Originally Posted by Linzey0706
i am having a really hard time letting him go. It felt like he came back in my life for a reason and was doing so well for so long, I guess Iím having a really hard time letting go the fact he woke up one day and doesnít want this again.
Yes, it is hard ending any relationship, that's for sure. Thing is you really need to protect yourself. What's going on here is doing you no good at all.
You are at home worrying about someone who is out drugging/partying, through his own choices. You can really have no effect on that. If you could, he wouldn't be out there.
Chances are he would like to live some kind of normal life, however the draw is too great. Until he is ready to really get sober and get in to recovery, he will just carry on.
The absolute best thing you can do for yourself is start to detach from that and focus back on taking care of yourself.
There is another book that is often recommended - Melody Beattie's Codependent No More. Not saying you are codependent of course but there is good information in that book that might help.
You might also want to check out the Friends and Family of alcoholics forum: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
There are some great stickies at the top of the forum as well, this is a good place to start if you are interested: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)