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Old 08-12-2005, 10:49 AM   #21 (permalink)
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(( Na4 ))

Yes he does...A Reflection upon a Life. I am standing upon that foreshore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails in the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength, and I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and the sky come to mingle with each other. Then someone at my side says There She’s Gone! Gone where? Gone from my sight, that’s all. She is just as large in mast and spar and hull as ever she was when she left my side; just as able to bear her load of living freight to the place of her destination. Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at that moment when someone at my side says there! She’s gone! There are other eyes watching her coming and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, here she comes! And that is dying -Victor Hugo....
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Old 08-13-2005, 10:56 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Thank you for this thread. I lost my father just last week...Thurs. Aug. 4 th 2005. As After a couple of days I was just peeking through the forums and kept seeing this thread on the main page, but also kept passing it up feeling as if I just couldn't come in a read it. But it kept calling to me.

Right now I just feel like a little girl that wants her daddy back, but as a grown woman I know that this is all a part of life and that he is now free of the physical pain that he felt in his daily life. We talked nightly and met once a week for lunch, plus other family get togethers. We are a close net family, but life, schedules, and children kept us from doing more together.

My father was a kind caring man. He was always helping someone.....anyone who needed him. He was not very good about managing money or doing what he should have to take healthy care of himself, but he was a good man who cared about the simplest of God's creatures to a neighbor who just needs to hold a hand while going through a scarey medical procedure in the hosp.

He loved to cook and share dinner with whomever stopped by.

There is so much more to my dad but yet he was a simple man who just loved life and a great big hug. He's the only grown man I ever knew that collected and kept teddy bears in his home.....they were his favorite.

I am missing him already.
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Old 08-14-2005, 04:26 AM   #23 (permalink)
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We miss our loved ones. That never changes, although it gets bearable after time.

This past week, I visited the grave of my sister-in-law. She died in 1980. She was 31 years old when she died, in a car accident. She also lost the baby she was carrying and was full term and due any day.
Heart wrenching and sad, they were buried together. It gave my brother great comfort, though and that is what mattered.
It has been twenty-five years.
The pain is no less. Only bearable and not in our constant thoughts.

Visiting the gravesite brought back that pain. But it also brought back some great memories and the love for her that continues in my heart. That will never go away.

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Thank you for sharing your feelings here. I can relate and so need to hear them.
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Old 08-14-2005, 05:05 AM   #24 (permalink)
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I am so sorry about your Dad. He sounds like, well a great human being. I am so glad that you came in and posted about your loss. I have been trying to " avoid " mine for years.I am in a womans therapy group and there has been alot of sharing about grief, and I tried to quit the group!
I "know" loss is a part of life,but for me, it's been difficult to share about.It has been a slow process for me, but I think I am finally getting some acceptance and peace about it.Most days, even though my parents are gone in body, I know their spirit is still here with me. They are always in my heart, and once inawhile I get alittle "sign" from them.
I was thinking of a memory yesterday. I work in a cafe now and I was pouring out the hazelnut coffee,I thought of my Dad. How he hated hazelnut !I had to smile...We usto sit and have coffee after he would pick me up from work.When I was sober coffee was our "thing". He would say I just had a cup of that McDonald's coffee and boy am I zooted up!
My dad's humor was great.Thats what I remember today. Thanks for letting me go on...
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Making an addition to my post above.......Ann, I understand what you mean about greiving the loss of your son without his being dead.......just being gone from your life. As you know, but most here don't, my oldest daughter has turned her back on my mom and I. She won't call or answer my calls to her. She talks to everyone else including her soon to be ex-stepmother (my ex-h, her father's, soon to be new ex-w). But me, the one that raised her and has stood by her even through my divorce from her father and he bailed on her and her sisters. Even through her choices that I didn't agree with, but still supported her.

I know in my head that this is not about me....that it is about her and whatever she is going through, but my heart still feels the lost.....especially now with the lost of my dad. I know that other day when I had a quiet moment I was thinking about both and start to feel that mourning for both losses and realized that it felt like both have died and gone from my life....also my little g-daughter that I haven't seen since Memorial Day.

Well, anyway, thanks for letting my share this. The only difference between the feeling the loss of my dad and my daughter is that there is still a chance that my daughter may come back (if she gets her head out of her ***...you know), but my dad is gone until I see him again on the other side.

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(((Pony))) So sorry to hear of the loss of your dad ... he sounds like such a warm and gentle man. I'm holding you close in my thoughts and prayers.

(((Wolf))) What a great loss for you and your family those many years ago, yet she and the babe are still loved, still remembered. That doesn't go away ever.

I visit my son's gravesite weekly at least, and find the tears both cleansing and a reflection of my love, of what is in my heart, of the pain that lives there. I also thank God for the 27 years I had him to love.

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((Trish)) I just wanted to say that this was a great idea to start this thread. I know the forum is about grief and loss but sharing it like this just seems to make it "feel better" for a lack of better words.

((Pony)) Sorry about your dad. Mine died on May 22 and I still haven't dealt with it, it's too unreal.

And everyone else that comes to this thread, I'm glad you share your feelings with us. This is a good thing!

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Old 08-15-2005, 03:14 PM   #29 (permalink)
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Over the rainbow...

Somewhere over the rainbow
Way up high,
There's a land that I heard of
Once in a lullaby.
Somewhere over the rainbow
Skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true.

Someday I'll wish upon a star
And wake up where the clouds are far
Behind me.
Where troubles melt like lemon drops
Away above the chimney tops
That's where you'll find me.

Somewhere over the rainbow
Bluebirds fly.
Birds fly over the rainbow.
Why then, oh why can't I?

If happy little bluebirds fly
Beyond the rainbow
Why, oh why can't I?
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Say not in grief 'he is no more' but live in thankfulness that 'he was'
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May the love, memories and spirit of your departed live in your hearts forever.

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Old 08-15-2005, 07:33 PM   #31 (permalink)
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Honoring the Dead



From the dawn of your birth
To the sunset of your death
I honor you.

From the missions you completed
To your duties left undone
I honor you.

From the seasons of your being
Through the cycle of your life
I honor you.

From your time beyond the veil
Lie your entrance back again
May the angels support you
May my healing love reach you
From this moment until the end of time
So Mote It Be.


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Old 08-16-2005, 04:59 AM   #32 (permalink)
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Oh Danny boy, the pipes, the pipes are calling
From glen to glen, and down the mountain side
The summer's gone, and all the flowers are dying
'Tis you, 'tis you must go and I must bide.
But come ye back when summer's in the meadow
Or when the valley's hushed and white with snow
'Tis I'll be here in sunshine or in shadow
Oh Danny boy, oh Danny boy, I love you so.

And if you come, when all the flowers are dying
And I am dead, as dead I well may be
You'll come and find the place where I am lying
And kneel and say an "Ave" there for me.

And I shall hear, tho' soft you tread above me
And all my dreams will warm and sweeter be
If you'll not fail to tell me that you love me
I'll simply sleep in peace until you come to me.

I'll simply sleep in peace until you come to me.
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Old 08-16-2005, 08:10 AM   #33 (permalink)
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I Am Free

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free.
I am following the path God laid for me.
I took His had when I heard his call,
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
to laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way.
I found that peace at the close of the day.
If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss.
Ah, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with time of sorrow,
I wish for you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full I savored much.
Good friends, good times,
a loved one touched.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief.
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me.
God wanted me now; He set me free.
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That was touching na4today. I'm going to copy that and read it at my father's memorial this Sat. It fits what he would say so perfectly.

Thank you for sharing this.
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Go your way to the land of the Ancestors,
where they wait for you with open arms,
there on the edge between this world and the next.
See; there they stand.
Ancestral spirits, welcome this one
to the place where we all must go.


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I found this posted on a survivors board I go to:

Calling All Angels ... beautiful

http://www.andiesisle.com/Calling_All_Angels.html
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I Believe I Can Fly
by R. Kelly
I used to think that I could not go on,
And life was nothing but an awful song
But now I know the meaning of true love
I'm leaning on the everlasting arms.
If I can see it, then I can do it
If I just believe it, there's nothing to it

I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think about it every night and day
Spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar
I see me running through that open door
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
(Oh) I believe I can fly

See I was on the verge of breaking down
Sometimes the silence can seem so loud
There are miracles in life I must achieve
But first I know it starts inside of me

If I can see it, then I can do it
If I just believe it, there's nothing to it

I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think about it every night and day
Spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar
I see me running through that open door
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
(Oh) I believe I can fly



Always remember when the silence seems so loud, you are not alone. There is someone thinking of you and praying for you,for strength. ((( Deedee ))) and all the others who grieve today. Bless you all...
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May the lonely be comforted. May love abound and divisions between us cease to exist. May all beings of the earth feel safe and free of fear. May we each continue on the path towards enlightenment with gladness and diligence
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I Look to Thee in Every Need


I look to Thee in every need, and never look in vain;
I feel Thy strong and tender love, and all is well again.
The thought of Thee is mightier far than sin and pain and sorrow are.

Discouraged in the work of life, disheartened by its load,
Shamed by its failures or its fears, I sink beside the road.
But let me only think of Thee and then new heart springs up in me.

Thy calmness bends serene above, my restlessness to still;
Around me flows Thy quickening life, to nerve my faltering will.
Thy presence fills my solitude, Thy providence turns all to good.

Enfolded deep in Thy dear love, held in Thy law, I stand;
Thy hand in all things I behold, and all things in Thy hand.
Thou leadest me by unsought ways, and turn my mourning into praise.


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