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Old 02-26-2015, 07:48 AM
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Lost my husband and best friend

Monday my husband of 18 years went in for hernia surgery and had a massive heart attack and died. I am at a total loss and cant even thing straight....I am sad and mad and wondering how I can move on without him. He was my soul mate and best friend. We did everything together....I have no clue how I will survive.....
Need support please.. I am not drinking but it sure has occurred to me...
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Old 02-26-2015, 08:40 AM
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More love to you, Sophie, from your Girl Power friend.

I drank through one of my most significant losses (both leading up to the loss and in its aftermath). I was sober through the other most significant losses.

Working through the loss, in sobriety, is exponentially better. Drinking made the pain greater, and both prolonged and made more difficult the grief process.

We are here for you, Sophie.
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Old 02-26-2015, 10:54 AM
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Sophie , I'm so sorry for your loss.

Please stay close and lean on us.
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Old 02-26-2015, 11:14 AM
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Hugs to you, Sophie.
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Sophie, I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you.
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I am so sad and sorry for your loss. Prayers . . . . .
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Old 02-26-2015, 01:57 PM
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Thanks everyone. I am in total depression but I am NOT drinking....this is a miracle but maybe all the prayers are helping....I am not sure I can cry anymore...
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Old 02-26-2015, 03:11 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss Sophie!!
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Old 02-26-2015, 03:16 PM
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Sophie, I'm so proud of you for not drinking - we've learned it just makes everything even more unmanageable. I'm praying for you to be comforted - so very sorry to hear the news.
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You not drinking is absolutely amazing. Praying so hard for you Sophie.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. Like others have said, drinking will only exacerbate your pain in the long run. Stay close & keep talking. We're here for you.
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Sophie - I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you're not drinking and will keep you in my prayers.

Hugs and prayers,

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I'm so sorry Sophie.

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Old 02-26-2015, 05:08 PM
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His family is here. They made dinner and we are watching tv....I am so sad...
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Sending hugs and love, dear Sophie. You have been on my mind all day.
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I'm very sorry for your loss.
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My heart is breaking for you and there are tears in my eyes. I know only too well that there are no words.

I am still reeling from the loss of my daughter but I have learned a few things. Your grief is too fresh but you may wish to come back to this list when you are ready.
  1. Stay close to those who love you
  2. Let God help you through the days ahead with daily prayer
  3. Get professional help
  4. Take drugs and alcohol off the table as an option. They will only make a horrible situation worse
  5. AA meetings kept me sober
  6. People want to help so let them
  7. A bad day does not last forever but it seems so at the time

You will be in my prayers and remember alcohol is the problem not the solution
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His family is here. They made dinner and we are watching tv....I am so sad...
I'm sorry for your loss, Sophie. Prayers to you and family. I'm so glad you have support there. Please keep reaching out during this difficult time.
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Oh god..you poor darlin...

From the bottom of my heart..most sincere condolences

Lean into us...

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Old 02-27-2015, 03:59 PM
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