My Dad

Old 04-23-2008, 11:08 AM
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My Dad

it's been 6 and a half months since my dad died. i want to share about him.

my dad was larger than life. he rocked this big 80s glasses and a moustache the whole 23 years i knew him. he loved to cut the grass in the summer, regardless of the heat. he talked to every person he saw - waitresses, bank tellers, grocery store clerks, you name it. i got that from him.

he always wore a feather on a chain around his neck and a silver i.d. bracelet. he had dentures. he had dark brown hair, when he had hair, and brown eyes. he was 5'10". he had a big belly, depsite the fact that he quit drinking decades ago. he wore ridiculous red shorts in the summertime. he always dressed for work - always. he loved ballcaps.

he was a devils fan, a giants fan, and a yankees fan. he loved college football. his favorite was tiki barber (my brother went to UVA). he liked college basketball. he taught me how to play tennis and he taught me how to catch and he taught me how to ice skate. he would get all the other little kids around us involved in whatever game we were playing at the pool. he loved the beach.

he called me "bum", but he did it endearingly. every time i saw him, he'd say "hiya bum!" he told all of us he loved us, yes yes yes. it didn't matter what he was doing, he'd put it down. he loved pizza. he made the best spaghetti sauce in the world. he loved pineapple yogurt, but since my oldest niece did too, he'd let her have first dibs. he hugged you with his whole heart, not just his arms.

he loved neckties and suspenders. he wore slippers. i used to rub his feet when his neuropathy made them numb. he showed me how to do crosswords and he let me help him with his. he loved old movies, especially james dean. his favorite was east of eden, which we watched together.

he loved recovery. he loved recovering alcoholics and addicts. he lived and breathed the treatment center he was the director of - he made that place a success. he was the first person i'd go to with AA questions. he gave me my 90 day chip.

he loved his kids and his grandkids with every fiber of his being. he loved everyone, just about. he loved dogs, he LOVED dogs. he paid for my dog's spay when i couldn't afford it.

he was super left wing. he fought for the little guy. he believed in god. he never ever lost the faith that god's in charge, and that god is good, all the time.

i miss him. but i feel a little better now. i love you, daddy, yes yes yes.
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Old 04-23-2008, 03:19 PM
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Your beautiful, loving, very descriptive (I feel like I know him!) and well written tribute to your dad grabbed my heart. It makes me wish that I could have met him.

Bless you dear heart. Your Dad is with you always...

thank you for sharing him with us...

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Old 04-23-2008, 03:43 PM
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Thanks...I really miss my Dad too..
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Old 04-23-2008, 05:18 PM
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What a touching tribute to your dad and I can hear what a great giving man he was. My dad's been gone a year and a half and even though we didn't always see eye to eye (he could be cantankerous ... smile), I miss him and the days gone by. You will always carry a big piece of your dad in your heart, wherever you go and whatever you do.

Thanks so much for sharing him with us
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Old 04-24-2008, 02:29 AM
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That was a beautiful eulogy for your beloved father, I feel too that I know him. He must be watching over you with such love and pride.
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Old 05-08-2008, 05:25 PM
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thank you. my father died about 2 years ago and i was feeling his abscense today. You helped me.
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Your share inspires me to get to know my own father better while he's still with me.
Thank you, Em.
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Old 05-08-2008, 07:39 PM
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Thank you for your words. You brought back so many fine memories of my own dad.

My father passed away 15 months ago. He was a simple, quiet man. He had such a hard life but he accepted it. His love for his children, his honesty, his courage, his strength, his integrity - this is how I remember him. My dad is still with me - in my heart. When I face my toughest challenges, I feel his courage, his strength. When I am with my own children, I feel his love.

Your dad was a beautiful person. He must be so proud of his girl.
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Thank you, Emimily. That was beautiful. My father died over 20 years ago, but your tribute to you father made me miss mine all over again.
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Old 10-07-2008, 07:37 AM
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One calendar year ago, my father died. It was Oct. 7th of 2007 at 3:10 p.m. How do I make it through today?
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Grab your family and spend time with them...grab that wonderful group of recovery kids that you hang out with and let them love you...


I'll be thinking of you today Em.
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To take for permanent
That which is only transitory
Is like the delusion of a madman."

I do believe that is your signature it!
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Said with love'll get through today.

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Thinking of you, Em. Let yourself grieve - just hang in there.
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Old 10-07-2008, 04:01 PM
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I am so sorry that you are hurting.
I know, I really do.
I lost my Dad on March 19th this year, completely unexpectedly and not a day goes by that I do not cry and hurt. :ghug3
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I know the pain, too. When my mom died, she was my best friend. I told everyone to just bury me next to her because I would not survive without her.

I did, and you will, too. Grief takes time, and, for me, the first year was the hardest because you're going through every holiday, special day for the first time without them.

My mom has now been gone 17 years, and there are times I still cry, and I always, always miss her. But now, I can also remember the good times and special memories.

Don't let anyone tell you it's been enough time and "get over it" because we never "get over it", and we deal with grief in our own time.

Maybe you could check out seeing a grief counselor?

Hang in there, sweetie.

BIG hugs and prayers coming your way!

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What you wrote is a very touching tribute to your father...and to many other fathers as well. I hope you will find some comfort in the many fine memories you shared with him.

Harming yourself is not a solution. If you are still feeling this way, please seek some help for yourself.
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Please use this information if you are feeling poorly.
And call emergency if you need.

There IS help.

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Thinking of you... ******....}}}
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Emim My heart goes out to you-Please share with your friends and family how you are feeling and look to them for comfort....When my father died and my husband I thought it was the end of my world but it was not-because they did not want that for me- I'am sure your father wants you to go on and never forget him in your heart-cherish the memories....allow yourself to grieve but please hold family and friends close to you now- you are in my prayers
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