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Redmayne 03-03-2018 02:54 AM

Like to be appreciated?
Given I've faced considerable adversity in my life more often caused by the selfish irresponsible actions and behaviour of others than my drinking, that stopped ten years ago. Whom often fell into that category of people that play at life and don't recognise reality and the adversity that accompanies it until it slams them in the face. I have little time for anyone who hasn't faced adversity and even less respect for them. Otherwise how can you tell how strong they are? Or how do they know their own strengths and weaknesses?

That said I have long been an admirer of members of the LGBT community, especially those who, for whatever reason have a natural desire to express their femininity. Appreciating them for all the hard work and effort they put into their appearance and the adversity they, along with everyone else, on a daily basis.

As Seneca said,'Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.'

Whether or not you're amongst my SR friends or would like to join me in sharing a friendship. Either way, in simply facing adversity on life's terms you are both appreciated and welcome...

MindfulMan 03-04-2018 12:19 PM

Some LGBT people are women.

Many, such as myself, revel in being a man, being attracted to other men, sleeping with men, and have no desire to be feminine.

I think nearly anyone on this board who has gotten sober has faced adversity in some way.

Glad that you've stopped allowing others to control your life. I find it helps when dealing with difficult people in difficult situations to explore and acknowledge my part in it. I worked for an extremely toxic woman who got sober while I knew her, she's probably going on 10 years now. She drove several people out of the group and the company, was a horrible gossip about various team members, badmouthed her employees (or they were perfect), and was in general a horrific b****. As she was my boss, she had a huge amount of control over my life. However, my behavior wasn't 100% honorable either in trying to deal with her. My part in it was largely trying to please someone who clearly had issues that weren't going to be solved, as well as remaining in a situation with a boss and a job that I didn't have the courage to leave, for the sake of both of us and my mental health.

Redmayne 03-04-2018 09:31 PM

One thing..
One thing I have learned is that you can't help people with problems that don't want to be helped...

It's a well known fact in some areas of health professionals that there are those who no matter what you offer or do for them will always self destruct.

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