish and may you feel peace today!
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Old 12-25-2005, 07:35 PM   #144 (permalink)
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The holidays are the hardest. This is the 3rd Christmas w/out my mom and there's still a twinge of guilt for not having seen her the year she offered to pay for my airfare out to her place the Christmas before she died. I hadn't seen her in 7 years. My husband has been massively supportive but I'm still at a point where I'd rather cancel Christmas forever than celebrate. Funny too, because when I went to the store I bought everything (but the liquor) that we had every year at home. It's funny how those things become ingrained, and then become the comfortable things that save your sanity. Today I'm wearing her wedding ring and feeling her with me. She was an alcoholic while I was growing up, but towards the end I think she figured things out. I wish we'd had time to know each other as adults, and that my husband had been able to meet her. When she was sober she was a neat lady.

Josh Groban does a great song that makes me think of her, but I can't recall the title.

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Old 12-26-2005, 07:24 PM   #145 (permalink)
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Old 12-26-2005, 10:30 PM   #146 (permalink)
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God of compassion, there is such a hole in my heart! Today should be a day of joy, but I feel only emptiness and loss. While the world celebrates around me, I remember Christmas celebrations of the past and I long to have my loved one with me. I bring my sorrows to you, Lord, like some odd gift of the magi and dump them at your feet. In my blind tears I wonder if anyone can possibly understand the depth of my sadness.

I know, you can. You sent your son to be with us in our deepest sorrows and I know that even though I might not feel it now, you are here with me, grieving with me, caring for me in my sadness. Dearest lord, help me to turn to the one I miss so much today and speak. Help me heal the loss of our parting and help me not to regret the things I didn't say. Sorrow tears at my heart, but today I ask that my loss soften my heart and make me more compassionate with everyone I meet, so that my loss may become a gift to others.
Trish, just beautiful...thank you
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Old 12-27-2005, 04:50 PM   #147 (permalink)
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When a man knows God

"When a man knows God, he is free: his sorrows have an end,
and birth and death are no more. When in inner union he is
beyond the world of the body, then the third world, the world
of the Spirit, is found, where the power of the All is, and man
has all: for he is one with the ONE."

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Old 12-28-2005, 06:08 AM   #148 (permalink)
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Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart
and try to love the questions themselves ...
Don't search for the answers,
which could not be given to you now,
because you would not be able to live them.
And the point is, to live everything.
Live the questions now.
Perhaps then, someday far in the future,
you will gradually, without even noticing it,
live your way into the answer.

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Old 12-29-2005, 07:21 AM   #149 (permalink)
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This life, you must know
as the tiny splash of a raindrop.

A thing of beauty that disappears as it comes into being.

Therefore, set your goal.
Make use of every day and every night.

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Old 12-30-2005, 06:45 AM   #150 (permalink)
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You would know the secret of death.
But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?
The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day
cannot unveil the mystery of light.
If you would indeed behold the spirit of death,
open your heart wide unto the body of life.
For life and death are one,
even as the river and the sea are one.

In the depth of your hopes and desires
lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;
And like the seeds dreaming beneath the snow
your heart dreams of spring.
Trust the dreams,
for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.
Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd
when he stands before the king whose hand
is to be laid upon him in honour.
Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling,
that he shall wear the mark of the king?
Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind
and to melt into the sun?
And what is it to cease breathing,
but to free the breath from its restless tides,
that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence
shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top,
then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs,
then shall you truly dance.

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Old 12-31-2005, 12:34 PM   #151 (permalink)
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Lord, we know what peace is. Peace is a mother
tenderly holding her child. Peace is a firm
handshake of trust between friends. Peace is
complete emotional security. Peace is living
unencumbered with a full sense of joy. Peace
is expressing Thanksgiving for concrete blessings.

For the peace gained from the love and memory
of spouses and children, we thank you ..

For the peace gained from the love and memory
of parents and grandparents, we thank you ..

For the peace gained from the kindness and
support of friends, we thank you ..

For the peace gained when the music of the
Gods is sung, we thank you ..

Peace is elusive. There are raging storms
in every life. Tragedy, grief, and pain will
visit everyone. Yet, each person's life is
graced by moments and periods of
real happiness. For these episodes of
peace and joy .. past, present, & future,
we offer our deepest gratitude.

Help us to understand that peace must
be waged. We must resist the gun, the
bomb, "realistic politics," unkind words,
personal betrayals, anger, depression,
despair, and rage. Give us the strength
to overcome these demons. Help us
maintain personal power within ourselves,
so we can pass this liberating power to others.

Give hope and courage to all who struggle
with debilitating illness, grief, and loneliness.
Help them to understand .. ALL chains WILL
be BROKEN.


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Old 01-01-2006, 05:13 AM   #153 (permalink)
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Rose Ann, my Mom.

On this anniversary of your death.
You are missed,more than I can say...



The New Year

It is winter and the new year.
Nobody knows you.
Away from the stars, from the rain of light,
you lie under the weather of stones.
There is no thread to lead you back.
Your friends doze in the dark
of pleasure and cannot remember.
Nobody knows you. You are the neighbor of nothing.
You do not see the rain falling and the man walking away,
the soiled wind blowing its ashes across the city.
You do not see the sun dragging the moon like an echo.
You do not see the bruised heart go up in flames,
the skulls of the innocent turn into smoke.
You do not see the scars of plenty, the eyes without light.
It is over. It is winter and the new year.
The meek are hauling their skins into heaven.
The hopeless are suffereing the cold with those who have nothing to hide.
It is over and nobody knows you.
There is starlight drifting on the black water.
There are stones in the sea no one has seen.
There is a shore and people are waiting.
And nothing comes back.
Because it is over.
Because there is silence instead of a name.
Because it is winter and the new year.


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Old 01-01-2006, 08:58 AM   #154 (permalink)
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A Mother's Love

A Mother's love is something
that no one can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . .
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.

~ Helen Steiner Rice ~



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Thinking of you today ...
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Thoughts and prayers with you today, as always
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Old 01-01-2006, 12:15 PM   #156 (permalink)
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Old 01-02-2006, 04:52 AM   #157 (permalink)
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Benedict, when the storm rages
around me,
and I can hold on no more,
when the waves of tear engulf me
and I am weary,
battered and sore,
take me then and steer me
storm-tossed, broken and afraid,
into the arms of your safe harbour
safely home.

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Old 01-02-2006, 05:48 AM   #158 (permalink)
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Prayer for Strength

Every day I need you Lord,
But this day especially
I need some extra strength
To face what ever is to be.
This day more than any day
I need to find you near,
To fortify my courage
And to overcome my fear.

By myself, I cannot meet
The challenge of the hour.
There are times when humans help,
But we need a Higher Power
To assist us bear
What must be borne
And so Lord I pray
Hold onto my trembling hand
And be near me today.
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Old 01-02-2006, 10:40 PM   #159 (permalink)
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Hi. I have been reading the posts for days now since I found this site. I am so happy to have found this place and hope I am posting in the right place.
I have been married for 30 years and both my husband and myself have battled alcoholism throughout the years. We were able to stay alcohol free for 16 years while raising our 2 sons.
I am now fighting grief with a vengeance. My 24 year old son had an accident when he was 18 and sentenced to 6 1/2 years in prison for vehicular manslaughter. He wrecked his car after a few graduation parties and a fast ride with his friends in his car killing his best friend.
I felt that I lost my son on this day too. For 6 years now I still find it hard to look at his pictures and visiting him in prison takes everything I have to make it back out to my car after saying goodbye.
I thank God that my son is alive, but it hurts so to know the pain he is in and will be for the rest of his life.
My son has never complained. He has grown into a very wise and observant young man, and writes about all the things he remembers while growing up on our farm in MO. He yearns for the simple things in life and I know it will take some time to reassociate him into society. L writes about the snow, the creek on our farm, his brother, walking the land, watching the sunset, and the memories of he and I riding in my Jeep and laughing.
I miss him so badly and I feel as though someone has punched me in the chest and my heart falls to my stomach when I read his letters. I realize I still have my son, but I grieve to the point of losing my breath when I speak his name to others. I find it hard to see when I write my letters to him for the tears.
I try to be strong when I get to visit him and visits aren't that frequent as he is 6 hours from my home in Ok. I have a hard time driving since the accident. I can't seem to focus on more than one thing at a time and am afraid of causing a wreck myself.
I want to thank you for this wonderful site and I feel the pain that pours out in your stories.
L's Mom in Ok.
L gets out in July of this year.
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Welcome...I am so sorry about your son, and your pain. I am glad you decided to join us. My heart and prayers go out to you.
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