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he was only 30: my husband & a father

Old 06-24-2010, 03:34 PM
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he was only 30: my husband & a father

my name is Maggie.. and my husband has been gone now for 8 years...my son was 10ths and I was pregnant with my daughter 17 weeks...life was HELL for 3 years...so cloudy, so many unanswered questions...

now 8 years later...does it get easier...sure...kids are now 9 & 7 BUT he is so missed by me, memories...different seasons...smells...so much...we all have to pull through it...and I did...

I want to thank my higher power for the support I got...and the love of family and friends...

I know LOSS and I know GRIEF...
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Old 06-24-2010, 03:46 PM
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Addiction is sad beyond words really.

I'm sorry for your loss Maggie...but thank you for your message of strength and hope - and for the fact you've come here to share it with us

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Special hugs, Maggie.
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Old 06-25-2010, 07:45 AM
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(((Maggie)))

Lots of hugs and prayers to you, sweetie!

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Old 06-26-2010, 07:55 AM
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I just wanted to say one thing...they make MICHEAL JACKSONS death soooo...? whats the word...important....MY husband was IMPORTANT to me also...just he was a NO BODY...but a somebody in my eyes!

if it sounds negative..I am sorry that is not how I want it to come accross...I want to show everyone that ALL OUR LOVED ONES are important to US!!!
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"I know LOSS and I know GRIEF..."
No one knows what you know until they've walked in your path.

Unfortunately, I am walking in your path with the death of my son this month.
Now I can understand how it will still sting, even in 8 yrs. time.

Many blessings on the way you have gotten to this point.
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Old 08-05-2010, 11:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
Addiction is sad beyond words really.
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HUSBAND was not an alcoholic or an addicted...he died of "undetermined" natural causes
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(((Maggie))) - I, too, thought your husband was an A...I'm sorry. I guess I just assumed, and I'll have to remember what the word "assume" means (make an A$$ out of U and ME).

"Undedetermined natural causes" has to be really difficult. I'm someone who wants to know the darned reason. They couldn't find out what was wrong with my mom's heart, until 3 years before she died and by then it was too late to do anything about it.

You're right..no one is a "nobody". I believe that for everyone that dies, there are so very many broken hearts left behind.

Big hugs and prayers,

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My apologies too Maggie.
Once again I'm sorry for your loss.

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^^^^ tis ok...this was the healthiest relationship I ever had....^^^^^^^ and still looking LOL
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7 you would be 39....

I miss you...
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ok, so my kids see their dad in and out of our home....YES, they see dead people...ALOT...hummmm, no comment, just i learned this the other day...

Bill, i am slowly moving pictures away now....slowly are going back into the photo album or somewhere else on the walls......its time....
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Hi Maggie,

Your children see their father going in and out of the house? That's totally amazing, and I totally believe it. Deceased spirits know that children will be the most receptive to their communications. It is truly a gift.

My son has contacted me too. I saw his face as clear as day last Christmas Eve. It was magical.

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I am sorry for your loss. On Thanksgiving it will be the 4th anniversary of my daughter's birth and death (a stillbirth).
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This is beautiful, I too experienced a loss and yes it gets better as time goes by...
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PEACE my handsome man....

I miss you so much at this time
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today my belove...it would have been our 17th wedding anniversary...and the weather is the same on the day we got married...SNOW!! and lots of it...freezing? but your warmth was there as i said my vows...

I miss you and all the sharing we had....
but for today i am gonna celebrate my love for what we had....and look at my wedding pictures and vidoe.....
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I need a hug too Maggie, so here :ghug3
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its 9 years on the 23rd of March...today, i remember leading up to that moment as i go to sleep and you where once laying beside me...

tomorrow will be a loss that no one will ever experience, on what we had and on what we shared...

you rest my handsome man...i have faith that i shall see you on the day its my turn...i love you with all my heart...coffee?

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