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Join Date: Jan 2004
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loving too much
My husband is an alcoholic; I'm a control freak.
I'm working through "Women who Love Too Much"(Robin Norwood) and find the stuff at the end about recovering is like filling that empty 50% in me.
Saying no, or just "oh", instead of getting into the games are things I was never allowed as a child. My needs were not always met; my feelings were a source of irritation for other members of my family, or my sister would try to make me laugh at times when I was upset and feeling disregarded. I felt like I was supposed to go along with the general concensus, only that made me feel invisible because that is what everyone wanted; me to just fit in and not matter. No one wanted to know that I felt invisible and powerless in my environment.
That is why I rebelled, because then I got noticed.
I could never understand how I lost my cool in relationships, (lost lots of lovely guys that way, or just never had the guts to let someone see who I was) but was calm when I was single.
Is anyone else working through intimacy fears(ie easier to say my partner is my problem than just my partner)?
I'm working through "Women who Love Too Much"(Robin Norwood) and find the stuff at the end about recovering is like filling that empty 50% in me.
Saying no, or just "oh", instead of getting into the games are things I was never allowed as a child. My needs were not always met; my feelings were a source of irritation for other members of my family, or my sister would try to make me laugh at times when I was upset and feeling disregarded. I felt like I was supposed to go along with the general concensus, only that made me feel invisible because that is what everyone wanted; me to just fit in and not matter. No one wanted to know that I felt invisible and powerless in my environment.
That is why I rebelled, because then I got noticed.
I could never understand how I lost my cool in relationships, (lost lots of lovely guys that way, or just never had the guts to let someone see who I was) but was calm when I was single.
Is anyone else working through intimacy fears(ie easier to say my partner is my problem than just my partner)?
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