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Old 03-04-2016, 02:21 AM
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Oh Seren, I am so very sorry love.
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Old 03-04-2016, 03:07 AM
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Seren,
My only sister died and my parents didn't even tell me she was sick. Never got to say or do the things I promised. Never got to say goodbye or I love you, sis.
I really feel for your loss. I am praying with you. Peace and love, CR
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Old 03-04-2016, 03:43 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I didn't get to say good-bye to my husband either, and I feel guilty that I could not save him. I only have one sister, too, whom I love very much. You have my sympathies!
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Old 03-04-2016, 05:26 AM
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Seren, I think the shock that comes with a sudden death makes it all the harder. A sudden death is harder, I think, because there are decisions to make when you are most overwhelmed and still in shock and coping becomes almost impossible for a while. I don't think we are ever ready to lose the person who is most important to us in our lives.

Be gentle with yourself, let others help you with whatever they can do, and take whatever time you need to just find your balance again, one day at a time.

You are in my prayers.

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Old 03-04-2016, 08:03 PM
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i'm so sorry to hear of your loss Seren.... wrapping you in love and kindness...
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Old 03-04-2016, 10:33 PM
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I am so sorry about the loss of your husband Seren. Cherish the memories.
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Old 03-05-2016, 11:58 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 03-06-2016, 09:30 AM
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So sorry for your loss Seren!!
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Old 03-10-2016, 07:55 PM
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Seren, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Old 03-15-2016, 08:53 AM
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It's hard to imagine joy again. I cry every day. I suppose I really don't expect to feel joy again...but peace would be nice. Just peace. Peace away from this awful ache and disbelief of missing him, from all the guilty thoughts and feelings, from the constant worrying about the future and how I'm supposed to manage it without him.

All I want is just a bit of peace. I hope that's not too much to ask for.
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Old 03-15-2016, 09:01 AM
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Seren, I'm so sorry and I do hope you find some peace.
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Old 03-15-2016, 09:49 AM
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((Seren)) have you thought about getting some help /counseling?

My heart goes out to you.
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Old 03-15-2016, 03:42 PM
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Old 03-15-2016, 03:56 PM
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So sorry for your loss Seren.

Peace will come,but it takes time.A day at a time things will improve,early grieving is different for everyone,I think the way you are feeling is normal, a whole host of emotions that can change from minute to minute.

I lost my husband suddenly in 1997,I know how awful it is.But it will get better.

Sending hugs to you.
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Old 03-15-2016, 04:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Seren View Post
...and didn't ask for.

"Widow"

There. I said it. I am a widow.

Such a small word for so much pain. I've never been in this much pain in my life. The emotions are powerful, mercurial, and frightening. It is crazy-making stuff. I cry every day.

I feel so much guilt...and my husband was not an addict or alcoholic. How much worse must this be for those in this community who have lost loved ones due to addiction? I can only begin to imagine.

I am sending up many prayers and warm, healing thoughts today for all of us who have lost someone near and oh, so dear.

Peace to us all,
Seren
Sorry for your loss and how hard you are taking it. Remember you are not in control...you did not cause his death....you could not stop his death..it doesn't matter what others did or do....it didn't matter what he did...his time was his time. I believe in angels...I believe he is watching you "suffer". I believe he would not want you to suffer.

I wish you healing.
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Old 03-15-2016, 11:27 PM
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So sorry to hear of your loss Seren. You are in my thoughts and prayers ❤️
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Old 03-16-2016, 05:23 AM
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I pray that peace will come, I just know it will. I'm happy that you're taking the time to grieve though, and I know without a doubt that you will manage just fine. Take your time, and know that you are loved.
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Old 03-25-2016, 11:06 AM
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Dearest Seren, I just saw this for the first time. I am so SORRY to hear this. I know that you and Mr. Seren have a special, wonderful relationship. I lost my Mother to cancer in 2012 and my Father died as a result of Alcoholism in 2005. I remember the raw pain and total anxiety with my Mother. She was my rock as it related to my life dealing with my oldest son. I am sending you a big hug and praying that you get rest and peace. Losing a loved one is like losing a piece of your own heart.
Hugs and Love,
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Old 03-25-2016, 11:24 AM
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Thinking of you, Seren.
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Old 03-30-2016, 11:49 AM
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((((((Seren)))))) I'm so sorry, words are insignificant compared to all that you are feeling. Many, many hugs & prayers!
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