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Old 11-29-2008, 05:46 PM   #281 (permalink)
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flutter, perhaps daddys finger pointing at you is the finger thats says, i'm so proud of my daughter...

and the fire, is just a soft, embracing soft glow...

what we think we see, and what is, remember my dear friend...

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Old 11-30-2008, 02:49 PM   #282 (permalink)
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Dear Flutter...

Oh, if I could just hold you now..

Maybe the dreams? You can't forgive yourself because you still carry

the shame. It was never yours.

Yes, we do have plan for our lives..and I am proud of you. All of your experiences have

made you into the person that you are today. A wonderful, kind, caring, compassionate

person who knows about pain and helps others.

You did what you could.

Prayers for your continuing journey in letting go..and more peace.

Your friend on the way,

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Old 12-06-2008, 10:10 AM   #283 (permalink)
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Woke up this morning realizing that this will be the first Christmas without my father. The first Christmas in 56 years that my mother will not be writing on gifts or cards, "We love you, Mom and Dad" or their first names together on other cards. Nor will I be able to write "Mom and Dad" on the cards and gifts. In the past, even on the envelopes I often wrote "TO: my loving mother and father" as it seemed to me to be disrespectful to write their first names. My father enjoyed it when I did that. It is the first Christams I will not be able to send a card that addresses the both of them as a united couple. It is the first Christmas that my mother will wake alone and not see my father dressed in a funny mismatched outfit with a Santa hat on.

I know there will be many firsts, however it feels as if this first major holiday without him will be unbearable.
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Old 03-19-2009, 05:12 AM   #284 (permalink)
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Happy Birthday Trish, i miss you!
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Old 03-19-2009, 06:34 PM   #285 (permalink)
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I miss her too, Pattee.

Say not in grief that she is no more
but say in thankfulness that she was
A death is not the extinguishing of a light,
but the putting out of the lamp
because the dawn has come.

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Old 03-20-2009, 08:01 AM   #286 (permalink)
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I didn't know her as well as the rest of you did. I was new to this forum, and did have the pleasure of "meeting" her. She had a heart of gold, just like the golden easter egg.

She continues to help me every day. Often times when I'm really down hearted, I return to this thread. I can feel her energy, her love and it reminds me of all the good people out there. It gives me hope and strength to carry on.

Thank You Trish - Happy Birthday.

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Old 09-23-2012, 05:42 AM   #287 (permalink)
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I gave up on people and started hanging out with animals. I donít have any pets, but I feed the birds in my yard and the jays became very friendly. Thatís where I get the love now that the people part is dead for me too. Iíve become a misanthrope. I sat and watched the birds for a long time as I stared into the abyss and then I felt like I recognized one or two of the birds returning.
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Old 09-23-2012, 06:42 AM   #288 (permalink)
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(((ali9kamal)))
Nature is very healing for me too. I love birds too.

I hope you find healing , and that you find someday that not all people mean to hurt us. People just get 'bent' by things in their worlds, and hurt others in return. There won't ever be anyone incapable of hurting us. some people never wish to hurt anyone, but we are faulty, and need forgiveness sometimes.

i wish you peace, and healing, dont give up on people, and never define your worth by any thing anyone has done to you.

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Old 11-15-2012, 01:18 AM   #289 (permalink)
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So many people Grieving their Beloved ones. We know it is a part of Life this thing called death, but we are never prepared for it. Death is such an elusive thing, we cannot grasp it, but only wonder about it.
In my life i too grieve, like so many others, my complete family now are no more, there are only very few of us left, not that there were too many of us to begin with.
I have lost both my parents, my two first born children, a life partner of almost 30 years, and an Aunt & Uncle.
But the one that hurts the most are the untimely deaths of my beloved children.
When my first child died i never thought it would happen again, i thought i had endured the worst of it, but sadly just recently my Beautiful Daughter, my best friend, died too.
How do we find the strength to go on, i don't know but we do.
Maybe one day death will give up her secrets, and we will weep no more.
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Old 11-15-2012, 03:05 AM   #290 (permalink)
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we do go on dak,

as that what our lost one's would want for sure
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Old 11-15-2012, 03:20 AM   #291 (permalink)
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we do go on dak,

as that what our lost one's would want for sure
Hi Rusty, Yes i agree, and we stand in testimony here of the Love we all shared, and i speak their names often, it comforts me, as i hold them close in my heart.
I have realised through the grieving, life is only a short journey after all, time is an illusion, and we all come here to the birth into the physical life, and then one day disappear, that is our lot in life, and i will try and enjoy every day the best i can, and one day our tears will be turned to Joy when we see our loved ones again when our time comes also.
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Old 11-15-2012, 05:56 PM   #292 (permalink)
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Old 03-08-2013, 01:34 AM   #293 (permalink)
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My best-friend lost her sister and she dedicated this poem to her

Loss Unbearable, Loss Irrepearable

The death of a twelve year old,
Her sister shed tears,

She felt all had lost hope,
It was her fault,
'I let go the rope! '


'I should have pulled her up'
'I lost grip'
'I should'nt have given up! '

'You trusted me! '
'And there is no reason....'

'No! It's not your fault! ',
Said her sister,
Who lay dead in the vault,
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Old 03-09-2013, 01:33 AM   #294 (permalink)
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Am writing this in remembrance of my lovely cat Alex. He was chocked last night and he died within minutes. He was only two years old. How I will miss his warm fur and cute looking eyes.
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I'm so sorry Flowers. I know how the furry ones become a big part of our lives.
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Old 11-28-2015, 05:24 PM   #296 (permalink)
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This thread is still open? I'll add to it.

when I think of the loss in my life, I understand loneliness.

It does me no good to rationalize it, but only to go into it.

Here's a poem that helps me do that:

I will arise and go now, and go to Innisfree,
And a small cabin build there, of clay and wattles made:
Nine bean-rows will I have there, a hive for the honey-bee,
And live alone in the bee-loud glade.

And I shall have some peace there, for peace comes dropping slow,
Dropping from the veils of the morning to where the cricket sings;
There midnight's all a glimmer, and noon a purple glow,
And evening full of the linnet's wings.

I will arise and go now, for always night and day
I hear lake water lapping with low sounds by the shore;
while I stand on the roadway, or on the pavement grey,
I hear it in the deep heart's core.

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My son died of an overdose on 4/26/16. He was a loving son and wonderful father of two children ages 10 and 15. I read these two poems at his memorial service. Both of them are authors unknown.

When Iím Gone

When I come to the end of my journey
And I travel my last weary mile,
Just forget if you can, that I ever frowned
And remember only my smile.

Forget unkind words I have spoken;
Remember some good I have done,
Forget that I ever had a heartache
And remember Iíve had loads of fun.

Forget that I have stumbled and blundered,
And sometimes fell by the way
Remember I have fought some hard battles and won,
Before the close of the day.

Then forget to grieve for my going,
I would not want you sad for a day,
But in summer, just gather some flowers
And remember the place where I lay.

And come in the evening
When the sun paints the sky in the west.
Stand for a few moments beside me,
And remember only my best.

And:

Remembrance

You can shed tears that he is gone, or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him, or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he's gone, or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or you can do what he'd want, smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
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My son died of an overdose on 4/26/16. He was a loving son and wonderful father of two children ages 10 and 15. I read these two poems at his memorial service. Both of them are authors unknown.

When Iím Gone

When I come to the end of my journey
And I travel my last weary mile,
Just forget if you can, that I ever frowned
And remember only my smile.

Forget unkind words I have spoken;
Remember some good I have done,
Forget that I ever had a heartache
And remember Iíve had loads of fun.

Forget that I have stumbled and blundered,
And sometimes fell by the way
Remember I have fought some hard battles and won,
Before the close of the day.

Then forget to grieve for my going,
I would not want you sad for a day,
But in summer, just gather some flowers
And remember the place where I lay.

And come in the evening
When the sun paints the sky in the west.
Stand for a few moments beside me,
And remember only my best.

And:

Remembrance

You can shed tears that he is gone, or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him, or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he's gone, or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or you can do what he'd want, smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Sending you warm hugs . I lost my son 4/14/2016 he was 24 years old. I know your pain and heartache.
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Old 06-12-2019, 09:35 AM   #299 (permalink)
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Some beautiful Poems in here. Sometimes i love to go through old threads & read poems and feel the love and care we all have for each other here in SR.

Bless xx

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