Some LGBT people are women.
Many, such as myself, revel in being a man, being attracted to other men, sleeping with men, and have no desire to be feminine.
I think nearly anyone on this board who has gotten sober has faced adversity in some way.
Glad that you've stopped allowing others to control your life. I find it helps when dealing with difficult people in difficult situations to explore and acknowledge my part in it. I worked for an extremely toxic woman who got sober while I knew her, she's probably going on 10 years now. She drove several people out of the group and the company, was a horrible gossip about various team members, badmouthed her employees (or they were perfect), and was in general a horrific b****. As she was my boss, she had a huge amount of control over my life. However, my behavior wasn't 100% honorable either in trying to deal with her. My part in it was largely trying to please someone who clearly had issues that weren't going to be solved, as well as remaining in a situation with a boss and a job that I didn't have the courage to leave, for the sake of both of us and my mental health.