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Old 03-27-2006, 05:36 AM   #261 (permalink)
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. Vulnerability to death
is one of the given conditions of life.
We can't explain it
any more than we can explain life itself.
We can't control it,
or sometimes even postpone it.
All we can do is try to rise beyond the question,
"Why did it happen?"
and begin to ask the question,
"What do I do now that it has happened?"

-- Harold S. Kushner.
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Old 03-27-2006, 05:39 AM   #262 (permalink)
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All we can do is try to rise beyond the question,
"Why did it happen?"
and begin to ask the question,
"What do I do now that it has happened?"
yes, yes, yes! thank you trish!
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Old 03-27-2006, 05:41 PM   #263 (permalink)
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Grief is a journey,
often perilous and without clear direction,
that must be taken.
The experience of grieving cannot be ordered or categorized,
hurried or controlled, pushed aside or ignored indefinitely.
It is inevitable as breathing, as change, as love.
It may be postponed, but it will not be denied

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Old 03-28-2006, 12:21 AM   #264 (permalink)
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((( deedee, how true )))

Grief is neither an illness nor a pathological condition,
but rather a highly personal
and normal response
to life-changing events,
a natural process
that can lead to healing
and personal growth.
The transition through this difficult time
is the courageous journey.
-- Sandi Caplan and Gordon Lang, in
Grief's Courageous Journey: A Workbook
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Old 03-29-2006, 12:37 PM   #265 (permalink)
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There's music in a well-lived life,
and melodies remain
each time a loving memory
repeats the sweet refrain.
The song that lingers
in our hearts
becomes our legacy ~
its beauty gently echoing
through all eternity








This egg was hidden
on streets made of gold,
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Old 04-03-2006, 02:04 PM   #266 (permalink)
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There’s music in a well-lived life,
and melodies remain
each time a loving memory
repeats the sweet refrain.
The song that lingers
in our hearts
becomes our legacy ~
its beauty gently echoing
through all eternity








This egg was hidden
on streets made of gold,


I can't get over how fitting was her post.
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Old 04-03-2006, 05:45 PM   #267 (permalink)
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Old 04-03-2006, 08:40 PM   #268 (permalink)
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Peace in Our Soul

It was such an awesome day
and we stopped to stare up at the sky.
Our heart skipped a beat as we heard you speak
when you asked the angel, "Why?"

I wrote "I love you" in the sky
as big and as plain as can be.
How can they stand down there and look up here
and still not be able to see?

The clouds were broken and thin,
and swirled randomly through the air.
We searched and strained at all that remained
of the swirls of white still there.

The angel's voice was soft and low
as we smiled and raised our brow,
and I heard her say in the strangest way
"They're starting to see it now."

There's a bittersweet peace in our souls
and a sense of awesome pride
knowing you're up there writing words in the air,
and your love has never died.
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Old 04-04-2006, 02:42 AM   #269 (permalink)
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Old 04-04-2006, 05:21 AM   #270 (permalink)
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Love is stronger than death.
So, we must be content to know that
love is not affected by death-
it doesn’t end, it doesn’t diminish,
it doesn’t change.
Instead, love is immortalized
and eternalized through death.
And the possibility of that love ever
being damaged or broken
is eliminated forever.
put our trust in love.



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Old 04-07-2006, 02:56 AM   #271 (permalink)
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Old 05-09-2006, 06:28 PM   #272 (permalink)
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One Day At A Time

I cannot change my yesterdays
The things that I have done
For those days are behind me
A new day has begun

I cannot live tomorrow
A captive of my fears
I will face those future challenges
When that day is here

So I have made the choice today
To be the best that I can be
I will ask the Lord to guide my steps
And give me victory

And I know that He will answer
True contentment I will find
As He gives me strength and courage
One day at a time.

~ Judith Bulock Morse ~




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Old 06-24-2006, 01:57 PM   #273 (permalink)
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Walking with Grief
A Celtic Prayer

Do not hurry as you walk with grief
It does not help the journey
Walk slowly, pausing often
Do not hurry as you walk with grief
Be not disturbed by memories
that come unbidden
Swiftly forgive and let
Christ speak for you
Unspoken words, unfinished conversations
Will be resolved in Christ
Be not disturbed
Be gentle with the one who walks with grief
If it is you, be gentle with yourself
Swiftly forgive, walk slowly,
Pause often,
Take time
Be gentle as you walk with grief.

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Old 04-16-2007, 01:25 AM   #274 (permalink)
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I couldnt help not to post I recently lost my daddy on Jan 2 and It was one of the hardest things I ve ever been thru. Im 39 and I was a daddys girl for sure,I was his baby. He use to say to me " Youll always be daddys baby". I started mourning over him a year or more before he died. When we found out he had emphazema. He was a sick man and very tired. I have some very good memories and no one can ever take those from me. My daddy and I were very close and he taught me alot. I just thank god that he blessed me with a dad as good as mine was. There was never a doubt in my mind that he didnt love me. It never mattered to him if I was right or wrong when Iwas growing up he always took up for me. GOD KNOWS I MISS HIM.. thanks, sassy
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Old 04-16-2007, 09:40 AM   #275 (permalink)
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sassy, sad to hear about daddys passing... and you bet... daddy loves his little sassy...

i'm patrick.. the women that started this threads boyfriend... i was missing her today... stumbled upon this...

we remember the good times, and thats how life likes it...

xxoo, and blessings to you you sas...

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Old 03-19-2008, 12:57 PM   #276 (permalink)
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Remembering Trish on her birthday ... love and miss you girl


~ The Ascending, by Kahlil Gibran ~

I have passed a mountain peak and my soul is soaring in the
Firmament of complete and unbound freedom;
I am far, far away, my companions, and the clouds are
Hiding the hills from my eyes.
The valleys are becoming flooded with an ocean of silence, and the
Hands of oblivion are engulfing the roads and the houses;
The prairies and fields are disappearing behind a white specter
That looks like the spring cloud, yellow as the candlelight
And red as the twilight.

The songs of the waves and the humans of the streams
Are scattered, and the voices of the throngs reduced to silence;
And I can hear naught but the music of Eternity
In exact harmony with the spirit's desires.
I am cloaked in full whiteness;
I am in comfort; I am in peace.


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Old 11-08-2008, 01:19 PM   #278 (permalink)
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My hubby has been gone for 5 yrs now..And i'm still having trouble moving on..I know it's been awhile but i feel so lost..I have a "memory closet" that i keep alot of his stuff in..Every once in awhile i find myself going through his things..Sometimes i don't know which way to turn..It's very hard for me to just pick up and move on..I feel like a part of me has died..And i can't bring it back..
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Old 11-29-2008, 01:43 PM   #279 (permalink)
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Hi Gracie

Your husband is still with you in the treasured memories
What helps me is being grateful, truly profoundly grateful for the cherished memories and knowing my loved one would not like for me to continue suffering with the loss...

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Old 11-29-2008, 02:27 PM   #280 (permalink)
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I lost my fatehr in September.. It has taken me a while to get on this forum

The guilt has been racking me. My father had been wanting to see me for some time. Because of being finacially strapped I kept putting off going to see him. [They live on the east coast..I on the west] We had a rocky past and I had hated himn for a long time. Thru recovery and blood sweat and tears I did get to a point where I had forgiven him and grew to love him again. Tho I was not able to demonstrate that love becasue of the distance between us. He was in a coma when I had my sister place the phone next to his ear so I could tell him that I love him..One of the hardest most painful things to do was to tell him it was ok to let go and to walk into the light. It was so painful and difficult because I wanted to be there with him ..The guilt is compounded with the fact that I wasn't there for the remainder of my family as he lay there in the coma. I know God has forgiven me...what haunts me is not knowing if my father forgave me. The recurring dream I have is my father standing over me pointing his finger at me and fire is in his eyes. I want to hug him but the fire frieghtens me. Tho I have many 24 hours of being clean and sober behind me it once again feels like a large gaping hole in my soul at the thought of him not being around anymore. I am grateful for the things he taught me and I am even grateful for the rocky past that has led me to working & living a spiritual program. This was the first death of an immediate family member since coming into the room sof recovery..Tho I have been to many funerals of AA members and of friends that died out there in the disease.. Weird thing is my brother was killed in 1983 which led to me crossing over the line in my disease and hitting a horrible nightmarish bottom whivch took 2 more years for me to get into the recovery rooms. Now hewre it is 22+ years later and it is as I mentioned the first death of an immediate family member. On the day dad was buried a neice went into labor and a new life was given to us.

Ok I have to get a little more honest here... It was a direct result of what my father had done to me that I was damaged so badly that I could not have children of my own. Tho I say I had forgiven him there are still times I feel the loss of that inability and feel less than a woman and feel I am damaged goods. Each time that comes up I know I have more footwork to do and I get to again and again accept the divine plan HP has for me.

Grief is difficult to walk thru...but what I know is once I finsih facilating between the first several stages of grief the final step is acceptance. That acceptance is knowing there is a God and that God has a divine plan for each of us...It is not up to me to say it is the wrong time..I need more time, I want more etc..etc...My only responsibility is to accept God's plan not only for myself but accetp His plan for others as well.

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